Japanese people quizzed on the reasons they split up with their ex-boyfriend or girlfriend supply the expected relationship minefield ranking, one unlikely to do much to reassure those currently in such a relationship.
1. You liked someone else
2. They were selfish
3. They cheated on you
4. “For some reason or other”
5. You got tired of their habits
6. You got bored of fighting all the time
7. They were too restrictive of you
8. You no longer had enough time to spend with them
9. Their sense of morals or manners was inadequate
10. It turned into a distance relationship
Narrowly missing out on inclusion were “they spent money wildly” and “they were tight-fisted,” both coming close together, and perhaps in less charitable interpretations being identifiable as the two sides of “they spent too much on things other than me and not enough on me.”
Interestingly, amongst the least cited (though by no means uncited) reasons for dumping an unwanted partner were “their parents objected,” “they wanted to marry,” “they refused to marry,” “you can’t understand their interests” and “they don’t appreciate your interests.” Possibly they all simply encountered one of the other reasons first…
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I wanted to have sex with other people. Where is this?
Probably near the 'parents OBJECTION!'
"1. You liked someone else"
This is understandable but I find it to be bullshit, then how come you are with your current partner? This only shows how miserable someone can be to the other party.
Seriously the only one i could understand was #3, #6 and #10
#1 WTF r where u dating him/her for?
#2 U sure u aren't the one being selfish
#4 TOTALLY STUPD REASON!!
#5 no one is perfect >_>
#7 Dude, just ask for more space
#8 Unless your dieing then make time.. who the FUCK doesn't have time to hangout with girlfriend/boyfriend...
#9 i just don't understand this one..
it's no wonder the birthrate is dropping there.. =(
#9 is somewhat understandable, depending on the situation. Not sharing things like values / morals in a relationship can, at times, be a difficult thing. There may be things one person in the relationship may find harmless, while according to the others values, it is unfaithful and wrong. If that makes sense.
However, it is always possible to try to make compromise of the issue instead of just giving up immediately.
Not just morality speaking, but it'd be insanely annoying to have a partner who can't shut up about religion, their own righteous sense of morality and politics.
are you a girl
"There may be things one person in the relationship may find harmless, while according to the others values, it is unfaithful and wrong."
For example, how a lot of people find checking out others as a sign that the partner is being unfaithful. Not everyone has a problem with it for one reason or another, but for the ones that do it can be a pretty big thing.
I once had an ex like that. Even the moments I wasn't checking out anyone, she still thought I was. In my defense, I never checked out many people anyway. And, I always made sure to let her know she came out on top. But, then again, she was a bit on the insecure side, so that explains a lot of it.
*shrug*
Point is, even something as harmless as looking at others can come between you and your partner if you let it.
this survey is wrong the top reason would be
HORRIBLE SOON TO BE IN-LAWS
you sound kinda... lefted...
So ask too, are you a girl?
In this day and age, with the technology we have to bridge the miles, #10 isn't even a very good reason anymore.
I think you severely underestimate the intimacy of skinship and simply hanging out with one another.. It's much more likely something is going to happen if you're physically with someone. Somethings just goes into motion physiologically. Pheromones or such, I am not too sure. But certainly better than any cellphone/internet relationship as far as immediate intimacy goes.
@ Anon 16:28
Though many may try you can't make love to your monitor.
CHALLENGE ACCEPTED!
@ Rosencroft
Shocking! ;)
i dont know why 10 made your list...if you love them distance should mean nothing.
before you started dating them, you ddid stuff right? if its distance and you cant meet anymore, your still doing the stuff you did before you were dating. but if you break up with them...then..you start doing the stuff you were doing before you were dating...except now your down 1 partner....so that doesnt make any sence to me.
For a lot of people having a boy/girlfriend is additional pressure, or at least responsibility. There is a downside to it. That's fine when you get the upsides too, but long distance relationships do not provide much pleasure.
Also, you're not supposed to show too much interest in someone else when you're officially in a relationship. If you're following the rules, keeping a worthless relationship will make you miss out on opportunities for other relationships. Some people do follow the rules. I think one shouldn't expect much trust when one doesn't.
@anon #2 & #5 leads to 6. and #7 leads to #10. im guessing 9 is how he or she treat others around you, close to 5 and thats an ok reason to breakup with some1. apart from 4, this list is perfectly understandable.
The first reason is indeed the one I really don't understand. I mean I can't consider the possibility to like someone else except the one person I'm dating (that's why I'm dating her in the first place). It's impossible for me to consider other people as potential dates, unless I break up first, and start looking for someone else.
Precisely. However, while I do find it wrong, it is always the better thing to do rather than to stay with a person in a loveless relationship, or worse; cheat on them instead of just leaving.
Kimi no Iru Machi?
Well one way to interpret this is the "fallback" girl/boyfriend. Some people feel they have an unrequited love or was just recently dumped so they look for the next easiest thing to fill that space with someone else. They act like your typical couple, but there was never any real feelings behind their actions.
