“I’m a Nanpa Master, Any Questions?”

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An interview with a veteran practitioner of the art of “nanpa” (picking up girls for casual sex) shares some of his secrets in a candid interview, reproduced below.

Some background may be helpful – “nanpa” (originally 軟派, now ナンパ) is a term coined a century ago.

In its modern usage it refers to the practice of a man hitting on female strangers in an effort to lure them into an immediate sexual encounter, usually in a public setting. A woman hitting on a man in this fashion is referred to as “gyaku-nanpa” (reverse nanpa), whilst a skilled practitioner might be referred to as a “nanpa master” (nanpa-shi).

There is not a great deal to distinguish “nanpa” from “picking up” in the English usage – and both practices call to mind most probably accurate stereotypes of sleazy young men about town randomly hassling women who look as though they might somehow be coaxed into a one-night stand.

The practitioner granting an interview to 2ch here apparently frequents Ikebukuro – one of the major urban centres in central Tokyo, and well known for its shopping and seedy nightlife.

“I’m picking up girls in Ikebukuro every week, any questions?”

Anyway, here’s what I managed last month:

A tall and flat gyaru student by the station, a student – B+

A chibi half girl by McD’s, dispatch worker – B

A chubby girl by Doma [restaurant], bank employee – C

A manicurist by the western station stairs – A

Lately it’s been raining a bit so I’ve not been so active.

So how do you go about nanpa?

You just go and start talking to a cute girl. However, you have to think of the girl you’re approaching as godly.

Have you had any dangerous experiences? Like an angry boyfriend nearby?

Yes, I have been in those kind of situations.

What happens? Do you run?

If it’s another guy hitting on her I just ignore them. Boyfriends and bouncers – I apologise and dash off.

Out of 100 people, how many do you score with?

I think I approach fewer than other nanpa-shi, so my success rate is perhaps a little high. I get contact details from about 60%, and of those I get to do about 80%. I think I get to do about half of the girls I chat up.

What do you wear?

Usually jeans and a shirt.

You have any special terminology?

Not really. But we do rank them. A+ is top, C- is the lowest.

How long do you give for each mark?

5 minutes to 20 minutes at most.

How do you start your conversation?

Konbanwa. Those clothes/that bag/that hairstyle/that hat is cute isn’t it?

Is it OK to approach the bored looking girls loitering around the bookshop?

Bookshops are pretty hot places. If you start chatting them up in an unexpected place they’ll talk more normally to you. Success rates go up.

Wait, are you hot?

Well… I’m not ugly.

Aren’t you at risk of meeting your friends? Where do you live?

Not at all… the chances of meeting a girl you already hit on are higher.

What sort of impression do you need to make on a girl?

It depends on the girl, but you need to appeal to them based on sincerity. You have to be polite, even if it is just fake.

My looks are above average, but I’m no good at conversation. Nanpa is impossible for me, is it?

Not really, to be honest my conversation is weak too. The important thing is to listen to her once you have broken the ice.

Holidays and weekends are when most of the cute girls are out aren’t they? You take a break on weekdays?

No, it’s not like that. There are cute girls even on weekdays. Girls on their way home from work or university. Holidays often have a lot of girls in groups I think.

I was planning to go somewhere new with a friend for some nanpa action. Do you have any advice?

I go on nanpa trips sometimes too. First, you have to find the place’s hotspot. Next, you need to relax even if it is an unfamiliar place, to make it psychologically easier.

I heard it’s tantamount to suicide practising nanpa around Shinjuku because of all the yakuza around, that true?

I don’t know the details but if you are moderate anywhere should be OK. However, the competition there is harsh.

Don’t you need to start as an apprentice?

Maybe, it is important to be aware of what the obstacles are. When I started out, I was a master’s apprentice [literally “goldfish shit” – meaning a trail of excrement hanging from the anus of a goldfish] too.

Tell me an interesting way to pass the time in Ikebukuro, aside from nanpa.

Watch the pretty girls go by.

I want to hit on a girl working in a clothes shop, but I’m not sure how. How about asking her “I need a present for my girlfriend, how’s this?” to get close and then saying “Actually, I was…”?

