“Only a Confession From a Man Will Do, And Flowers Too!”
- Categories: Japan, News
- Date: Nov 8, 2010 18:25 JST
- Tags: Dating, Marketing, Marriage, Money, Relationships, Statistics
80% of Japanese women agree that is only proper that the man confess his undying love to them and not them to he, whilst a near majority expected an accompanying token of his affection in the form of flowers or something shiny and precious.
The survey itself covered single employed Japanese women aged 21-34.
When asked “Do you want the man to make a confession of love to you? Or would you like to confess to him?” an overwhelming 77% of these women wanted the man to confess to them and only 2% would want to confess themselves.
Possibly this insistence on being asked out is the reason only 33% of women questioned reported being asked out in the last year.
When asked out, there appear to be a few aces prospective suitors can play – women asked “When he confesses his love to you, is there anything a man can give you which will make you unthinkingly answer ‘yes’?” gave a number of suggestions; 46% said a bouquet of flowers, 43% a ring, 28% “accessories,” 22% a necklace and 16% a watch.
The florist industry’s marketing efforts seem to have done their job; women asked about their preference for flowers gave such responses as “I’d be more concerned if he gave a gift which was too expensive” and “Because it conveys a sentiment mere money can’t express.”
In sum, for Japanese women at least it appears only a flower or ring wielding man asking them out on bended knee is the proper way to start a relationship – little wonder so many are single.
| 
Temptress Wives – “Older Women Are Better!”
“Is It Really Emi!?” – Amateur Selection Guide 07
Zero Time Dilemma Merrily Murderous
Maki Nishikino’s Birthday Widely Welcomed
Caligula Schools Viewers
Sailor Moon Exhibit Brimming With Nostalgia
Svelte Saber Alter Figure
Onizushi Web Anime & Smartphone Game Surfaces
Marshmallow Imouto Succubus Hits The Beach
Bishoujo Mangekyou Fan Translation Emerges
Samurai Rising – Square Enix: You Guessed it!
Mangaka Pay Tribute to Kyushu
Street Fighter V Enlists Guile
Chinese Death Simulator “Hopefully Won’t Explode”
Re:Zero “In The Nick Of Time!”
Muma Astacia Sultry Succubus Ero-Figure
Hundred Sloppy Kissing Anime
Greek Woman “Born Without A Vagina!”
Let It Die Trailer Unforgettably Fierce
Shinjuku Station Reveals “All Yu-Gi-Oh Cards Ever!”
Kashiwazaki Sena Ero-Cosplay An Immense Tease
Goddess of 2ch: “What A Cute Hole!”
Alice Margatroid Ero-Cosplay by Hiyo Nishizuku Full of Cheer
Sheryl Nome Bunny Girl Cosplay by Mike Super Scandalous
Marvelous Madoka Mizugi Cosplay by Mashiro Yuki
Marie Rose Cosplay by Mike Undeniably Sexy
Tasha Tracer Cosplay Truly Tantalizing
Witch Craft Works Cosplay by Kagune Intensely Seductive
Kaine Cosplay by Yuricha Flawless
Kasumigaoka Utaha Cosplay Pretty Pure
That is a pretty high number, but I wouldn't have been surprised if it was 99% at the assumptions people still holds on about marriage.
As if economic conditions aren't harmful enough to the ideal of marrying, having kids and staying economically independent, there's these fairy tale assumptions about marriage still floating around in Japan. No wonder they have a critically low rate of marriage and childbirths.
On addendum, apparently Catherine (PS3/360) will explore this very fear of marriage from mens' perspective into a videogame form. Can't wait!
This reminds me of a tribe of brainless weirdos in WoW, which dwelled in Sholazar Basin and valued "shiny treasures" above everything else..
"only 33% of women questioned reported being asked out in the last year."
Land of the man-virgins...
I for one, would rather become a virgin than a cash cow.
"77% of these women wanted the man to confess to them and only 2% would want to confess themselves."
"46% said a bouquet of flowers, 43% a ring, 28% “accessories,” 22% a necklace and 16% a watch"
Seems most of the japanese women think it's not worth the hassle unless the man proves he can finance them an easy life.
I'd offer them a shiny needle to pop their childish fairy princess dreams and welcome them to reality.
