“Most Otaku Want 3D Women, Not 2D”

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An article proclaiming that most otaku settle for 2D only after failing to get 3D has predictably ignited a storm of controversy amongst otaku.

The article as published in business rag Nikkei BP:

The government is trying to reverse the decline in the birth rate to no avail. Because half of all men aged 30-34 are unmarried. In Japanese society, those who are unmarried rarely have children. So, to stop the decline in the birth rate, making marriage easier is necessary.

And the group furthest away from marriage is that of the otaku. I don’t think most otaku are in love with 2D characters. I think if they could, they would go with 3D, that is to say a human woman.

But to court a human woman, a certain amount of technique and experience is required. In particular there are men who become profoundly hurt through dating rejection, or who are possessed of introverted personalities, and who thus have no other option but to flee to 2D for their romantic needs.

And once they have stepped into the world of 2D, it is a very comforting place. 2D characters aren’t fickle, they don’t lie or betray you like real women. Consequently drawing otaku back into the world of 3D is exceedingly difficult.

However, if we cannot do this Japanese society has no future.

He can perhaps be excused for the ridiculous hyperbole at the end – even stretching the definition of otaku to its limits is unlikely to yield more than a few million such souls in Japan; Japan’s marriage and birth rate problems are indisputably mainstream social issues, and otaku are but a fringe element of that.

It should also be noted that similar drastic declines in birth rate are well in evidence in a number of developed and developing nations, so clearly Japan is merely an advanced case of a trend linked to profound social changes the world over – fretting over otaku is unlikely to be addressing anything other than an outlying symptom of these changes.

It is also notable that he is unwilling to incorporate the exceedingly hostile attitude of women to otaku or poor men into his explanation.

Naturally, 2ch has something to say about all this:

Right!

No way!

They just run to 2D because no one’ll have them.

Why is he saying something so obvious so pompously?

Men and women’s expectations of the opposite sex have just become way too high, and they can no longer have children as a result – so they flee to 2D.

Bringing out your pet theories is all very well, but quit mixing it up with a “consensus of opinion.”

Have sex with 3D, live with 2D?

With guts you can date the opposite sex. But marrying and having children takes more. You need money above all else, and not many people have it.

There’s nothing to gain from facing up to an ugly reality.

Stick to economics and stop pretending to understand this stuff.

What’s up with this creepy old guy pretending to be the representative of all otaku?

With artificial ova on the horizon, progress in 2D and ona-holes, who needs women?

It’s not that they compromise with 2D after failing to get 3D. They compromise by going with 3D as they can’t go with 2D.

Of course he’s right. How can you love 2D? You can’t even have a conversation.

Go with the sex trade for 3D. To satisfy the heart go with 2D.

Saying you’ve no interest in 3D is just a defence mechanism. Just an excuse to make yourself seem less wretched.

2D and 3D are both just electrical signals in the brain. Thus there is no essential difference between the two.

I like both 2D and 3D; saying only one or the other is good is just intolerance.

2D 3D
Cost: Purchase + electricity 99% of your wages
Food: Will eat with you Is asleep when you get back from work
Holidays: Always with you Forces you to visit parents
Memory: Can freely save and load Only remembers husband’s weaknesses
Warmth: Depends on monitor “Don’t touch me”
Soothing: Will soothe you Will complain if not soothed
Appearance: Beautiful, no degradation (depends on artist) Depends on makeup, degradation apparent
Virginity?: Depends on preference Essentially not
Land mines: Mental damage only Can take financial and mental damage
Husband’s income: Doesn’t care “That’s the barometer of a man, isn’t it?”
Duration: Depends on preference Until death or divorce

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    Comment by takuya13
    01:19 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    i get wat i can 2d or 3d =3

    Comment by Anonymous
    10:13 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Something that always bothers me about these articles where men decry real women... They never mention the fact that Japan has one of the biggest pay rate gaps in the civilized world. That is to say, women get paid significantly less than men, and have far fewer job opportunities. I'd imagine that's contributed heavily to the female attitude of having to marry a man with a stable job and good pay.

    It doesn't excuse the money-grubbing attitude of many women, but it's still an interesting factor that hasn't really been explored on Sankaku Complex. (To my knowledge. I could be wrong.)

    Comment by Anonymous
    14:32 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    true that but this doesn't mean they earn less actually but the women exit the workforce when they marry in japan... that is dropping the rate to a large degree and one of the reasons why there are fewer women in high positions...

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    Comment by vanchrian
    23:25 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Maybe they need to reinstate polygamy, and return to the old days where a 'family' meant more than blood lineage.