That’s great! Your chances of success are higher there too. It might be better to say it is for “a female friend” though.

So what sort of pretext do you use? What happens if she agrees?

It’s case by case. In a shopping area you could praise her clothes and ask her what she’s doing today. If she’ll talk with you, go with her and have a drink together, or just get her contact details and meet her the next day.

Is it best to have a flashy watch and necklace? What accessories are best? Are rings OK?

For nanpa it’s best to dress in a way anyone could accept, simply and not too flashily. I think. If it matches then I suppose anything’s good… the same with rings.

Make us a template of how you do things.

At 8PM I get off work.

I go to Ikebukuro and start looking around.

I start hitting on girls. Usually near the east exit on the approach to Sunshine City.

If I succeed: Go for a drink (to an izakaya if we are in a group, otherwise to a bar) – go to a love hotel or home

If it was just contact details – meet up in the next few days

If I fail, I try to work out the reason why and go home.

Oh, so you can do it with groups of people! It’s not just 1 on 1?

Right – sometimes there’s more than one guy present too.

I’ve never done it, but should you be dressing in the fashion your target girls are likely to like?

Not really – in reality you won’t know what your target’s looking for in terms of male fashion. A gyaru may not always want a gyaru-type guy.

That’s why dressing neutrally to appeal to all is best I think.

How long have you been doing this? If nanpa is all about doing them, you don’t think about girlfriends or whatever?

3 years or so. But it’s not about how long, it’s about how many you’ve approached and how many you’ve done.

Basically it’s about doing them. Of course I don’t want to make them my girlfriend. But even so I often end up making friends with ones I don’t do, and you can meet more girls through them too.

Do you get shot down hard? “What the hell are you thinking, go and take a look in the mirror!”, that sort of thing?

Not really. It’d be a shock but I’d take no notice. On to the next!

I went to Tokyo and gave this a try and the success rate I had was ridiculously high. Maybe it was the Kansaiben.

I get the impression doing it in a fresh area raises your success rate. I tried it in Osaka, and even though I was being made fun of I still got to do them.

Don’t you care about being given a weird nickname from hanging around doing it in the same spot all the time?

No need to take any notice. Who cares. It’s fine!

What age range do you target?

Twenties. But I emphasise personality and style of living more than that.

I have some nanpa experience too.

I made a pass at a foreigner by walking up alongside and touching her up, there was a language barrier but I got to play some catchball. But now I’m in jail regretting it…

Ah, you reminded me with foreigners.

I was with a friend doing some nanpa and there were these 2 hot blonde girls drinking some booze on a bench. Neither of us could speak any English, but they were really hot so we had to make a pass and give it a try. With level 5 English.

We started with “hawaiyuu” [ハワイユー/How are you?]… We actually managed to get through and make conversation. But they kept going on about drugs so we thought they might be trouble and were going to leave when a big macho American soldier type turned up and said something like “Hey Japs!” – we made a run for it.

SCARY. Watch out for those foreigners! I hear you.

Right. But not all foreigners are bad – the transfer students are pretty good! They don’t mind, and can understand a bit of Japanese.

What about if the girls ask you your job and education?

Ah, they do ask that. If you’ve nothing to brag about it might be best to embellish things. They’ll never know.

Do you really emphasise you’re hitting on them when you approach them?

It depends on the girl, but you need to think about things from their position. Most girls don’t want to hear that you’re just hitting on them, so it’s best to not to offend their sense of self respect too much.

How old were you again?

Twenties.

Do you get “reverse nanpa’ed”?

Yes, but it’s basically only uglies who do it. I’ve never been hit on by a cute girl.

Have you hit on girls at driving school?

Of course – it should be included in the fees.

Is there a type you should never approach?

I wouldn’t say never, but ones going somewhere, walking fast and looking at their destination, better not to.

Are there distinct patterns for nanpa?

Yes. From the start there are three approaches:

1. Praising

2. Questioning

3. Inviting

Is it OK to just come out and say “Are you free right now? Want to come for a good time with me?”?

Maybe it’s OK. But it’s best not to stress your lust like that.

Do you ever see girls you think are just too hot to approach? What about ones who are so hot they never get approached and so are in fact really easy?

