Top 10 Things You Hate a Girl Doing on a Date


Japanese asked what kind of behaviour they find intolerable from a woman on a “goukon” (a group blind date normally held at a bar) supply a helpful ranking of dating faux pas.

The ranking (with votes in brackets):

1. Acting like a little girl to seem cute [“burikko”] (8684)

2. Constantly checking her phone (5455)

3. Being a bad drunk (2762)

4. Being bossy (2757)

5. Not going along with the mood (2010)

6. Only talking about herself (1153)

7. Not talking (1093)

8. Not paying (963)

9. Being tight (255)

10. Dressing badly (232)

The corresponding ranking for men.

See also a similar ranking for one-on-one dates.

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    Avatar of VZ
    Comment by VZ
    00:34 01/12/2010 # ! Quality (+1.0)

    How the fuck is no.1 bad? That's what I want girls to act like. Girls in America act too mature if anything.

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    Comment by Night
    00:47 01/12/2010 # ! Quality (+1.0)

    I think you misspelled "bitchy" there.

    Comment by Anonymous
    07:24 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Find: Mature

    Replace: bitchy

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    Comment by Tagg
    03:51 02/06/2011 # ! Neutral (0)

    You're right.
    We miss the Gal types here in the west!

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    Comment by dootsy
    18:29 30/11/2010 # ! Quality (+0.8)

    I thought being tight was a good thing. /kneeslap

    Comment by Anonymous
    21:30 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    LMAO your avatar completely tops off your comment.

    Comment by Anonymous

    Maybe it was supposed to be 'uptight'. I mean FOR GOD'S SAKE, what straight man would NOT want a tight pussy? Unless, they like doing whores with crevices that make any dick akin to a hotdog entering a subway tunnel...

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    Comment by alex251
    17:51 30/11/2010 # ! Good (+0.6)

    as if we need to worry about such things...

    Avatar of Ben
    Comment by Ben
    17:56 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    Hey now, you don't know that for sure...

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    Comment by viewtifu1
    17:46 30/11/2010 # ! Good (+0.5)

    that was certainly unexpected. how can u tell the girl is "acting" cute?

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    Comment by Ushiromiya Reiji
    17:49 30/11/2010 # ! Quality (+1.0)

    >that was certainly unexpected. how can u tell the girl is "acting" cute?

    > Acting like a little girl to seem cute
    Expressions, voice, things she does, how she's dressed, what she talks about, what kind of image is she trying to set for herself.

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    Comment by Yoshii-kun
    18:03 30/11/2010 # ! Quality (+0.8)

    "Expressions, voice, things she does, how she's dressed, what she talks about, what kind of image is she trying to set for herself."

    Sounds like we're back to No.1

    Comment by Anonymous
    21:32 30/11/2010 # ! Good (+0.8)

    "Acting like a little girl to seem cute" if she was trying to act like a loli shes got a backhand coming her way.

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    Comment by TNinja
    00:42 01/12/2010 # ! Good (+0.6)

    I don't really mind girls acting cute.

    And SURELY I don't mind the girl being too "tight" either. Hurr durr.

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    Comment by VVayfarer
    02:58 01/12/2010 # ! Good (+0.6)

    Acting cute and acting like a child in order to be cute aren't one and the same. Why are you guys typing like they were?

    I'm guessing it means 'acting like you're retarded and lack basic vocabulary' here, but I could be wrong. Nothing wrong with dating a kid, but trying to have a serious talk with one might annoy some.


    "6. ONLY talking about herself"

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    Comment by Megidola
    23:27 30/11/2010 # ! Good (+0.4)

    Acting cute was number 1 because all the other women on the date who get jealous voted for it.

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    Comment by TFish
    20:17 30/11/2010 # ! Good (+0.4)

    I think they mean excessively talking about themselves. Like instead of just talking about yourself when I ask you about something or when it's appropriate you just go on and on about what you do.

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    Comment by Schrobby
    19:27 30/11/2010 # ! Good (+0.3)

    Two of those points are weird. A girl talking about herself is bad? I thought such dates exist to get to know new people.

    I see nothing wrong with acting cute either. Quite the contrary. :3

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    Comment by toyNN
    06:50 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    #2 is the worst. #8/9 are a bit ridiculous though it is a blind-date so each paying is reasonable. #5 on the other hand...Not going with the Mood? So you're in the mood for sex and she isn't? Bad girl....

    Comment by Anonymous
    11:11 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    @VVayfarer "Nothing wrong with dating a kid" - Nothing wrong for me too, but just because we're not australian/american/british :D

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    Comment by Darkrockslizer
    21:43 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    "8. Not paying (963)"

    What a bitch eh!!

