Top 10 Male Flaws of Late
- Categories: Japan, News
- Date: Feb 11, 2011 09:05 JST
- Tags: Comparison, Dating, Marriage, Rankings, Relationships
Japanese women asked what areas they find their menfolk deficient in lately offer up what may be a depressingly familiar set of complaints.
The ranking:
1. They’re not reliable enough (100%)
2. They aren’t forceful enough (94%)
3. They aren’t assertive when it comes to making advances (71%)
4. They don’t confess their love properly (70%)
5. They aren’t exciting enough (53%)
6. Their spontaneous performances are lacking (42%)
7. They aren’t physically strong enough (42%)
8. They don’t appreciate the principle of “ladies first” (40%)
9. Their romantic performances are lacking (38%)
10. Their communication skills are lacking (37%)
In summary – “Japanese men aren’t manly enough!”
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11,) thyre not rich anough
non non, that already counts as 1) in their minds, not at the bottom XD bwahahah!
Exactly. This is why you don't ask women what they think or ask them to run a relationship.
What they say is for image. What entices them is an entirely different matter.
uh... no... what that can also imply is that they are settling for less.
The prerequisite of even looking at the man in the first place?
xD
I believe that's what they mean by reliable enough.
I have one thing to say to Japanese women. You can't go crazy over bishounens and then have problem your men are unmanly.
Nothing quite like blurring the line between fantasy and reality.
Women are like children: they want all, they want it now and they want it for free.
Thats why I don't take them seriously...
:-)
Japanese men not manly enough... wow what a surprise..>_>
japanese women probably interpret reliable and rich as the same thing
8. They don’t appreciate the principle of “ladies first” (40%)
Wow, are these the same lot who'd complain about sexism? Scary...
Personally I'd do the honor of that principle but not if a girl explicitly told me she EXPECTS a guy to give higher priorities to a girl... but out of principle...sure, why not?
Yeah, these sorts of women piss me off.
Though I know that in some places (I don't know about Japan, but I know it happens where I live) where this shit is browbeaten into kids, and I've actually seen little boys at a day care be forced to let the girls on first, and are taught that girls ALWAYS go first, as a rule. (To make matters worse? The teacher enforcing this crap was a woman. Yeesh.)
If you want to be polite, then fine. But once it becomes a requirement it no longer has the kindness and respect the gesture originally carried, so there's no real point of doing it at all.
Woman =/= special treatment. Sorry, (fellow) ladies.
Don't apologise, you're right.
I mean, what do you express with eg. holding door for someone? As you said, politeness, kindness, respect. I do it for friends, for old people, for my parents etc. But to expect special treatment all the time just because they were born with a certain type of genitalia seems rude to me.
Of course I like when men are courteous a little but I don't want them to do that just because they think they have to.
"you know chivalry is dead because women killed it."
so nobody got the Dave Chappelle reference...?
you know chivalry is dead because women killed it.
Just reading what you said makes me want to cum on the backside of you neck. HARD.
Just reading what you said makes me want to cum on your nape. HARD. ~fix'd
you're right
it sounds like they think men are some kind of clowns whose sole purpose in life is to keep them entertained...
what the fuck
@Jenn
Damn sexists! Right?
im not entirely against it but neither should it be mandatory to do so. Although i myself realize that im sometimes unable to reject a request of a woman (if it was brought up properly and it does not matter if i would consider getting close to her a desirable goal) nothing outrageous but maybe cutting in queue or opening a door (ok i do that as well for men if they are trying to enter the same building short after myself). I consider it good manners but it is not really nice if one expects it of me or does not show proper manners her/himself (rendering the person unqualified of my respect or good will)
Opening a door is an interesting case on being polite, as if you arrive first, and you know someone else is coming, you just keep it open for that person to cross it (and it doesn't matter at all if that person is a man or a woman!).
You just keep it open as a way of acknowledging the existance of that person and you let him/her know that its a fact that matters to you (even if it's just for a second and you are strangers never to be seen again).
you're right.
i was raised by a single mother, and i damn know to respect women, but it also comes to ask for (in those girls up there) can THEY be reliable, as a marriage partner? i mean, i think it's OK to look for equality in a reationships...
1. They’re not reliable enough
For holding thing you buy when shopping
2. They aren’t forceful enough
Same as above
3. They aren’t assertive when it comes to making advances
Money~~Or~~(Fake)Love~~
4. They don’t confess their love properly
That's for themselves, I know
5. They aren’t exciting enough
...............................
6. Their spontaneous performances are lacking
Like ladies first?
7. They aren’t physically strong enough
Same as (1)
8. They don’t appreciate the principle of “ladies first”
Include "Die first","Take a risk first"...?
9. Their romantic performances are lacking
The bad effect of those dramas,novels...
10. Their communication skills are lacking
Then please don't say "your choice" when you already have one
It sounds like they're asking for rape.
For great justice...
Exactly what I was thinking... I now understand the rape fetish in hentai. Japanese men like to think about it cause they are to pathetic to keep bitches in line.
#2,5,6 and 7 fits to your comment.
I use Firefox, why my reply messed up like this = ="
BECAUSE u use firefox. i use EI9 :P
"ladies first"..reminded me some old quote,
"you jump,I jump but ladies first."
Call me old-fashioned but I am always courteous toward women. I grew up on stories of King Arthur, Sir Galahad, and stories of valor and chivalry.
I hold the door for ladies, offer help with carrying things, hold the hands of old ladies when they go down a flight of stairs, etc.