Actually, I do get the impression the really hot ones can be easy to get. The incredible ones can be really nice too. But there are hardly any of them about!


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    Comment by Anonymous
    02:49 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    This is exactly what my man whore cousin does. He tries the worst that other girls can do is say no. Damn he's only 23 but has had more action than a porn star and he's straight up nerd. IE favorite games are Pokemon, Final Fantasy, Halo, Civilization, etc. And even then over half the girls he slept with are willing to bear his kids.

    Comment by Anonymous
    03:19 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Not everyone can be nanpa. Here is my experience.
    When I was high school 4th year, someones gf started hitting on me. I refused but knew what she wanted. Then some messed up moralfag girl and boys spread false stories of me being a nanpa. 3 years of my high school days were ruined. It's stopped when they graduated and transferred.

    It was traumatic, and I lost all respect. Call me a loser go ahead, It's no problem. My high school years were ruined by the very girls whom we are to love. Advice - be shameless. They can't touch you anymore if you do it with them for real. They'll be quiet. Even the tough guys won't touch a guy whom they know they've ruined good reputation in the past. You will be victorious in the end, as long as you hold on to yourself and transform your beliefs into ones you can live by.

    Comment by Anonymous
    05:38 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Oh gawd, this reminds me of School Days. Wonder how long it takes to these man whores to get stabbed.

    Comment by Anonymous
    05:57 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    This information is relevant....how?

    Comment by Anonymous
    06:40 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Wow, he's picking up lots of girls...

    ...and different kinds of STDs, too!=O

    Comment by Anonymous
    Comment by Anonymous
    04:52 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Why do I like Japanese girls?

    'cause western women and western introduced women suck.

    Comment by Anonymous
    02:12 10/06/2011 # ! Neutral (0)

    Because you're an ugly weeaboo faggot, totally rejected by Western women, and believe the Japs will accept you simply because you haven't tried there yet.

    Comment by Anonymous

    Because you are a weeaboo.

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    Comment by Vaanskylord
    03:26 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Time to start a team of nanpa. C'mon guys lets go get some pussy !!!

    Comment by Anonymous
    03:56 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    seems like a fun way to spend your after-work time.

    Comment by Anonymous
    04:00 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    "You have to be polite, even if it is just fake."

    If only the girls in my city didn't consider polite guys to be "boring"....

    Comment by Anonymous
    23:46 13/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Reality:
    Most Japanese men are too timid to approach women and ask them out. This makes it VERY easy for anyone with enough spine to just talk to a girl. No real skills needed beyond not being a terminal fuck up.

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    Comment by Quack!
    23:24 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    And how is this any different from the rest of the world?

    Comment by Anonymous
    12:49 18/04/2013 # ! Neutral (0)

    Well, there's Japan's utterly shit birth rate. There's also the fact that studies have shown fewer and fewer Japanese males even try to get with women. That's unique to Japan, it's not a world-wide thing. Everybody everywhere else is still hooking up and making babies. The fact of the matter is, so few Japanese men in the 18-25 age group are sexually active that when one decent looking guy approaches a random girl with any hint of confidence, he's got a pretty damn good chance at shacking up with her for the night.

    Comment by Anonymous
    23:04 13/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    I wonder if there are clingy people who go after you after you hit on her

    Comment by Anonymous
    22:52 13/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Can nanpa's be done anywhere?

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    Comment by Quack!
    23:24 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Why would you want to do a nanpa? Personally, I prefer women.

    And yes.

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    Comment by Domo-Kun
    00:26 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    I used to nampa girls in Japan and Korea, but I prefer to go with a wingman. Anyone want to go out for nampa with me in the SF bay area? Maybe South bay, where all the Asian girls are? (I work in Japantown) -message me.

    Comment by Anonymous
    18:21 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    where at in the south bay man ill go

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    Comment by Shirakawa
    01:12 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    I should give this a try again seeing as I don't have much going on these days and I have at least average looks. It just takes time and money and the will to spend it. I'm just not so sure it'd be worth it though, which is where my will stands. Been getting good vibes from girls lately but never played/acted on them, had no strong reason to do so. Plus my issue is reading what pace they take things, I've dated too fast and too slow.

