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Top 10 Signs a Guy is Trying to Get Inside Your Pantsu

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Japanese women asked what they think the biggest hints that a man is nursing an ulterior motive in his advances yield up an instructive ranking…

The ranking, which in the interests of dating science actually extends to 20:

1. He keeps touching you up!

2. He pretends not to notice it’s nearly past the time for the last train home

3. He asks to use your bathroom when he sees you home

4. He asks you to cook a meal

5. He asks to spend time together with you on your birthday or on Christmas

6. He keeps saying he’s lonely

7. He asks you not to let on to anyone that you are meeting with him

8. He arranges to meet you late at night

9. He keeps praising your looks

10. He invites you to go on a drive by the coast

11. He is put out if you say “let’s all go together with everyone!”

12. He is strangely kind

13. He says he’ll see you home in a taxi

14. He keeps suggesting you drink more booze

15. He offers to pay for something

16. When you go somewhere to dine he is sure to pick a dark booth

17. When shopping he buys something after you call it “cute”

18. He keeps talking about romantic topics

19. He plans the day out completely

20. He picks Friday to meet up on

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  • Anonymous says:

    At the guy below:
    I’ve long since given up even reomtely trying to understand what women think (or feel for that matter).

    The most likely interpretation is “Men in general want to get into a girls pants” with some exceptions…

  • The only safe way is…
    – not buying them anything
    – not making passes at them
    – not giving off the hint of being a “healthy male” at all.
    Thus, the only safe way is to behave as a “herbivorous man”.

    So much for them lamenting about “herbivorous males”.
    MAKE UP YOUR MINDS ALREADY, FOR FUCK’S SAKE!

    Oh well, at least they don’t want your money either.

  • 12.He is strangely kind
    Ok guys, lets start being cruel bastards. We obviously want to screw them when we offer them something. So time to go with name-calling and beating.
    “YO BIATCH!”–*punch*.

    15. He offers to pay for something
    Ok, I’m good with this. Well, since I don’t wanna make myself appear to be a sex starved predator,I’m not gonna pay for that meal, that taxi fare or that movie ticket. (We don’t want them to get the wrong idea!)

  • wait…so a guy can’t enjoy spending time with a girl, can’t use the bathroom at her house, can’t get her something that she finds cute, can’t say that she’s cute, wanna spend the holidays with her, or take care of her without wanting sex? WTF?

    I’m generally considered a “nice guy” when it comes to women and i do all that stuff; without wanting to sleep with them. the girls i have slept with i didn’t do any sweet or nice things for. it was just sex.

    This list is pretty much BS. Some stuff is a sign that a guy is trying to sleep with you but other stuff is part of just being a gentleman.

  • I suspect this is some kind of a Chinese trick designed to completely extinguish the japanese as a race.

    It also somehow ties with the “island” debacle. Not sure how yet but I will let you know once I have my tin covered propellor hat on.

    Over and out.

  • So basically any living function performed near a japanese woman is a reason for her to believe he wants to boink her?

    I am not saying the list is wrong but still…

    Amusing but highly mindless.

  • A guy does any of the above, and then suddenly these women don’t get the dickings they expected him to do much to a goddamned disappointment. I’d like to see their reactions when that happens. :3

  • Bakamoichigei says:

    Man, ladyfolk sure are suspicious of us… Well, I guess I can’t blame them. Afterall, LOTS of guys are just jerkoffs and douchebags.

    But still, at least a few of these things fall under just being a nice guy or just plain old being chivalrous. And chivalry, pretty much by definition, means your motives and intentions are more honorable and gentlemanly than that.

    I’m not saying guys don’t want to get laid, hell yes we do, but sex is not the sole motivation for our every positive interaction with females.

    My default behavior is to be nice to women and do nice things for them if I can. (Unless they give me a reason not to. I’m no saint.) It’s the way I’m wired. I’m not even a terribly nice person in general.

    I do however have to question whether the poll makes a distinction between a guy just trying to score, and a guy trying to establish a meaningful intimate relationship. Because that seems unclear.

    • Well, these are Japanese women.

      Chivalry and Bushido are different idealogies, after all.

      I tend to be polite and respectful of women because of my upbringing. Women in America thought it was charming, but never thought I had any feelings of affection toward them.

      However, in Japan, I did the same thing and two women thought I was falling in love with them AT THE SAME TIME! Needless to say there was much comedy as I was sandwiched between two irate women.