    The rich people could afford it and all those unmarried women who just want to live an easy life can go to them, and only condition is that they mother 2 or 3 babies.

    Comment by Anonymous
    19:11 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Also, women usually work less overtime, less dangerous jobs and many choose to stay home. Get what I'm saying? The "pay-gap" is based on _averages_, and the aforementioned facts are more than enough to explain it.

    Comment by Anonymous
    22:56 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    It doesn't matter. Most Sankaku readers are virgins, many will marry an ugly chick later in life, the rest being virgins aside from the sex trade.

    Comment by Anonymous
    17:41 14/06/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    you are forgetting divorcees and future divorcees

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    Comment by Riiku
    01:30 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Birth rate problem? Ooohhh, just give me the womans, I'll impregnate hundreds and hundreds of them

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    Comment by Yoshii-kun
    01:41 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    And have everyone look like you? God forbid...

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    Comment by LUMINCE
    01:57 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    You're missing the point of the whole problem.

    Essentially, they don't want you, they want something way better than you. Are you beginning to understand?

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    Comment by rikezero
    02:40 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    just a little correction...they don't want something better than you, they want something far far far way better than you. In other words they basically want either:
    A)You to work as a fu@#ing damn dog/slave to get money*just a few trillions/zillions per month*, so they will have the life that they think they deserve and of course they will be able to work as a hobby not as a need.
    Or B)They will dump you and TRY to find someone that can give them what they want(the things aforementioned) or they will betray you*maybe as a form of revenge i think, because in their mind it's your fault that they don't have everything that they want, so it's alright to betray).

    Comment by Anonymous
    02:51 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    So the main problem is that women is insatiable bitches? Why don't you face reality?

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    Comment by Darkrockslizer
    03:22 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    "Men and women’s expectations of the opposite sex have just become way too high, and they can no longer have children as a result"

    best explanation there can be.

    Comment by Anonymous
    03:25 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    @Anon 2:51

    Why don't you?

    Comment by Anonymous
    03:33 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    @Anon 3:25
    no u

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    Comment by Japanisokay
    04:24 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    That chart is bullshit. Not in the sense that it's completely untrue, but because of its structure it assumes the criteria is concrete. And yeah, I know it's just created by some dude... You know, if I was a woman I would also be hesitant to enter a relationship with a man who spent the majority of his money on things like figurines, DVDs, and other various Anime collectibles. But otaku aren't even the main problem as far as the population issue is concerned. Still, I do sympathize with the otaku in Japan. They are (not all) just socially inept, so they run to the internet and complain about how women only care about money or something (not that those kinds don't exist). I might be thinking too much into this though.

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    Comment by Ken
    04:38 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    2D is awesome, 3D... for making baby?

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    Comment by Dirty_Dingus008
    05:17 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Perhaps that is why 'Densha Otaku' rings a faint bell of hope to Otakus.. The price is your first love, but it would be well worth it if you find that one lady willing to set that all aside to be close to you... But would rather like it if you just toned it down a lot.

    Comment by Anonymous
    05:45 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    It's pretty cold hard fact that most women are money grubbing cunts. Simple as that. There are exceptions, but those only more emphasize the rule.

    Comment by Anonymous
    05:57 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    @Anon 3:25
    If real world for you is opposite, then I hope you will get out of basement.

    Comment by Anonymous
    10:31 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    @Japanisokay

    im sorry but you are wrong.

    in japan as poll have shown over and over again, the majority of women wont even consider a guy that makes more money than them as anything but garbage, and to top it off, being an anime otaku in japan costs SIGNIFICANTLY more than it does here.

    polls show that 80% wont consider someone makeing less than them.

    that leaves 20%

    less than 5% would consider an anime otaku as an option.

    so now its down to what? 1%

    and as men, i can say it this way, i want someone who is at least a 5 out of 10, and weighs less than me, OR has more boob than gut. and on pure looks im about a 7 just to prove i am willing to go under what i am for someone i like

    now lets say that 40% of women meet these requirements, im down to .4%

    and in my personal experience, 1 out of close to 40 people i have associated with i would even consider a friend. im not picky, i just don't like allot of universally liked things, and finding people i can talk to after than becomes a problem. but lets assume that 1 out of 5 people can hold conversations with each other, and like it.

    that brings the number down to .08

    now japans population is 12770400 as google said 1021632 and divide that by 1/2 510816

    that is from my math, you can check my numbers, that is the amount of women who can stand otaku, don't look to bad, and don't care to much about your income

    now this number is larger, because it took all women, it is probably significantly lower than that, and the odds that one of these goddesses (in japan, if you can stand otaku, not care about money to much, and look a 5 or over, if that isn't a goddess, i don't know what is) is still single or that you would ever meet.

    and so you know, there is a statistic, that states, if you spend money on anything that isn't a strict living expense, you are less desirable, and if its for you alone, you are even less.