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    Comment by Heigen
    21:52 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    2. is so rude, it really sends signals that she is bored/not enjoying herself.

    Comment by Anonymous
    05:03 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    It is so easy to tell the people who never go on dates by the questions they ask. Everything on this list is easily understood. The only one that is even sort of ambiguous is the being "tight," but most can easily figure out this means up-tight.

    Comment by Anonymous
    09:51 02/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Acting cute is the art of duck-face.

    That mouth "3" that fails 99% of the time.

    If it does work... cool.

    Comment by Anonymous
    11:56 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Maybe acting cute in the sense of "reversion" as a coping mechanism... perhaps?

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    Comment by nanuchan
    18:39 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Just seem Japanese men don't really know what they want >_>

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    Comment by dreadx6
    18:04 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    > Acting like a little girl to seem cute
    Expressions, voice, things she does, how she's dressed, what she talks about, what kind of image is she trying to set for herself.

    > It can get annoying at times but once it a while i find it cute and tolerable.

    Also "Being tight"? Tight as in down there or tight as is attitude o.o

    Comment by Anonymous
    19:27 30/11/2010 # ! Quality (+1.0)

    weird. for me checking the phone constantly is more annoying then acting overly cute. at least she is showing interest. I FUCKING HATE people checking their phone so much.

    Comment by Anonymous
    22:49 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (+0.4)

    I actually have this problem that when I check my phone for the time, while listening to whoever I'm with, I forget the time and have to check it again.

    Comment by Anonymous
    19:47 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    constantly checking phone = no interest = bye.

    Comment by Anonymous
    18:48 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    or even tight with money...

    Comment by Anonymous
    06:20 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    I think the phone thing is actually becoming part of our "more connected" culture. There's information overload, everyone practically has ADD and wants updates from everything. For all you know she could be tweeting about how awesome her date is/ asking 2ch for advice. Some people also think that by texting/tweeting/facebooking/etc in a group gathering that they're being more social, not less. If she's doing this and you find some excuse to peer over her shoulder and she's playing a crap iphone game then you should probably say "i see," and then find an excuse to leave.

    Comment by Anonymous

    Up tight perhaps
    or like super organized type person

    Comment by Anonymous

    @ 19:47
    constantly checking phone
    maybe cheating on you!!

    @ 19:27
    Agree, two votes from me.

    Comment by Anonymous
    18:47 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Sounds like you wouldn't like Rie Kugimiya, and not because of her man-cheeks and non-existent breasts either, lol.

    Also, there's this seiyuu I know with a regular talking voice as small as one of the roles she played(that little mahou shoujo from Rosario + Vampire). Forgot her name, though I do remember her being capable of a more normal voice like she did with Sora Hasegawa in Aa~ Megami Sama.

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    Comment by shiroki
    20:29 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    Those don't constitute acting anymore now does it, try a wrinkled cougar with at least 10 visible pink ribbons and frills.

    Comment by Anonymous
    02:24 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    well, I could be wrong then.

    But hearing her talk normally in Campanella; I just thought that would be her normal voice rather than the high pitch one.

    But then again, Hiranao Aya...

    Comment by Anonymous
    02:09 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    @Anon 00:57

    Really? Because I remember seeing this 'seiyuu special' for the DVD where they interviewed the entire main cast in a mock-classroom, and I could almost swear to God she spoke in the exact same pitch as Yukari(thanks for reminding me).

    And I see no reason for her to mock her voice up seeing that Mizuki, Kugimiya, Fukuen and Inoue spoke normally(especially refreshing for Mizuki since she sounds too fake when she cutes her voice up). I also remember hearing her speaking in the same high pitch in other interviews.

    Though if you can provide me with a video link of her speaking normally when talking about herself, that would make me believe you more.

    Comment by Anonymous
    00:57 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    You're thinking of the witch Yukari.

    Her voice is pretty normal actually.

    She did Carina in Shukufuku no Campanella.

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    Comment by Eddyak
    00:27 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    "1. Acting like a little girl to seem cute ["burikko"] (8684)"


    Comment by Anonymous
    22:30 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    "A girl talking about herself is bad?"

    Gah ! I once thought talkative girl were easy dates, just relax and let them yap...what a fool i was. Had a date with this girl...she talked for 2 hours NON-STOP ! I could only insert 3 lines in all that time ! So yeah, quiet girls are the best !

    Comment by Anonymous
    23:33 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    talking ONLY about herself. :)

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    Comment by Kyon
    17:50 30/11/2010 # ! Quality (+0.8)

    Act like a little retard child is not like acting like a cute girl.

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    Comment by Ushiromiya Reiji
    17:53 30/11/2010 # ! Good (+0.4)


    I never said acting like a little girl to seem cute = being retarded.
    I pointed out the things by which you can understand she's trying hard to do so.