  • Whenever I hook up with a girl, what I do first is touch their thighs, gently, smoothly, and least expected. Usually preferred on a good conversion. If their thighs don’t twitch, you have a good chance.

    Avoid facial expression that you are looking for sex. Pretend to be an innocent funny guy. LOL

    Case close.

    • Bakamoichigei says:

      Hell, it almost seems to be cautioning women not to have sex with guys who are nice to them.

      Which, honestly, they don’t seem to have much trouble with as it is. Ever notice how many perfectly nice women are with complete assholes?

  • K, this is honestly the hardes i’ve ever luaghed in my life!!!…..Guys its time to just go hide in a corner, were all screwed at this point it seems. Say hi to girl ure age = Perverted sex driven monster….say hi to yaung child or help them up after thay trip on the sidwalk = notorius perverted pedo……remind me never to go to japan……id be in jail coming off the plane at this rate >.>……..guy that hide in acorner for fear of japanese society = gay in girls eyes, still screwed, just shoot me plz and ty, have a nice…err nvmd to risky to say that now.

  • Zanosuke_Kurosaki says:

    7. He asks you not to let on to anyone that you are meeting with him

    Uh, no. That one’s a sign that for whatever reason, he’s not got the balls to be okay being known as “the guy GirlX is dating.” Which can generally mean “cheating!” or “thinks he’s too good for you”. Either way, #7 should really be a dealbreaker, no matter the gender.

  • These japanese women are retarded…half of if no all these things could be just that he loves the bitch. Besides what relationship doesn’t have sex in it to begin with?

    The booze comment is generally for one night stands and you had to give that impression to the dumbass for him to think that would work.

    Number seven is very obvious what is going on. That dumb bitch is talking to a psycho who plans to do more than fuck her.

  • To be honest? The only ones I can even think of agreeing with are these:

    1. Keeps touching you up!
    (Always a surefire sign of overactive hormones. Unless you’re cold or something and forgot to bring a jacket. And this only applies if the girl isn’t too comfortable for touching him up back.)

    2. Pretends not to notice that it’s almost past the time for the last train home.
    (This has a sort of variable meaning, I think. If he’s actively trying for you not to go home, this is bad. But if he wasn’t actively trying, and just lost track of time, that’s another. For the sake of argument, we’re going for the first option–that he’s doing it on purpose.)

    7. He asks you not to let on to anyone that you’re meeting with him.
    (…because then, how would people suspect him when the police find your body floating in the river? B|)

    14. He suggests that you drink more booze.

    16. When you go somewhere to dine he is sure to pick a dark booth.

    …But even then, these five aren’t so much “Just wanting to get into your pants” things. These are the sorts of things that my mother told me were warning signs as a kid, but for creepy people, stalkers, and rapists.

    The rest? What the hell, this is just normal dating behavior. A lot of it is really nice dating behavior.

    What in the world are these women ON?!

  • “He is put out if you say “let’s all go together with everyone!”

    for some reason this is so obvious, the next day only the of you went to the place(everyon got sick or became busy)

    what’s wrong being nice nowadays? do you have to be a douche just to be recognizable?

  • I don’t really agree with any of them…. the all could go either way lol… xD you know why this list is like this. most women date douchebags 🙂 they don’t date the men that will treat them right or care about them for them not for their nice bodies

    *sigh* douchebags ruinin it for the rest of us. <_< douchebags should just flat out say I want to get in yo pantsu

    • We do and it works…. except I put it more like this. I’m 25 not looking to settle-down at all, I’m arrogant and selfish so date me at your own risk. I swear to (insert what you believe in here) that I warn all females before I pursue them about this and they still act like I shot their dog when I get bored with them and dump them.

  • Guy – . . . *putting his hand inside her pantsu*

    Girl – What the hell are you doi-

    Guy – Don’t worry… It’s according to keikaku. And Keikaku means plan… btw.

    Just a lol/nonsense/funny version of it.

  • Most of these can be signs of that, yes.
    This may also be what some of the signs are for:

    4. He asks you to cook a meal
    – He is hungry.

    7. He asks you not to let on to anyone that you are meeting with him
    – He already has three girlfriends.

    10. He invites you to go on a drive by the coast
    – He is Japanese.

  • Fellas a female already knows if she is going to have sex with you 2 seconds into the date. You can tell this by how she looks at you. If she looks at you deeply with a smile your in. If she looks distracted then cut the date short. Live to fight another day. This saves alot of time and money.