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    Comment by Japanisokay
    15:00 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Nah I see your point, but frankly a lot of that seems like speculation. Speculation with numbers. That "%80" was from a poll featured on this website, right? Aside from that I don't really know of similar research. Can you provide other sources/polls to support these statistics/interpretations? I'm not necessarily saying you can't, I just cannot. Trust me, I really want to understand this situation, because I don't find women in America like this at all, and it seems like women wouldn't be that different just because they're Japanese.

    Comment by Anonymous
    19:17 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Actually his math is horribly wrong, he divided Japan's female population by 8%, not 0,08%, and counted old women and children. Tsk Tsk.

    And on your hand, just handwaving statistics... nope, they can't reflect reality at all, no Sirre.

    Comment by Anonymous
    19:18 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Hmmm, upon closer reading, you're not handwaving it completely.

    Well, contrary to PCness culture matters a lot and american women too are probably more concerned than you think.

    Comment by Anonymous
    19:31 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Western women are far worse than the Japanese, though. This coming from a westerner...

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    Comment by Japanisokay
    03:00 28/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Well, I'm a westerner too and have had different experiences. I guess this all comes down to reality not being as concrete as we believe it to be.

    Comment by Anonymous
    06:38 28/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Uh... I'm not sure what you mean by "reality not being as concrete as we believe it to be". If you mean it's relative/subjective, I agree.

    I base my views on experience I got when I studied abroad for a year. I only dated 2 Japanese people, so I guess you could say I'm just over-generalizing out of frustration. It's just that finding a good woman where I live seems much harder than finding a good Japanese one.

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    Comment by Japanisokay
    09:44 28/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    We are in agreement then. So you have at least some experience, that's cool then. I've had my experience with people like that as well, and it seems that what works is you have to be honest about how you feel with that behavior. Kind of like an understanding, gentle scolding. Worked for me, in various kinds of relationships.

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    Comment by Riiku
    03:29 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    LUMINCE, you're missing MY point:

    If the government wants lots of kids, they should bring womans to me as an incubators, i'll impregnate all of them. No personal relations involved.

    Comment by Anonymous
    04:09 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    they don't want to be impregnate by you, they want someone way better.

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    Comment by Domo-Kun
    04:19 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Well Riku, part of that problem is that single mothers have no chance of success in Japan.
    Riku's children would become an entire generation of criminals.

    Japan and most of the world should stop worrying about a declining population, as Japan is over-populated already.

    And as for the old people who have no one to support them? Get back to work!

    Comment by Anonymous
    05:53 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Yeah, no. Great advice in a vacuum, but down the line that creates all sorts of problems economically and socially. Of course, if Japan wouldn't do everything in their power to discourage immigration, things might be different.

    Comment by Anonymous
    06:40 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    It doesn't create economic problems, it just changes them. A continuously growing population is a disaster waiting to happen. All that is happening is that the problem is correcting itself. It might suck at first but it is better in the long run. It's better to run out of laborers then it is to run out of food.

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    Comment by Darkrockslizer
    07:06 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Indeed. A decreasing population is ONLY a problem for an economy relying on CONTINUOUS growth of income, export, import, population etc.

    In reality, unfortunately, there's a limit for everything.
    After 60 years or so when current economic theories will meet mercantilism in the recycle bin, Japan will actually be relieved for having a much more sustainable population for their small mineral-poor geographic territory.

    Comment by Anonymous
    19:20 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    I'm sure old people living miserable lives and/or starving to death isn't a problem for you.

    Yup, those pensions are going to magically pay themselves, or robots will take care of them. Either is good with me!

    Comment by Anonymous
    19:23 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    And the pensions for old people will be provided by magic and robots. They won't live miserably andor starve to death.

    Comment by Anonymous
    01:46 28/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    "Indeed. A decreasing population is ONLY a problem for an economy relying on CONTINUOUS growth of income, export, import, population etc.

    In reality, unfortunately, there's a limit for everything.
    After 60 years or so when current economic theories will meet mercantilism in the recycle bin, Japan will actually be relieved for having a much more sustainable population for their small mineral-poor geographic territory"

    You just offended me as an economist. I sometimes see people who are wrong, but you were dead wrong throughout. Humans are a resource, and businesses always want there to be more of them. The more "Overpopulated" a country is, the better it's businesses will do. Now, I'm not for people stacked up against each other, but it's not like that anywhere in the world. In 1984, when the world's population was 4.4 billion, you could have fit everyone in the entire world in Texas, and each could have 1000 square feet to their name. Meaning a woman with 2 children had 3000, etc. So overpopulation isn't really a problem economically, it's a solution to an economic problem. Unfortunately solutions cause problems too, like pollution, crime, and selective corruption.