And you know what else is sad? Majority of those woman would likely be better/happier if it were them to make the 1st move. Instead of ending up in their late 30's and single.
Bah, even if a woman with such a character would make the 1st move herself - who'd want (being in sound mind and memory) to marry her to spend the rest of his life trying to re-educate her, helping her to correct her character, which is full of parasitic ideals?
@ the last couple comments -
Men shouldn't make moves on the girls they like?
Girl dreaming of a boy giving her flowers means she wants all your money? Seriously!?
You guys need to get out of your attics.
I haven't had to confess undying love and i have had a few japanese women. Try being nice, and see what happens.
yeah, rather stay single than get my money milked out every day like some cow....
@boozed
Being nice doesn't get you sex. If you want that, being an alpha male does the trick.
To be more cynical: you don't need to be an alpha, or nice, or kind, the only questions is - if you are rich enough? xD
hey anon what do you think i meant by had?
Boozedimpulsegundam did you pay for the Japanese women
Being nice secures you a place in the friend corner. Women tend to go for bad guys, then they complain about being treated like shit.
Kinda schizophrenic, I'll never understand that.
*w*o*w*
I am amazed by all those votes down I got for pointing out the natural rules of human affection.
1) Like sure, if a girl goes "hey don't buy me this cheap crap bring me there there buy me that diamond for $$$$" that means she's in it for your cash.
But, flowers? Seriously, there isn't a single girl who wouldn't like such a simple form of showing affection. If you're cheap you can always pick em up at a park or a graveyard and it'll be okay unless you tell it. :D
2) I agree that there are women into marriage just for the money. But there's also such things as living together with person you love without marriage bonds, or making a marriage agreement which does not force you to share any financial bonds, thus you keep your own cash at divorce.
Personally, I think the latter type of contract is the best way to make sure if the person you love wants you or your property.
3) Surely there are old societal traditions but most of women are INSTINCTIVELY inclined to be the passive gender and anticipate step forward from the man.
I mean, look at animals. How often you see doggies with wee-wees out chasing their love affections and how often you see the contrary?
NICE guys finish last, are they even in the picture to begin with. Damn got to start becoming more of a badass
no Anon but your mom pays me
Is it lunch money :)
hahahaha good one diamonddust! But i want to see what "alpha male" anon has got, I already saw what his mom has
@anon 01:04
define alpha male >_>
the amount of ridiculousness floating around in this thread is staggering.
first of all, they said they'd RATHER be asked out than do the asking, it doesn't mean they REFUSE to ask. of course a woman prefers the man to make the first move, it makes us feel good. but i still won't pass up the opportunity to ask out a guy i really like.
and are you guys really complaining about being told what will get you an AUTOMATIC yes? all you have to do is give her some flowers when you confess to get guaranteed agreement and you're seeing this as a bad thing? it's not like these women said they wanted diamond rings or yachts.
and being that boozed says he's "had" a few japanese women, i'm pretty sure that means he got to have sex with her. believe it or not, only immature superficial women go for the bad boys, that's not the type of guy a woman wants to settle down with. but a lot of you self-professed "nice guys" aren't as nice as you like to think you are. maybe take a minute to consider whether you're really being nice in respect to HER feelings and not just as a ploy to get her in bed. start treating women like fellow human beings and you won't have to choose between "virgin" and "ATM," you can have a relationship founded on mutual respect and effort.
@01:23 boozed
That you're no longer with them - assuming you typed the truth.
I know what you're trying to say. My point is this: whatever you have gotten by being nice, you can get more and of higher quality by being an 'alpha male'. Therefore, instead of instructing nerds to be nice, you should first tell them to get some confidence and leadership and whatnot.
Being a 'leader', confident, and making decisions for one's group - assuming authority, that is - are all qualities of an alpha male, and make most acts of 'niceness' counter-productive. If you want to be 'nice' and alpha, you'd have to take into account a shitload of stuff which isn't fun if you're just looking for sex.
02:51
Yeah, being a nice guy will net you a 30 to 99-year old that 'appreciates' your kindness. If that's what you want, go for it. I'm referring to sex and not serious relationships.