  • 1. He keeps touching you up!
    define touching? holding had, or grabbing ass and 1st base?
    2. He pretends not to notice it’s nearly past the time for the last train home
    how do you know he just want having that good of a time? did your female ass realize it was getting late and warn him? fuck no, why should he?
    3. He asks to use your bathroom when he sees you home
    o yay, i have to piss, or shit, is always a great way to make her driping wet, you cant to better than this.
    4. He asks you to cook a meal
    ok, bitch go into the kitchen and make me a samich will never get you laid, why is this so high, and what retard thinks they will get laid this way.
    5. He asks to spend time together with you on your birthday or on Christmas
    YOUR BIRTHDAY not his, he wants to be with YOU, on those special days, if it was his birthday, than yea he wants to fuck, but on yours, he wants to be with YOU.
    6. He keeps saying he’s lonely
    again i see nothing wrong with this, aside from its fucking pathetic
    7. He asks you not to let on to anyone that you are meeting with him
    doesnt like your friends, or they may want to interrupt or spy, i see nothing wrong with this one
    8. He arranges to meet you late at night
    how late we talking, sun going down late, or its midnight and a borderline booty call?
    9. He keeps praising your looks
    “you look like shit, the fuck you do to yourself? you got a funhouse mirror in there or something” isnt going to win you points
    10. He invites you to go on a drive by the coast
    this is sean by many as a romantic gesture, but this is also an i want to get laid gesture, and should be far higher than just 10
    11. He is put out if you say “let’s all go together with everyone!”
    he wants to be alone with you, planed out a date with just you, and you want to bring friends, or other cupples which would ruin the me and you time?
    12. He is strangely kind
    instead of prickish? the fuck they want, me who is strangely meh about anything outside my interest?
    13. He says he’ll see you home in a taxi
    well considering many japanese dont have cars, drive, or make enough for that lugersry, why not take a taxi home? better than buss or train
    14. He keeps suggesting you drink more booze
    ok why is this one so low on the list?
    15. He offers to pay for something
    dont they tell you to fuck the fuck off if you dont?
    16. When you go somewhere to dine he is sure to pick a dark booth
    again candle lit with low anbiant light is romantic
    17. When shopping he buys something after you call it “cute”
    like a guy will willinly go out with an ugly girl or put that much effort into a slutty one
    18. He keeps talking about romantic topics
    god forbid a date be romantic
    19. He plans the day out completely
    who the fuck wouldnt, wouldnt they get pissed if you had no fucking clue what you were going to do on the date?
    20. He picks Friday to meet up on
    friday, the end of a 5 day work week, the furst fucking day he gets to relax

  • Okay lemme evaluate Japanese women’s opinion on big signs on ulterior motives. All you Japanese women who can read English check this out.

    1. Okay this is understandable. If I were a woman I’d be on my guard too.

    2. This is a sign only if the guy is calm an collected. If the guy seems desperate about something, maybe its not an ulterior motive but something is bothering him. Pressure the guy and talk it over with him.

    3. Wait! what? This actually happens? So does this mean if he’s outside your home or already inside it? There is a big difference.

    4. That’s about the dumbest shit I’ve heard. If you believe the guy doesn’t normally ask you to cook a meal doesn’t that mean that you believe you cook like crap and he hates your food and would never ask you? You’re insulting yourself there. This is absurd. I don’t know about Japanese men, but most men in the world don’t think this way. It’s more like the man is just lazy and doesn’t wnat to cook himself.

    5. If it’s with family I don’t see a problem. If its alone sure I guess there’s an ulterior motive. But do you Japanese women really hate romantic moods on holidays that much?

    6. Right. That’s a give away. But only if you know the guy. If the guy has a problem such as depression I don’t think you have right to immediately suspect the guy. If he doesn’t have some type of stress or mental issue or the like then go ahead and accuse him. Otherwise use your brain before you judge someone.

    7. This is a technique used by teenagers. Yes its a sign of ulterior motive and also of embarrassment. Question him closely first. If he can’t give you an answer you were right.

    8. If he’s free during the day. Yes ulterior motive. If he can only get off work late at night, then no it’s probably in the maybe but not likely category.