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    Comment by Xerox
    01:17 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    He's a god... My god.

    Thanks a lot for the tutorial.

    Comment by Anonymous
    00:35 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Short version: The guy goes out and talks to girls.

    What do we learn of it? Don't complain about not getting a girl when you're not even trying. The key point is conversation. Oh, and you should realize that the girl will empty your wallet, regardless of your current relationship level. Above anything else, girls will cost you.

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    Comment by Domo-Kun
    03:03 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    If you show girls early that you're not going to spend anything on them, then the ones that are only after your money will leave. The ones who are looking for sex will be more into you without spending any money.

    Comment by Anonymous
    06:06 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    I'd call that a temporary arrangement. Sooner or later she'll start to come up with additional demands. There's is virtually no relationship out there where the guy doesn't have to spend money on his girl. Worst case being that she'd start cheating on you.

    But i guess if it's really just about nanpa, like for sake of it, then you can get away with that.

    Comment by Anonymous
    02:14 10/06/2011 # ! Neutral (0)

    Imagine, having to give and take in a relationship. Makes me sick.

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    Comment by Abel Liegod
    07:09 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    One thing i would never be is a nanpa master
    My monstrous pride would never allow it.

    Comment by Anonymous
    09:06 15/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Guys, being a westerner in Tokyo is like going to the supermarket. I'm french and I've spent two months there (and planning to go back for a full year for a working holiday) and I had sex with almost 15 girls without much effort ! And I consider myself average-looking. Being french seemed to be enough somehow... I just went out, saw I girl I liked, went to her and told her a few things (in japanese), most of the time it started the same way "sorry to bother you, I'm french and I'm here for a while, I don't know many people and I'm trying to make friends to improve my japanese and maybe get to know the city better, do you have time for a drink..." then don't hesitate on the compliments. Actually you have to be very gentle when trying to seduce her but when it comes to sex being rough seems to be very welcome with most japanese girls (at least the ones I've met) so if you're into this you can have much fun. All in all, incredible destination for sexual tourism !

    Comment by Anonymous
    07:30 15/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Im a guy and I prefer to be a target. Ty Barnes&Nobel. Also, waiting does work.

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    Comment by lkjhyrfg
    09:22 15/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    i knew all that shit..¬¬

    Comment by Anonymous
    15:35 01/12/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    I don't see the big point. Sex doesn't really mean anything unless it's with someone you really like or you are incredibly simple minded. I wouldn't differentiate between this kind of behavior and being a "whore" - I'm a man and I could easily do this kind of thing but it doesn't appeal to me at all. Having sex is just like taking any other kind of drug - you can do it as much as you want to get direct stimulation but it won't make you happier nor make your life any better. It's not far from being addicted to pornography or masturbation and surely isn't any more meaningful.

    If you really happen to have an interest in sex it's much better to just have regular sex with your partner - allowing you to make the sex really great and meaningful. If you ask me it would suck having sex with almost complete strangers all the time - and I think you would agree if you have actually have actually tried it before.

    I think a lot of these people - and you who think this is such a 'great' thing - have a weird view on sex. It's not like you hook up with an attractive virgin girl, have great sex and just go on to the next one. If you think so - get back into reality. It's not like in the porn movies kids, grow up.

    Comment by Anonymous
    03:08 06/07/2011 # ! Neutral (0)

    i liked your intro but fail to read the rest

    Comment by Anonymous
    02:16 10/06/2011 # ! Neutral (0)

    Disgusting men whores.

    Comment by Anonymous
    09:14 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Aha, you'll never pick up a girl in NA like that. Here it's the exact opposite. Picking up a girl here involves showing disinterest. Girls should never be put up on a pedestal when making pick-ups. Most girls in NA are used to having guys hit on them, so you have to set yourself above the other guys, and you aren't going to do that by being sincere, but by making them think that you're someone they cant get.

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    Comment by Etherstar
    13:06 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Damn pretty neat and learned some lesson, But I wont use it just to pick up any girls.

    Comment by Anonymous
    08:03 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Why don't you translate "nanpa"? I'm sick of weeaboo trying to use Japanese words for regular stuff. There was little that separates his activities from "picking up chicks" or "hooking up".