Well the truth of the matter is that sometimes the feeling just goes away for some people. It's terrible, but believe me it happens. Things seem to be going well and then, yeah, it just happens, usually without the other person even realizing it.
Yeah so true I mean Teens can go all love this and love that but while one is a teenager the body is still looking for it's best "Mate" like it or not, only thing teenage couples for so long is the feeling of guilt from just recently starting a relationship but in truth their bodies are just turning on it's "partner" radar again
That's why a lot of countries only let marriages over 18 cause well any younger and the chances of success and chemistry is just too big of a gamble even if they say the "love each other"
Then again, I could be wring the article doesn't seem to show any sign of what age demographic it was concentrated on X3
But that's exactly where commitment comes in. Of course a loveless relationship is never something anybody wants, but I feel people just give up too easily sometimes. That's not what commitment is. True commitment is a conscious choice that you promised both your lover and yourself that you would always make, for better or for worse.
That's just it. Maybe the other person just gives up on you and doesn't want to try anymore, and then you get left out in the cold while they find someone else.
look at you talking all high and mighty...
when a relationship has been going on for years it can happen that you become more distant and maybe you fall in love with someone else.
what's the alternative to breaking up, cheating on him/her/ with that new person? or are you serisouly suggesting that someone is simply not allowed to fall in love again?
someone has been watching too much anime, relationships don't last forever and ever in real life
Way to get hostile, sir. I never implied anything like that. Of course I don't expect all relationships to last forever; it just doesn't work that way. Actually, I agree with everything you said. I guess I just didn't make myself clear enough in my previous statement. I am just saying it's always possible to try to make it still work, but of course, sometimes it just doesn't. That is when it's probably time to leave.
ok, then i just misunderstood
Why won't they last forever? My grandfather and grandmother married when they were about 20 and they are still together.
Not sure about todays brats tho, maybe they're just too much full of themselves to not try fix things.
Or they're just too brainwashed by media and sites like Sancom to think that it's "cool and edgy" to be cynical about relationships.
It's a moot point though. 99.9% of the basement mouth-breathers here will never be in one.
Dude this is because this world we're living in is filled with traitors.. no i dont sound bitter!
You do; but that does not mean that is is UNTRUE.
ever heard "Give them nothing, but take from them…everything!"
it's a basic rule in life, works for everything..
Greed Is Everywere.
now add 2+2=..
It's the slow fade of love...
I kinda agree. This is more like a elementary excuse.
Every time Artefact, posts a new topic on relationships, my will to getting into one is stripped little by little T________T
Join the ronery side. We have free lolis!
i wonder if there are women that would acccept their bf being into 2D lolis
ok that was stupid, of course there aren't,
but it's not like i can stop liking them
Awww poor Anon!
Here, take a domination loli from Seikon no Qwaser! :3
But true dat, Loliness is awesome, and no person should tell you otherwise!
Actually a friend of my girlfriend is not only into anime, she accepts him liking 2D lolis.......................yeah after remember that I feel forever alone, why is it so hard to find a partner you can relate with T______________T
Maybe I should join the ronery side.........
Not sure it counts, but I know of a girl who's a total fan of Higurashi's lolis and moved on to any loli pictured in non-sexual way. Not only does she approve of her boyfriend to be into them too, she'd punch him if he was to not find them adorable.
> why is it so hard to find a partner you can relate with
They're just as shy, insecure, immature, and in general socially inept, as western otakus are expected to be. That's why you can't find them, they're hiding from the world. Go to conventions. Be active, join a community and help it achieve things. Meet girls here. Unless you're good at it do not try to hit on them immediately, go back to them through community meetings.
Oh, by the way, such girls often have non-otaku girl friends who do not come to anime community meetings. They tend to peer-pressure them into staying in shape and good-looking. Life is unfair to them that way. Such friends will usually hate any male otaku trying to date their female otaku friend, though.
I can hear Artefact saying "Mission Accomplished" after reading your comment. :D
Don't worry, it's not like you had a chance getting one in the first place.
You better hold on tight then. Getting one is the easiest part.
oh god what?
looks like i'm fucked then
No joke, it's true. Once the initial dazzle fades and the flaws start popping up, you're gonna have to work to make things work.
*And* it's likely you won't even want to. Growing to like someone for the difficulties too, takes time and shared experience.
Remember though, if you start out by not working at all on relationships, that will be who you are and you might not change. Also you will be known as such. Lots of guys are like that and score often, but they are appealing in that way. You might want to pounder whether you would be too.
keikaku doori
ZOmygoodness！ jizz in my pants...
Wheres the "They were insane."?
OP girl has it.
Well... It's between the option: "they are something that resembles a human being" and "they are breathing oxygen".
Oh, and "they won't except a harem".
Damn 3D girls!