    9. Depends on the guy. not always a sign of ulterior motives.

    10. This is such an old-fashioned idea. Who does this anymore for good intentions. Yes be cautious.

    11. Yes I agree. This is a sign of ulterior motives. If you promised to be alone with him and then changed your mind. You are in the wrong, not your man.

    12. Yes it’s probably a sign. There are people who struggle with socializing. It depends on your partner. But this is a sign for ulterior motives.

    13. Yes this is an ulterior motive.

    14. Oh most definitely. The man is a scum if he suggests this. It’s so obvious.

    15. I don’t agree with Japanese women here. This isn’t normally a sign for ulterior motives. A man would be happy to pay for (but not all the time) if it makes them more appealing to you. But Japanese mean fear you. Japanese women did this to themselves. Guys are afraid of you because of the impression Japanese women only care about money and not love. So of course they’d not want to spend money.

    16. Yes possibly. If a waiter or waitress picks the booth for you then don’t blame him for it.

    17. What? No! What are you thinking? There is no ulterior motive here! He did it to please you.

    18. Time, place and mood. Well This is one his harder to judge. If you want romance then romantic topics are not so bad…right?

    19. If the guy sucks at dates yeah he probably has an ulterior motive. If he does plan the day out completely all the time he is doing it for YOU not for himself.

    20. No. I disagree with Japanese women. The weekends are the days most often free within the week. Paranoia?

  • as a male of the species:
    1) if the guy finds u attractive enough to ask u out on a date, he already has had multiple fantasies of having sex with you.
    2) dates are courtship rituals, all courtship rituals have only two possible endings: a)sex b)rejection.

  • list is broken….

    3. He asks to use your bathroom when he sees you home

    A: He need to blow it up

    4. He asks you to cook a meal

    A: nigga be hungry

    5. He asks to spend time together with you on your birthday or on Christmas

    A: WHAT!!??

    6. He keeps saying he’s lonely

    A: Maybe he be emo?

    9. He keeps praising your looks

    A: Cuz women are so selfconscious about their looks

    10. He invites you to go on a drive by the coast

    A: Cuz we are personal drivers it seems

    11. He is put out if you say “let’s all go together with everyone!”

    A: we wanna have group fun nothing wrong with it

    12. He is strangely kind

    A: rather have an abusive ass?

    15. He offers to pay for something

    A:We are atm after all >_>

    17. When shopping he buys something after you call it “cute”

    A: we want you to be cute….

    20.He picks Friday to meet up on

    A: umm end of the week duh

  • 1. He’s male

    2. He’s straight

    3. He’s single

    4. He says “Hello”

    5. He’s not sterile

    6. He’s between the ages of, let’s say, 12-65

    7. He has no testosterone deficiency

    8. He has normal reproductive organs

    9. He takes no suppressing medications

    10. He has no vows of abstinence

    Careful girls, if these pass he would probably enjoy booty! What kind of sick guy enjoys booty…

  • Well duh. All men like women if they’re straight. And the ultimate goal of our miserable lives is to procreate to carry on our genes. Our strongest urge is sex. It’s natural.

    That doesn’t mean the guy can’t be nice, loving, and supporting of his mate. Sex is just as important as drinking, eating, or sleeping. It’s a biological urge and one needed for healthy lifestyle.

    Thanks to western puritan culture, we are seeing a breakdown. Women are brainwashed into thinking all men are evil bastards only after sex and they shouldn’t give it to them. Men have to work incredibly hard for sex these days, and it’s counter productive.

    • Well, it’s not necessarily brainwashing–okay, yeah. For the most part, it kind of is.

      I’ll admit it, I was raised with that old religious belief of abstinence. Hell, I still believe it to a degree, though less for religious reasons and more that I don’t want to end up pregnant before my boyfriend or myself are ready for the consequences, safe sex or not…

      But I dunno. I can’t really defend giving your romantic partner sex easily–mostly for safety reasons. STDs are fairly easy to come by, and even with safe sex, you still have to be careful. And in case the woman DOES get pregnant, you have to take those precautions, too, and make sure you’re ready for the consequences.

      But if you’re ready, you know it’s safe, and things aren’t going to bite you in the ass if something DOES happen that you don’t expect? Have sex. Go nuts. Do what your sex organs are supposed to do.

      But I’m still confused as of how it’s counter-productive to make men work for it a little? Isn’t masturbating just as healthy, and a good alternative?

      • Thanks for the reply. I certainly agree with you to an extent and the issues you bring up. STDs and pregnancies are consequences that must be thought about.

