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  1. Who here has a parent with any of the following personality traits? Pick any which describe a parent and add any other negative traits you wish to use to describe that parent.

    1.)Whiny
    2.)Malcontent
    3.)Narcissistic
    4.)Rageaholic
    5.)Megalomania
    6.)Unwilling to help others no matter how little they are inconvenienced
    7.)OCD
    8.)Anal Retentive
    9.)Impatient
    10.)Unwilling to listen to others
    11.)Tends to speak only in diatribes
    12.)Abusive toward close family
    13.)Abusive toward coworkers
    14.)Can never admit when another knows more than them
    15.)Unrealistic expectations on how long it should take for others to achieve ultimatums set by self but is lenient on self
    16.)Sees all problems as mountains and can't recognize when they are just molehills
    17.)Expects for others to cater to him/her while s/he won't return the favor or when s/he does return the favor does so begrudgingly
    18.)Center of dysfunction and consternation in the family directly or indirectly for example by learned behavior
    19.)Loves to set ultimatums for others just to later hold them against those individuals
    20.)Presents a face to the world(friends, extended family, associates, acquaintances, strangers) radically different from the one they present to their nuclear family
    21.)Uses this facade to gain agreement through others outside of the nuclear family or unfamiliar with the nuclear family about how horrible his/her family is with one sided stories
    22.)Yells, screams, or whines at least once a day
    23.)Uses lies and distorted truths to turn other parent against own children
    24.)Excessively uses unconfirmed opinions of others especially coworkers and friends to bolster his/her own opinion but then in other instances expresses opinions on how these sources are extremely dimwitted and unperceptive
    25.)Manipulative
    26.)Considers people only in terms of how they can serve him/her
    27.)Every day around him/her is like being on an emotional roller coaster
    28.)Is not discreet about gawking at sex one is attracted to makes no difference their age no matter how it will make their spouse feel
    29.)Considers his/her own life and any of its activities no matter how unimportant more significant than the lives of others
    30.)Purposefully schedules things to get out of helping others, being available to help others, or being around close family or spouse for no apparent reason
    31.)Vindictive
    32.)Self-righteous
    33.)Controlling when it comes to people and likes to micromanage others' lives especially close family
    34.)Cheap in regards to everything even when something is inexpensive or is worth more in what benefits it could provide than what one would pay, but yet would spend lavish amounts on particular things with little benefit
    35.)Overly controlling when it comes to food, heat, water, or electricity
    36.)Holds things against others indefinitely
    37.)Uses a constant threat of firings, layoffs, and hard times to create a culture of fear in the family for the purpose of control
    38.)Overly pessimistic about the plans of others though they have already carefully balanced the options, are going with the best course of action, and are realistic about how it may turn out in or against their favor but is unrealistically optimistic if s/he crafted the plan himself
    39.)Uses rough childhood or present circumstances to constantly guilt trip close family

    You have probably guessed by now that this all describes one of my parents. It would be my father.

    Posted 6 years ago # Quote
  2. Almost forgot these two.
    40.)Blames others for entire life and takes no personal responsibility for outcomes
    41.)Would rather blame others for ailments such as sleep deprivation than getting them checked out by a doctor

    Posted 6 years ago # Quote
  3. Fiona, you could've just edited your post. XD
    Anyways.. 'tis a long selection. I'll... post later because I'm still in game.

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  4. Looks like your father is quite the asshole, Fiona. My own has two of these traits, and that's bad enough.

    Posted 6 years ago # Quote
  5. I was probably looking to commiserate with others in similar situations and maybe vent rather than throw a pity party for myself.

    I can only guess he got this way since he was primarily raised by his mother and his mother's mother who were both class acts. Still I don't understand how he became so self-obsessed when he was one of three children supported by a single mother.

    Posted 6 years ago # Quote
  6. not gonna write about all things about my parents.Since some of those words i don't even understand.
    But i also didn't have it that good,when i done a quiz if i had a hard childhood it said it couldn't have been worse and says that i wish it was different.

    But i say fuck it all,i don't care if it's in the past.But i will sadly still have problems in my life even though i don't need to think of the past.

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  7. Fonzer said:
    not gonna write about all things about my parents.Since some of those words i don't even understand.
    But i also didn't have it that good,when i done a quiz if i had a hard childhood it said it couldn't have been worse and says that i wish it was different.

    But i say fuck it all,i don't care if it's in the past.But i will sadly still have problems in my life even though i don't need to think of the past.

    As long as they are alive it isn't in the past unless you moved far away and cut all ties.