But think about it for awhile. Why do the hottest women date jerks? Because the jerks ARE the best they can get, that's why. They don't choose the 'nice guys' because those guys aren't attractive to them.
Think also about this: What kind of types are women more likely to cheat with? That's right. The bad boys.
This isn't to say nice guys can't get hot girls - this is to say nice guys shouldn't EXPECT such luck, unlike the so-called jerks. Seriously, saying it's better to be a nice guy is a damn fine way for nice guys to escape reality - but when they wake up, they'll feel like shit.
No, it means jerks will get along with jerks (bad guys with two-timing bitches). If you're a nice guy and are such to your girl and she cheats on you, she's a jerk who doesn't deserve you.
Now if there are some issues between the two of you, then maybe some communication was in order; but still that's no excuse for cheating either.
wasn`t it about the confession/beginning of a relation ?
how come you jump so fast to cheating ?
Wow, took you long enough. Oh how your witty repartee has cut me to the quick. Oh wait, no it hasn't. Actually i am still with one of them. But i still make time for your mom because she pays well.
oh and fyi even though there is only 1 woman in my life i maintain good friendships with all of the women i have been with
First things first, I need to go out and meet some women, for one.
"...most of women are INSTINCTIVELY inclined to be the passive gender and anticipate step forward from the man."
I wouldn't say it's instinctive, but it is certainly a 'characteristic' of Japanese women, due in no small part to the insistence of their society into uplifting men as 'stronger', 'protector', 'provider', 'strict' and whatnot.
Since men have this status overthere, I think it's only natural they are also expected to man up and be the sexually aggressive gender, or as a Japanese might put it "take responsibility for the status bestowed upon them"
@yaku
Not quite right - cheating is a so-called natural reaction to being unsatisfied with a relationship. When the temptation grows too strong for the girl's relative 'strength', she'll cheat. Some girls don't, of course, but those girls have rare circumstances, for example no real interest in a relationship or sex.
The first and most important thing - why do the hottest girls date 'jerks', and even MARRY them - usually doesn't have anything to do with cheating. The explanation is the nature of the female mind - when it works as it's supposed to, it tends to be attracted towards powerful men and other survival-oriented stuff.
Funny how the girls might (and probably will) cheat on a 'nice' guy, but I hardly ever hear of a girl cheating on a 'bad boy', even if they're in a serious relationship. Why is that? Because jerks are sexy, and nice guys aren't. ... you didn't deny this so I guess that's obvious.
Yes, because not denying it means I agree with it (please notice the sarcasm). What do you mean jerks are sexy but nice guys aren't? just because nice guys get cheated on by bitches that means they aren't sexy? Wow, I'm sorry but that's retarded thinking. I rather you didn't assume crap about which men we women think are hot or not, thank you.
As I said, if you're not satisfied, some communication is in order. Instead of being a retard and cheat on someone, you can either make up or break up and start anew. You're not supposed to cheat. Just like you don't kill someone just because you've got the natural reaction of wanting to do so.
That tribe is either the Murlocs or the furbolgs or whatever.
You're probably talking about the gorlocs/murloc-cousins...
I think he is talking about this quest:
http://www.wowhead.com/quest=12572 or it's daily version
God, WoW is horrible, I'm happy I quit xD
see the irony : bitching about women being single and not getting any hump while being a wow otaku .
@ diamonddust 02:09:
"Nice guys finish last" -- in sex, this is true!
No need to waste time & money...
Having a NDS will be more than enough...
Lets start with Nene route..
Only 2% confess to the guy she loves ? Well... and the interesting things that can be conferred is there are things that more valued than mere money
It really surprised me that the 46% women who prefered flowers actually said they'd be concerned if they receive expensive gifts.
Seems the gold diggers make up about half of the female population. Probably the cuter half.
The poor guys have a 50% chance to fuck up right from the beginning, no matter what they do...
I guess it's a Japanese thing.
In the West, any woman who doesn't know you well would just be happy about it and grab your money instead.
But in Japan, the society is more collectivist and care more about overall well-being in different ways that wouldn't seem as a matter of course to us.
Remember that fat guy wanting to date a maid troll thread? In that case, the girl was also concerned of the customer willing to throw all his belongings away.