        There’s a lot of lonely virgins here. I personally am a lonely fag that has been through a lot of relationships and have never gotten laid. You can make fun of me all you want, but now that I’m 30, I find myself physically and emotionally scarred with sex. Doing research suggests that those that have sex at a younger age have more self esteem and healthier lifestyles.

        There seems to be a ratio of men to women that is out of balance these days, not only in Japan, but worldwide, at least in the nerd/nice guy category. There will always be female and man whores that will fuck anything that moves. The people that want commitment or love seem to be the one’s losing out the most.

        Physically, masturbation is healthy, yes, but mentally, I at least, want something of substance. Love, touch, etc.

        You have a good head on your shoulders, and if your boyfriend is okay with that, there’s nothing wrong with choosing to be abstinent.

        • People are cruel. C’est la vie. Most of them were nice women that had emotional baggage due to abusive relationships, some were insane, others were just assholes. Nothing you can do but keep trying. At this rate though… it’s taken a toll.

          Your boyfriend wants to jump your bones. I too have dealt with the back and forth of whether I really should or not. It’s paranoia in its own right. I don’t think you have to be too worried. Condoms are effective. The pill is effective. Just use them properly, and only go for it if you trust each other and love one another. On the other hand people can lie and be unfaithful. I’m going to go crazy in a corner over there. Excuse me.

        • There’s a lot of lonely virgins here. I personally am a lonely fag that has been through a lot of relationships and have never gotten laid. You can make fun of me all you want, but now that I’m 30, I find myself physically and emotionally scarred with sex. Doing research suggests that those that have sex at a younger age have more self esteem and healthier lifestyles.

          Why would I make fun of you? It’d be stupid to make fun of someone over something like that–and those who do are absolute pricks B|

          Though I’m curious, and please don’t take this the wrong way: Were the people in your relationships particularly cruel about it? Like, cockteasingy, or promise it but just don’t deliver for bullshit reasons?

          There seems to be a ratio of men to women that is out of balance these days, not only in Japan, but worldwide, at least in the nerd/nice guy category. There will always be female and man whores that will fuck anything that moves. The people that want commitment or love seem to be the one’s losing out the most.

          I will DEFINITELY agree here. Because of the amount of man/woman-whores, some people get jaded, and that can affect things. Parents will tell and have told their female children that men are only in it for the sex, they will leave you high and dry and pregnant, and will do some evil thing to you because they don’t respect you or whatever. In the case of men, I’ve heard horror stories of mothers telling them that girls just want them to get them pregnant so they can steal their money.

          …TL;DR aside, this ratio has got people paranoid, and while instead of teaching their kids damned good sense, they throw paranoia and scare tactics down their throats, which doesn’t help in the long run with those who want a healthy romantic and sexual relationship.

          Physically, masturbation is healthy, yes, but mentally, I at least, want something of substance. Love, touch, etc.

          Ahhh, that makes sense. And it’s completely understandable. I’ve always been told that sex isn’t as good if there isn’t love/SOMETHING involved, and I do genuinely hope you find that substance.

          You have a good head on your shoulders, and if your boyfriend is okay with that, there’s nothing wrong with choosing to be abstinent.

          Thank you! I should say the same about you, anon~

          And yeah, this was something we both agreed on. When we’re both ready, we’ll take that step. But until then, going through University and getting our lives in order as a sort of safety net is the matter of the day @_@ (Though I can’t say I’m not tempted! :P)

    • Well, I think it depends on the guy, and the girl involved.

      For me, if it’s a dude who absolutely hated me before, and now acts super-nice when he originally wanted me to go and die in my own feces, I’m going to start to wonder what the hell happened.

      Otherwise, I don’t really think it’s an issue. Maybe it’s because most of my friends are male, and we’re all really nice to each other, but just a guy being nice isn’t a warning sign of being a rapist.

      Now if the guy is overly nice and then has talk of you leaving your current boyfriend and eloping with him to some random country or something, then you might have to worry.

      But otherwise? Nah.

    • Well, from my experience, if you want to mess with a girl’s head, be very kind. 😀
      I mean, it’s normal to be nice to other people but when you’re like… remembering her birthday, what she likes, caring about her a lot, then she can get confused easily.
      At least with me it works that way. Not that I meant it in wrong way, I just start to think whether the guy likes me or he’s just being nice. But I definitelly don’t assume that he wants to rape me right away or something.