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    Comment by PikachuEXE
    20:08 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    I think the point is the girl
    acts like a little girl (on behavior)
    and INTENDS to make herself seems cute
    but NOT neccessary being REALLY cute

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    Comment by kyosak
    18:47 30/11/2010 # ! Good (+0.6)

    It's pretty fucking obvious when they are faking it if you ask me.

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    Comment by Shippoyasha
    17:55 30/11/2010 # ! Good (+0.4)

    I guess if you feel insulted that she is acting that way or she is patronizing you in some way, I suppose that is crossing the line.

    I suppose there's a tasteful way to act cute if the girl does the act with the boyfriend in on the act. It'd be insulting if she was roleplaying and making a mockery of a date.

    For me, constantly checking a phone is a dangerous sign. So is being a drunk or addicted on something. Those are just bad human traits, period.

    Comment by Anonymous
    19:11 30/11/2010 # ! Good (+0.6)

    I think one can just tell when someone is pretend-cute or born to act cute. Those things are body languages that are difficult to explain in an Internet argument.

    Constantly checking phone means that you're just not that interesting for her to pay much attention, so it's a bad sign alright.

    Being drunk? Depending on your motives for going on a date, there is an opportunity to be had. *grin*

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    Comment by yaku
    19:33 30/11/2010 # ! Good (+0.4)

    If you're around enough Asian girls who hang around guys their age, you catch up pretty quickly the way they act cutesy (instead of just being cute by nature), high-pitching their voices, acting shy and calling the guy cutes names or onii-chan. They don't necessarily do it trying to hook up; they also do it so people have a better image of them.

    I've been around enough to assure you very soon you want to strangle these two-faced girls (unless you're a naive guy or a guy who likes that kind of thing).

    Comment by Anonymous
    22:52 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (+0.4)

    Weelll, onii-chan is still way better than oji-san...

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    Comment by Shunrei
    22:54 11/06/2011 # ! Neutral (0)

    damn agree

    Comment by Anonymous
    05:04 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (+0.4)

    Who the hell calls someone "Onii-chan" on a date anyway?

    Comment by Anonymous
    05:12 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (+0.4)

    I'd freak out if a woman did that to me -- giving the rest of the public the impression you were dating your little sister, anyway?

    If I DID have a little sister and WAS dating her, I certainly wouldn't be telling people about it.

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    Comment by yaku
    11:32 24/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    You guys fail to realize in Japan nii-chan (or nii-san) aren't used strictly for only blood-relations; they can also be used by strangers calling out on someone (for example thugs calling a girl over by using "nee-chan") or affectionately by younger people to older acquaintances.

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    Comment by 404mage
    02:24 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    It cant be accounted for all women, but there are some that try to act very cute that just... arent meant to be cute. They can be sexy, bombshell sexy, yes, but not cute.

    Comment by Anonymous
    08:11 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Yes especially when they're suppose to be (grown) women not little girls unless your into that type of thing. @@

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    Comment by Renzo
    15:56 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Acting cute = 'Actually not cute but behaves ( and worse pretends/disguises) like one'
    It's better to become true self though :)

    Comment by Anonymous
    14:46 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Also, in Japanese, little girls often call themselves by name instead of using I (so instead of "Atashi wa barusamikku-suu ga suki desu" they might say "Sakura wa barusamikku-suu ga suki desu", where the girl's name is Sakura). Older girls (usually late teens and early twenties) sometimes do this to seem "cute" or "childish". For me, it sets my teeth on edge to hear an older Japanese girl talking about herself in third person. Kawaisugimasu yo.

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    Comment by Candy
    19:55 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Being a bad drunk always works for me.

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    Comment by onitake
    20:34 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    i really wonder what they mean with "bad drunk" here.

    Comment by Anonymous
    08:02 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    I think what "bad drunk" means is that she is bitchy and insulting, or perhaps acting slutty around other guys. (which many girls sadly does)

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    Comment by King Tiger
    20:24 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    1. Acting like a little girl to seem cute (depends)

    7. Not talking

    8. Not paying

    10. Dressing badly (depends)

    ^i can tolerate these just fine^

    everything else: i cannot

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    Comment by Yama-jii
    22:14 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    @viewtifu1 I think it means that they try to be cute even though they are not. Or it could have meant they are trying too hard to be cute and instead of cute, you get a retarded childish behavior, like what Kyon said.

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    Comment by Benoist
    22:06 30/11/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    i guess it's "over-/poorly acting cute" that annoys people. there a difference between naïveté and stupidity (theory of "rainman vs simple jack"), and stupidity is NOT sexy by my book.

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