    Comment by Anonymous
    09:17 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Yeah, in English the proper term is "pickup artist".

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    Comment by Domo-Kun
    06:42 15/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Nampa is the noun, "Pick-up".
    Not the person who does it.
    Nampa-suru is the verb "to pick up" or "to run pick up"
    Nampa master is a "pick up artist"

    Comment by Anonymous
    13:28 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Pimpin'.

    Maybe it really IS that easy.

    Comment by Anonymous
    18:31 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    This guy will die by Inanna! I will dispose thrash like this shit who stinks up girl's privates.

    Comment by Anonymous
    23:40 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    It's easy to post articles that have no basis. Maybe he's picking up gays or ugly girls.

    No basis whatsoever, just an ego.

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    Comment by Stangace20
    14:56 13/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    LMAO @ hitting on blondes

    Comment by Anonymous
    15:00 13/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    lol... sadly, I think you REALLY need to know your game when doing that in America in order to pull that off. I think the honesty part of the tips goes well for the American "Nanpa." Oh, and I don't think picking up girls for men, and boys for women isn't to be considered "Whore-liked." Everyone needs sex and a warm body regardless of sexual orientation, its part of nature. Whore is a term for people selling their body. Someone who does it for fun and on a select few should be called a PLAYER... lol.

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    Comment by stillcode
    15:37 13/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    "Someone who does it for fun and on a select few should be called a PLAYER..."

    Or a slut in my book. Don't matter if you're a guy or a girl.

    Comment by Anonymous
    22:48 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Last I checked, it does matter. Are you perchance the God of Social Rules? If so, then who am I to argue with you.

    Comment by Anonymous
    12:23 16/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    It's all a matter of how open-minded one can be. Sex is everywhere, specially in today's society. In reality, it only matters if the person doing the "Nanpa" gives a damn or not about what others think... lol. But, I guess if you do use your PLAYER skills in an excessive way, I wouldn't argue with the term "slut."

    Although the word slut still signifies whore... lol.

    Comment by Anonymous
    14:55 13/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    What a gigolo .wwww

    Comment by Anonymous
    14:39 13/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    I'm both impressed and disgusted by this practice. Kudos to the man for getting some tail consistently, but I can't say I approve of this practice. Though I suppose no harm, no foul if these women don't mind spreading their legs for some random stranger for a one night stand. Hope you get VD sir! That's what you would call your just desserts, right?

    Comment by Anonymous
    15:06 13/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Jealous? But I do agree with you. Isn't it funny how a guy can do this and be a total playa, but if a girl does it, she is a total slut. Ahh the stupidity of the world.

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    Comment by stillcode
    15:35 13/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    True, this double stereotype is perpetrated by both men and women.

    Women, in general, are attracted to men who sleep with lots of women. Hence, player/stud is seen in a positive light.

    Men, in general, are not attracted to women who sleep around. Hence, slut/whore is seen in a negative light.

    Comment by Anonymous
    22:45 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    It goes the other way around, too.

    Male virgin = do not want

    Female virgin = moar

    Comment by Anonymous
    16:32 13/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    15:35

    Both genders need a good bitch slap.

    Either way if we ever wanted to change this, you need to fix it at the source, which is school. Barely anyone goes to correct them, and they grow up thinking it's the right thing, it's no surprise really.

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    Comment by thanto_
    16:39 13/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    It's not a double standard, because men and women have different circumstances. For women, it's easy to get laid. For men, it takes some skill and luck. We look up to people like this guy, because he can do something many men cannot. That is something to brag about. Imagine a woman claiming the same thing and bragging about it. How silly would she sound? There is no difficulty for a women in this regard, no skill or luck needed, really.

    Comment by Anonymous
    23:17 13/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    @16:39 She has to have good acting skills, for faking all those 'orgasms'.

    Comment by Anonymous
    02:50 15/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    men brag about it not because it demands effort but because it's appreciated by their peers; have a woman give her best to have a hot guy in her bed and then tell that to other girls and/or guys - she's just get called a slut

    Comment by Anonymous
    09:14 14/09/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    16:39: Unless she is ugly, then difficulty increases 1000-fold.








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