  • Really? Are Japanese women even interested in men? Its like they’re jaded or something. Men can’t be men over there. Not only can’t a man be a gentlemanly nice guy, but he can’t even get a little attention.

    Do you not understand testosterone? Over time you should reciprocate. Its not like we were meant to fornicate or anything.

  • Time to conclude the list…

    16. When you go somewhere to dine he is sure to pick a dark booth
    This is called setting the mood, if you don’t like it then just say something when it comes up, most likely it will change his decision to do this on the spot if possible at all…

    17. When shopping he buys something after you call it “cute”
    He is trying to further his friendship with you using materialized possessions & face it, most people need that stuff along the way to indicate just how much someone loves them, in short, just consider it kindness & stop caring about pointless shit will ya…

    18. He keeps talking about romantic topics
    It’s a stupid way of doing so but it is simply just to further set the mood & in this case, him trying to get into your pantsu shouldn’t be taken as a bad thing unless you are not currently dating him & are just friends or complete strangers at the time where it is almost always a bad thing…

    19. He plans the day out completely
    If you want him to do this or be a man that does then STFU & let him do it then…or or if you want to plan everything then simply say so at this point, guys aren’t just predators anymore you know…

    20. He picks Friday to meet up on
    This is so irrelevant to this situation I don’t even know how to…

    This is just further proof that some women/girls think stuff too far through, sad really…

  • Wait what? Almost all of these are mandatory for a good date. I would hate to see the women to took this survey have a date in America. Tons of cuddling, late at night, on the beach looking at stars with home cooked food.

    We think fun times
    They would probably think rape time.

  • Time to continue the list again…

    11. He is put out if you say “let’s all go together with everyone!”
    I’m assuming this says = if you say “let’s all go together with everyone!”, then he is turned off or loses interest in the activity…& if this does mean so or not depends on the supposed “Everyone” you want to bring along though I have to say, no date should consist of more then just you & him & if so then you are just being a bit douche as it is not as easy to set the mood even when simply on a double date…

    12. He is strangely kind
    He is fucking suppose to do this though if you aren’t even really friends yet, then this might mean that he wants to tap that but I know that I don’t do this for that reason as I have high standards…

    13. He says he’ll see you home in a taxi
    Fine, let him…the damn Taxi Driver is right fucking there, not much is going to happen while in the taxi at least so you should be more worried about after you get to your destination what he has planned…

    14. He keeps suggesting you drink more booze
    This is more a sign of you not being interesting enough but also a sign that he wants to prepare you for landing, BOOM…but seriously, this is the most logical sign on the list…

    15. He offers to pay for something
    WTFH is wrong with the women who picked this answer…it’s a stupid answer as him offering to pay for something is only a sign of affection & nothing more, nothing less…

  • And now the people of Japan, espically the women, have the worst case of paranoia any country has ever had because someone is walking up to them every 5 minutes with a different hat and a different shirt to ask them strange questions about their lives.

    “Oh that man wants to get in my pants”, she says “as he made a sniff sniff noise as he walked past, I KNOW IT.”

    “I know he wants in my pants because he brought me flowers!”

    “I know he wants in my pants because he called me today at lunch!”

    “I know he wants in my pants because he gave me 50 dollars to go buy a new cat box and cat litter for my 350 cats..”

    paranoia indeed.

  • Well that’s true but, as for me, i treat a girl kindly and there are some things that i do in the list, but i dont have any ill intentions or naything like getting nito girl pantsu and blah blah blah, im just being nice to girls, but it depends on the guy if he’s nice or if he just want to have sex…

  • I’m confused… Don’t Japanese women WANT men to pay for stuff? (#15)

    Also, if a guy is nice to you/compliments you/want to spend one-on-one time with you, then he just wants to get laid? Well…at least he’s not being an asshole about it… Or do women just want someone who’s going to be a total asshole from the start? (I’m a woman, but I don’t understand other women at all.)

        • @Rena – Yeah, that does make sense. I guess I had interpreted it more negatively, as in, “If a guy does this then he’s only interested in getting in your pants”. If I think of it in terms of two people who are already in a romantic relationship and they’re at that point where they might want to take things further, then it makes more sense and doesn’t seem so negative. Thanks for sharing your perspective! :3

        • Actually, I don’t think so. Maybe I understood it wrongly but those things in the list are pure signs of affection. A guy does it, or some of it, when he likes you, right? And if he likes you enough he might want sex aswell eventually in the future. What am I talking about? He will! I mean if you date and stuff, it’s only natural after some time.
          The points in the list are just what Jap. women think guys do when they want to sleep with them. It doesn’t seem to me that they think it’s wrong or something.
          But of course, assuming that a guy wants to sleep with me whenever he compliments me or behaves nicely to me or whatever is stupid. They shouldn’t see some hidden motives behind everything a guy do. Some guys are just nice, that’s all.