(plus, it's hard to make a living in there so a girl would prefer a guy who wouldn't spend his money without thinking - even if he'd give it all to her.)
So men have a 50/50 chance of actually getting either a good relationship or some greedy bitch? No wonder the childbirth rate is so low....those kind of odds are A TRAP!!!!
"In the West, any woman who doesn't know you well would just be happy about it and grab your money instead.
But in Japan, the society is more collectivist and care more about overall well-being in different ways that wouldn't seem as a matter of course to us."
That is fucking bullshit, and you are just bad with women if that is your idea of them.
i guess i got to start paying for sex now
@Yamako
No, the odds are even worse. They have a 50% chance of getting no relationship at all due to too cheap or expensive gifts and only a 25% chance of getting either a good girl or a greedy bitch...
@anon 00:48
I was talking about the "46% women who prefered flowers actually said they'd be concerned if they receive expensive gifts." part Schrobby was surprised about.
That is, about this one particular behavior of Japanese women, not women in general.
Also, I was talking about not only my experience. I, luckily, have avoided such a misfortune as "love", but many haven't. People at that mind state can do next to anything, especially if they lack experience; some repeat their mistakes over and over tho.
Does anyone know if traps tend to demand as much as women? I have the feeling that the answer is no, but I have no means/sources to justify/defend such a fantasy.
@schrobby D: FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU....
Nobody said they actually love the guys confessing to them. Maybe they really just want the a cow to milk. xD
And the 2% are the ones that really are in love (or the guys are extraordinarily good looking or rich xD).
Also its easier to say "No" to guys confessing to them instead of confessing and getting refused themselves.
why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free
Might be just a matter of being lazy. Would like the question asked of men.
"46% said a bouquet of flowers, 43% a ring..."
"“I’d be more concerned if he gave a gift which wa too expensive” and “Because it conveys a sentiment mere money can’t express.”"
- Debuman should read this
if only he had....
46% said a bouquet of flowers, 43% a ring, 28% “accessories,” 22% a necklace and 16% a watch.
Well doing the math on this, it would appear best to bring TWO items.
I bet Debuman brought all of the above.
You're right - it makes sum of over 101%.
Imagine, he's given you flowers, is ugly and barely can mutter comprehensible words, you can't do anything about it but be polite as the cafe etiquette demands;
then one day the freak arrives giving you money and asking to follow him... RIGHT.
he failed with the toothbrush as well
It was too funny that he fell for that. lulz
he'll stick with the Disneyland idea he already bought a bunch of gifts for the girl
Maybe the girl just didn't like Disney!?
Disney is not MOE
Ghibli > disney
He should try inviting her to the Ghibli Museum, then.
Might be too Sunny for her and tell him to drop by the cafe
Too sunny is good, less clothes. :3
You're right about the cafe, of course. It's either too warm, too cold, to rainy, or too something else. Debuman will never score.
That stalker ignored everyones opinions/ advices/ signs/ warnings/ views.
I doubt this would have helped him
maybe not if he could read something like this before he met maid :)
all he would do is give every item on the list WITH the money.. and think that would win her "heart" *facepalm*
this line is important too:
"“I’d be more concerned if he gave a gift which wa too expensive” and “Because it conveys a sentiment mere money can’t express.”"
but unfortunately we will newer know what could happen.
and next time we hear about them for the last time and from the tv news...
Means men gotta read between the lines:
"I'd me more concerned if he (had not) gave a gift which is too expensive"
Then you apply this formula for the following message:
Sentimental = karat
Oooooooooooooooh, shiny~
Works every time...
He listened to the toothbrush idea, so of course he'd listen to this.
Because he's not a stalker and he made the story up to get reactions out of you people.
Lulz.
You think people didn't think of that? For the sake of an 'argument' or post, sometimes you have to take for granted that people understand the obvious.
You forgot the toothbrush thing. Of course he'd listen to advice like this.
The fact that this supposed woman accepted his $50,000 worth of stuff over the years, I'd say it's say to assume that she falls within the latter (the 43%).
Even worse, since the greedy bitch gave him nothing in return aside serving him food in the maid cafe.
he would of had to pay for the food also
Sure, and she got paid for serving.
lol, why do I have a reason he was the inspiration for this survey...