I think it's a common feature of any gentleman and do it as a reflex. It's part of being a MAN. A shame that more people don't do it as a matter of fact.
but that's saying that you're better than them since you're a MAN.
kinda sexist don't you think?
or you just don't see women as equal?
if you don't then what you said is pretty much right.
I'm sorry that some women take my courtesy as a statement of sexism. Most of my co-workers are women, and my boss is a woman.
I treat them with respect, and that means being a gentleman. I feel horrible if I don't.
If I thought I were better than them, I wouldn't give such courtesy.
My belief is that there are inherent responsibilities for each sex, not that one is better than the other. Being a gentleman is one of the traits of a true man to me.
Chivalry was created to gloss over the fact that opening the door was the only way she was allowed through, she had no rights until the man gave it to her. If anything chivalry is sexist.
Chivalry is not anymore "fit" in this modern age. Yet for some reason some women still expects men to do it. Yet at the same women time makes men feel bad for being sexist... make up your damn minds...
Well, as a man I KNOW I am better than any woman, & because of that I won't waste all of my time or my money on them ;)
i second that thought ever heard of "we are all born equal?"
How about this... hold the door for anyone who is right behind you.
Then that is giving everyone a basic level of respect. The terms "respect is earned" is a bit false. There are levels of respect. You can't give someone complete respect you don't know - but it doesn't mean a person should be an ass, until respect is earned.
But you have to understand that things are different in Japan. Right now it's commonplace for a woman to walk onto a train with kids in tow, with arms full of bags, and hell she could have a broken arm... but a man still wouldn't bother to give up his seat for her. It's not so much as just ladies first as women are considered inferior and never (even in a dating situation) given these courtesies. To a man in the US this would just be unthinkable regardless of his thoughts about chivalry, but in Japan even women they are fond of aren't worth the trouble. I remember watching a TV program that aimed to see if Japanese men would help a woman in trouble and most of them ran like little bitches.
Actually, you must keep in mind that that too is in part... in most part, the fault of Japanese women in many cases as well. In many cases, men who step up to assist apparently run quite a bit of risk for being accused of doing something immoral or trying something. So apparently all that's left for the discerning Japanese male, whose honor is at stake, and said honor is his ability to function in society, it's sadly become that most men would rather risk being a coward than a criminal. And unfortunately, that's a wise thought process considering their culture.
I'd bet that it's not even that women are being considered inferior by the younger generations. They're turning themselves into human traps of will. Many of them sadly are openly confessing their money-grubbing nature in public domain polls, and while guys can't logically deny the validity that money leads to stability... they/we can't honestly sit there and respect such, for lack of a better term, shallowness. It's a self-fulfilling spiraling downward. In the end, men realize the only way to 'win' is to basically let them bask in their foolish fantasies with nothing to show for it, while men make up their own, and thus birthed the 2D revolution where guys jerk off to characters and keep their money for their own fun. Both sides are complicit in this downfall of course, but both also have to start making concessions in their egotistical perceptions or nothing will happen.
Thankfully things haven't gotten that bad here in the States just yet... I think we dodged that bullet a couple decades ago.
Maybe that's because they're not sniveling white males who worship the ground women walk on even as they cheat on them with another guy. Only white people idolize women like some delicate creatures who are greater than anyone else. I can't think of any other race that does this.
The "ladies first" concept comes entirely from the west. If a Japanese girl is annoyed that a guy doesn't subscribe to it, it's best just to slap her in the face and walk away. She's lost forever to her own arrogant pomposity.
actually history has to be considered as well... japanese had no thing as courtesy to women, it was just not usual, or more like the other way round... woman opens door, woman brings tea, woman lays futon...women used to work real hard, it was their formal duty to look over all house, and even administrate money. i remember it was in a novel that this guy from the west was in japan and well, tried being polite but the women got angry with him...
It is true, but keep in mind the difference in culture. She got angry at him because it was also her job and duty. Duty means something completely different to us in the west in regards to it's something we tend to be forced into doing, while there is the mindset that exists that if you are forced to do something, you do it to the best of your ability. You make it your own. Once you make it your own, you gain power over it. Women back then had more power and recognition than is usually shown due to their presence as a stabilizing force in the mens' lives. The issue was that showing emotion was also showing weakness, most especially for men. It's not just as simple as women being considered lesser beings, that can technically be said across the board in multiple cultures across the world, but it's also not the full truth.
What's happening nowadays is that balance is swinging the other way, and unfortunately, that will not work. The balance of equality needs to be stabilized otherwise on a long enough time line, men will stop pretending that what's happening now is 'equality' and regain the spirit they were basically told they needed to give up.
I've always admired older Japanese women for their traditional behavior. I would instantly be smitten with a girl who opened doors and carried things for me.
I thought men and women a equal to each other nowadays. Somehow, women are in a higher rank than men?
"2. They aren’t forceful enough"
Back to the kitchen then?
lol'ed
Someone wants more rape.
but totally
why not? it's where they belong.
get my sandwich, you unemployed bitch!
so true i tell my bitch to do that all the time
Some love, given in the form of copious amount of bitch slaps will correct the complain about laking of "communication skills" ;)
I think you misunderstood their use of 'forceful'. It doesn't mean 'abusive'.
you shouldn't talk about your mom like that...
I think by "forceful" they mean "the don't tell the asshole waiter at the Olive Garden to hurry up and bring my Seafood Alfredo".
I thought that "forceful" means to push her into bed -> rape.
Sean Connery's reaction would be: "tell it yourself, you bloody woman".