  • Time to continue the list…

    6. He keeps saying he’s lonely
    This is most likely a sign but only depending on the situation as it can be very creepy most of the time…

    7. He asks you not to let on to anyone that you are meeting with him
    Some people don’t like people knowing about something that is not even established yet & some people get embarrassed when people keep blabbering to him about his supposed girlfriend, etc. like giving him stupid pointers & trying to get all into the mix, etc…

    8. He arranges to meet you late at night
    This is a good sign of him trying to get into your pantsu but i know that most of the fun stuff to do in regards to a date or adult friends hanging out are mostly night only activities & you also aren’t in such a crowd so the mood is more easily set I would think…

    9. He keeps praising your looks
    This is absolutely not a sign that he wants to get into your pantsu, it is either a sign that he admires you or a sign of a kiss ass of a man…

    10. He invites you to go on a drive by the coast
    This is a out dated tactic for trying to get into a girl’s pantsu, shouldn’t even be a option I would think…

  • If you want to ruin a relationship, do & I mean do show them both this list, that’ll be fun…[/sarcasm]

    1. He keeps touching you up!
    Depends on [b]when[/b] he does this…

    2. He pretends not to notice it’s nearly past the time for the last train home
    & you would let it go this far!?…Also, sometimes they actually do not notice such things I mean they are supposed to be focused on you ya know…

    3. He asks to use your bathroom when he sees you home
    If you are both in or sometimes at her home I don’t get WTFing problem is but if not, maybe, just maybe as that is kind of creepy I will admit…

    4. He asks you to cook a meal
    He is taking an interest in you, step up to the damn challenge already, it can turn romantic in a good way you know…

    5. He asks to spend time together with you on your birthday or on Christmas
    Hey! At least he wants to do this at all, & as friends do this, I don’t see what the problem is 90% of the time so this isn’t exactly a popular sign he is trying to get inside your pantsu…

  • 21. He follows you to the dressing room to see you change into that dress you want so fucking bad. ^^

    22. He pretends to trip on something and fall down either “accidently” look up your shirt or feel dat azz.

    23. He squeezes dat ass.

    24. He asks you what color your pantsu are.

  • Hmm pity most Japanese men seem to either be the sankaku type, and only wanting 2d, or just plain unrealistic in their expectations.

    Not that the ladies in Japan are great examples of clued in. Most seem to think a guy is ok with it being all about the girls wants.

    Although in defense of guys, we don’t always want just sex, it’s just that most guys do actually expect sex to be on the list.

  • Half of these things sound more like signs that a guy is going to murder you, especially 7, 8 and 10.

    And I’m intrigued by

    >He asks to use your bathroom when he sees you home

    Does this mean that it’s fairly common behaviour for Japanese men to go to the houses/flats/rooms of women they know, knock on the door and ask to use their bathroom? The fuck?

    I can see some situations where a person might do that, but it seems bizarre even by the standards of this list.

  • Most of those seems like natural thing to do when the couple is dating or getting close. And if you do that, it’s to be expected that he’ll want to get “inside your pantsu” sooner or later. There’s nothing wrong with it.

  • Speaking as a male who has a female friend and is just a genuinely nice guy with no ulterior motives, I will say that I do:

    3. Every now and then I need to go to the washroom. Doesn’t everyone?

    4. That’s only my suggestion 1/2 the time, the other 1/2 it’s her who asks if she can cook something. People need to eat. Is this wrong?

    5. We always spend time together on Christmas and Birthdays. Isn’t that called friendship? Should I avoid her on special days because we aren’t the same gender?

    8. We both work weird shifts and have classes during the days, so we often meet each other late at night. Besides it doesn’t need to be night for people to do those sorts of things either.

    9. I don’t do this one often but if she’s looking particularly nice one day of course I’m going to give her a compliment.

    12. I’ve been told I’m too nice but that doesn’t seem like a negative thing to me. It’s how I was raised. I like to help people.

