Japan’s younger generations increasingly fail to see the point of marriage at all, with a survey of 37,000 revealing some 40% feel the institution “has no merit.”
A survey of 37,610 Japanese asking the question “Do you agree with the sentiment that ‘I don’t understand the merits of marriage’?” found some distinctly negative attitudes to the merits of marriage in abundance.
Of the total, 33.5% agreed that the merits of wedlock were hard to fathom, still leaving a respectable majority of 66.5% of the opinion the institution has some merit.
However, broken down by age, the younger generations were drastically less likely to see the point of marriage, and the most enthusiastic support seems to come from geriatrics:
・Teens: 38.0％
・Twenties: 39.1％
・Thirties: 40.5％
・Forties: 35.9％
・Fifties: 27.2％
・Sixties: 19.7％
・Seventies: 14.3％
・Eighties: 15.3％
Leaving aside the question of whether they experience much choice in the matter anyway, the online masses are generally of the “meritless” persuasion:
“If you’ve no money the demerits obviously outweigh the merits.”
“Spending your life with someone you love seems a pretty big merit?”
“Nobody doesn’t understand the merits I think. It’s just that weighed against the demerits it is pretty lacking for them.”
“People who weigh the pros and cons like that probably should not get married. Unless they are OK with becoming someone’s exclusive ATM, anyway.”
“Nobody who weighs it up is going to get married. It takes transient extremes of passion and emotion.”
“Seeing my old classmates with families does kind of make me want to marry.”
“Being 25 at a class reunion and being surrounded by people with families was psychologically taxing. They were talking about nothing but kids and married life and I had nothing to say.”
“Don’t worry. A few years from now the same lot will be moaning about how much they regret it, how badly they need a divorce, and how horrendous their money troubles are. Let the newly-weds make hay while the sun shines.”
“I’m just left wondering what my kids would have been like if I had got married back then.”
“All the merits are stuff like a household and social standing… which are becoming much less necessary.”
“I got married and honestly shouldn’t have. But kids are good!”
“All the people around me in their forties and fifties are constantly divorcing and adultery is rife amongst them. Other than as a contractual basis for raising children I don’t see the point.
“I’m left wondering how many of these hard-working fathers are spending decades raising another man’s seed…”
“The merits and demerits really tend to change depending on what’s going on in your life.”
“For women the merit of being able to economically parasitise a man is very clear, but for men there really isn’t much merit.”
“There are no merits to a man any longer. You really have to try hard to make it look good.”
“I basically see marriage as agreeing to be host to a leech which will drain your essence completely. If only my sow of a wife would disappear somehow…”
“No merit. But in your late thirties it can be painful with the way people look at you.”
“Really? Just point out how free you are to pursue your goals in life without marriage tying you down.”
“You’ll need a 3LDK residence near a station, and even in the countryside you can expect to blow half your paycheck just on that. Impossible.”
“Take a look at the wages on offer at the job centre. Nobody could raise a family on those. Instead of just blaming young people the government might want to look at those.”
“I just don’t see the point of marriage (with a non-virgin).”
“Come on, marrying the love of your life is a pretty big merit however you look at it!”
“You guys who see only demerits are weaklings! What, you think marriage means you do everything your wife tells you!?”
“Merits! Date someone and if you want to spend more time together marry!”
“What, you think you can be together with someone if you don’t marry?”
“It is nothing but merits for women. I’d like to have seen them separate these results by gender…”
“That’s because the whole point of it is to benefit the woman. It would be mostly demerits to any working woman too.”
“Let’s not forget, the official statistics show 237,000 couples divorced in the last year and they estimate a third of marriages end this way.”
“If a third pull off a divorce, expect another third to want one but be unable to get it for whatever circumstance, leaving perhaps a third in happy marriages? Those are not good odds, I wouldn’t take that bet.”
“You singletons, who’ll look after you when you’re sick or injured? Do you even have girlfriends?”
“A delivery health session once a week is good enough for me. A new type of girl every time!”
“You guys who see only demerits are weaklings! What, you think marriage means you do everything your wife tells you!?”
If you don’t want her to divorce you and take everything you own, yes.
Don’t they mean gold diggers aka women fucking suck?
The Revolution is Now.
The problem with a lot of marriages in Japan is that everyone cheats!!! And even if you’re not cheating, you’re not even allowed to speak to members of the opposite sex if you’re in a relationship because people think you’re cheating. I don’t think there’s much merit in a Japanese marriage when the men sleep with women at their work place/on company trips, and the women sleep with men who are married. It’s seriously messed up.
and my sex drive ended up beeing torn apart and transplanted in form as a shotgun leaking s♥♥t out of its orifice while stuck in my head skull which is cracked open.
i wouldnt call it a sex change.