    Posted 6 years ago # Quote
  8. Fiona said:

    As long as they are alive it isn't in the past unless you moved far away and cut all ties.

    eh,not only my parents were the trouble for a bad childhood.
    Well father divorced and moved,he and his schizophrenia was the reason.
    We still visit him a lot and there are no troubles now and he is a very loving father.Always was.

    Mother had partners,which were quite troublesome.
    Also she never listens to what i say,being so selfish only beliving in her own things.Lies like no one else,broken promises.Not being supportive to me when it was needed,lack of caring for me.
    I could continue counting things for long,but i don't wanna waste that much time.

    In the end i still don't have it that bad anymore.
    Just i always feelt all the troubelsome shit stopped after i was 19.
    Oh i just worked in an other city away from my parents for almost 2 years,now im back at my mother and sister.
    Kinda have some unexpalinable problems at work that i can think i can pretty much blame my past for it.

    Now only hope the last partner she had and was a prisoner,who murdered someone doesn't come back to us,he went back to prison for doing another crime.
    That is still the only worry i have.

    Posted 6 years ago # Quote
  9. Take this shit to a forum for Children's Rights, not Sankaku. They'd be much more eligible to help you than any of us here.

    Posted 6 years ago # Quote
  10. Take this shit to a forum for Children's Rights, not Sankaku. They'd be much more eligible to help you than any of us here, and you know it.

    Posted 6 years ago # Quote
  11. This isn't a topic on children's rights, Ribbons.

    Posted 6 years ago # Quote
  12. Then it's whining and moaning that the forums doesn't need. You tell this stuff to your close friends, not on an Internet forum. It makes you look like an attention whore.

    Posted 6 years ago # Quote
  13. tl;dr

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  14. btw fiona isn't your father schizophrenic,pretty much sounds so.Others are just how some adults are and schizophrenic people are not more then 70% with their personality 30% mental disease.

    But every close friends has troubles in family
    One has an alcoholic father which was pretty violent
    One had an alcoholic father amd the mother does suicide becouse of it.
    Ones father was actualy his grandfather(daughter,father relationship),where he only found out when the grandfather was already dead.

    Oh well most families have shit going on.
    When my mother is drunk she is shit funny,i once recorded it and we loled so much.

    I still love my mom and dad,sister.And i feel pretty good rather now.

    Well this topic could continue with only things mentioned in points like fiona did.
    I will maybe once write it all in points.

    Posted 6 years ago # Quote
  15. Ribbons said:
    Then it's whining and moaning that the forums doesn't need. You tell this stuff to your close friends, not on an Internet forum. It makes you look like an attention whore.

    I have read the forums and plenty of personal information is shared. People here seem pretty close. I'm guessing you are a troll, an outsider that hasn't quite gotten into the spirit of the forums, or you come from a culture that has an issue with addressing horrible parents. No matter the reason if you don't like a topic you need not reply to or read it. Also it is quite silly for you to accuse this particular thread for attention whoring when there is already a very active thread here where many are twittering their entire day everyday.

    From the posts I have read so far it seems many here don't have any or many close friends outside of those they find on the internet. This would make our forums the perfect means to open up a dialogue for the community to discuss a common issue.

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  16. Fiona said:

    From the posts I have read so far it seems many here don't have any or many close friends outside of those they find on the internet. This would make our forums the perfect means to open up a dialogue for the community to discuss a common issue.

    THIS!

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  17. Fonzer said:
    btw fiona isn't your father schizophrenic,pretty much sounds so.

    No, he isn't schizophrenic.

    Posted 6 years ago # Quote
  18. I'm not trying to be a troll, actually. This is just how I type on the internet.

    But the spirit of this website is one of loneliness, and it shows. The people who visit this site on a regular basis show signs of needing an emotional outlet in real life, because as I've found out through my own tribulations: the internet does not solve my problems. There are some that use it as a means of asking people they barely know, and I see it as an act of cowardice of not being able to tell people in real life. While the internet is good for letting off some stress, it should not be your primary place to rant and rave.

    I've had my share of troubles with my father as well, but I don't feel the need to post it on a website where everyone can see. That shows signs of neediness that's not healthy in the least. I want to tell my problems to people who can help stop them, not to those who are powerless on their side of the monitor.

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  19. My Mother and my other relatives don't even have a personality.
    They're worthless, always depressed scum.
    Just like Tomoyas father.

    Posted 6 years ago # Quote
  20. well, blaming your parents is one easy way out but a negative one to dump all your frustration. without them you will not even be around here to post stuffs and etc.

    if you're thinking you're better not being born, just slit your wrist and be done with it. If not try to be better than the shit around you. That's my motto, be the best and fuck the rest. you have a better way of life and higher standards of living and get to trample the shit around you.

    it's much more satisfying anyway.

    Posted 6 years ago # Quote

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