    15. That goes with me liking to help people. My income is almost 100% disposable and I’ve been working for a long time so I have some money stored up, whereas I know that my friend is struggling to keep up to her expenses. If I suggest going somewhere to eat, or going to the movies isn’t it fine for me to pay?

    17. I don’t buy things unnecessarily, but if I’m looking for a birthday or Christmas present then I might get her something that she had her eye on.

    18. I’m a romanticist, but I don’t talk about that too often.

    20. Friday is just another day of the week. This one being on the list is overdoing it a little.

  • 1. There’s something to be said about the direct approach

    2. Because you lose track of time when you’re having fun

    3. Would YOU use a public restroom?

    4. The fastest way to a man’s heart…

    5. Because spending time together on the anniversary of a relative’s death wouldn’t be as romantic

    6. Humans are social creatures, after all

    7. Not every guy likes to blatantly flaunt his romantic exploits

    8. Considering how long women take to get ready, this is reasonable

    9. And here I thought women would like it when others feed their ego

    10. What, would you have preferred the sewage treatment plant?

    11. There’s guy time and then there’s us time

    12. Because apparently kindness from men is such a bizarre and alien concept

    13. At least he’s seeing you home at all

    14. To make you realize how expensive it is

    15. See 12

    16. …There are dark booths?

    17. By calling it cute, you expressed desire to have it

    18. As opposed to lewd sexual topics?

    19. I thought women liked men who took charge

    20. Because Monday to Thursday would’ve been just silly

    Comparing this list with the many others on this site, I’m getting mixed messages here.

  • 15. He offers to pay for something

    wth…isnt that abit contradictory?

    didnt a previous survey say that it was a sign of a good bf was that he paid for everything?

    will never understand jap women.

  • Whoa! I didn’t realise my boyfriend for two years was such an ass!

    To think, he moved in with me and bought me all that cosplay and those figures just to get at my shimapan covered goods! [/sarcasm]

    It’s no bloody wonder marriage rates are so low in Japan, any form of affection is seen to have an ulterior motive.=.=;;

  • But these are all signs that he likes you, and by default, wants to get in your pants at some point in the future.

    I think Japanese women need to learn how to incorporate sex and a relationship together, might help out in solving the 2D>3D crisis.

    • Makes sense?

      So you’re saying being nice to a girl is not ok in everyday life?

      Sure, I’ll go and punch out every female I encounter, just so they don’t mistakingly think I’m trying to get into their pantsu. Thanks for opening my eyes.

  • xD Perfect…. how about a new article Top 10 Signs a Gal is Trying to Get Inside Your Wallet.

    ahh what ever happened to goin out with people cuz they are fun as hell to be with. Who cares if they are butt fuckin ugly. thats what plastic surgery and/or make up is for lol…. those that on a budget a paper bag suffices.

  • “5. He asks to spend time together with you on your birthday or on Christmas”

    On the other hand, if you don’t do this, you are accused of not caring for her, and you have forgotten about her birthday. I would think girls would want guys to care about her birthday.

    “12. He is strangely kind”

    Remember, being an asshole is good for the relationship.

    “15. He offers to pay for something”

    Okay I give up. Often, women expect you to pay. It’s what men are “supposed” to do on a date. It’s like you can’t do anything right. No matter what you do, you are doing it wrong.

  • Nice Boy: Hello. How are you?
    Girl: He’s talking to me. (He must only want my body)

    Asshole: Let’s get drunk at your place!
    Girl: Can’t go wrong with this. Let’s go.

    This is what really happens in real life.

    • (Nice boy opens door for girl)
      Girl(inner thoughts): He must really want me.

      (Asshole rapes and kills girl)
      Girl ghost inner thoughts (inner thoughts): …I guess he wasn’t so awesome after all.

  • A female aquaintance complained to me that a man she had dated for a while kept trying to become physically intimate. She found this suprising and upsetting.

    I gently pointed out to her that the only reason any man would spend time with a neurotic, whiny pain in the ass like her was the fact that she had a vagina they wanted to explore.

    If a man wants a friend to share common interests with and spend time with he will connect with a male. Women are too much trouble to bother with if it weren’t for the fucking.

  • “Trying”? this sounds more like “Intends to”, if a guy is acting like that it pretty much means he is at the end of the line and it’s about to jump, I know because my own self control restrains me from acting like this, even thou I’m trying to get on some of my friends pantsu