    First. A decreasing population is ALWAYS a problem for businesses. No exceptions. As for your rationale, even if you weren't relying on continuous growth, say you were trying to be sustainable but you can't find anyone to help do the jobs in your firm now? No babies! The people in the Japanese government, rather than directly interfering with the market, are attempting to inject resources. you must understand, Darkrock, People ARE Japan's resource. They aren't resource-poor as long as they have a high population!

    As for the prediction that current economic theory will meet an end, I've never ONCE seen a government handle an economy better than the free market. And the free market has been doing a damn good job for a couple thousand years now.

    Comment by Anonymous
    09:17 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    so a woman spending thousands of dollars on clothes they will only wear 3-5 times during the clothing's lifespan is different from otaku buying merchandise?

    Comment by Anonymous
    16:36 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Otaku spend what they earn. The women in question spend what men earn. So yes... different.

    Comment by Anonymous
    10:56 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    I agree ill get a good 300 pregnant.
    Im so generous =)

    Comment by SnooSnoo
    01:30 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    2D and 3D are both just electrical signals in the brain. Thus there is no essential difference between the two.

    Win

    Comment by Anonymous
    01:31 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Fail
    There IS difference, and you know what it is.

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    Comment by Yoshii-kun
    01:44 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Hmmm.... this is a tough trend...

    But for now, 2D is my priority.

    Comment by Anonymous
    11:18 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    "Have sex with 3d, live with 2d?"

    This pretty much, love is subjective and anyone can breed anyway they want.

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    Comment by Riiku
    01:41 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    You see, even if a guy believes that, deep in his soul he still crave for real human relationship. A human soul cannot exist without the need of knowing, that somewhere there is another soul that connected to yours, that have it's own emotions. If you gonna pretend that non-existed girls are real and feel something for you, your inner conscious, your Id, wont. The tenuity will eventually build up and burst resulting in permanent mental damage.

    Comment by Anonymous
    02:24 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    >>The tenuity will eventually build up and burst resulting in permanent mental damage.

    I assume you can cite documented medical studies that support this claim, because you certainly don't seem like the type who just makes up random bullshit and posts it on the comments section of an anime blog.

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    Comment by Riiku
    03:57 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    You just have to know some of ppl who's in their thirties and are virgins, never kissed a girl, socially unable, and only have friends online. Hell, they think of suicede alot more than your average person.

    Comment by Anonymous
    03:58 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    lmao!! riiku got owned

    Comment by Anonymous
    05:03 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    @Riiku, this does beg the question though, if these people are so socially unable, how come they have friends online? Social incompetence should have carried over to the net.

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    Comment by Darkrockslizer
    05:56 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    People who have most friends online should have nothing against meeting each other in video conferences or meeting up irl.
    It's just a matter of common interests and possibilities.

    Comment by Anonymous
    08:12 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    @Riku I would too if I couldn't spell "suicede."

    Comment by Anonymous
    18:13 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    @Anon 8:12
    Yes, go die because you can't spell
    "Suicide"

    Comment by Anonymous
    19:37 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    @Anon 18:13
    He was pointing out Riiku's mistake (3:57, third line, the word before "a lot" [or as Riiku put it, alot]).

    Comment by Anonymous
    12:18 28/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    ^ all of the above, tearing up Riku because he/she struck a nerve XD

    Comment by Anonymous
    03:32 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    I can think in non-corporeal symbols. I can immsense myself into anything that is totally false and enjoy it. I can reflect myself onto anything and it will not be totally lifeless anymore.

    In a sense, I'm a god of my existence, but guess what, all humans do that.

    Comment by Anonymous
    06:29 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Riiku speaks absolute bollocks.

    It's not the soul craves a real relationship, it's the body. Your instincts.

    Love for 2D is emotionally fulfulling. You get nothing back, you always have that nagging thought "If she were real, she wouldn't care for me in the slighest"... It's loving someone unconditionally. You love your concept of that person, you love them with all your heart. That's all the 'relationship' any human needs to live. Sure, the physical loneliness bites sometimes. Sure, the urge to have sex is there sometimes.

    Those, however, don't matter in the slightest.

    Comment by Anonymous
    10:05 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    I'd say the opposite, having been essentially where Riiku described. I was an okaku for around 13 years, but eventually I fell for a 3D girl, and went "oh my god, I've wasted my youth being a shut-in, and passed up chances to build the social skills I need now." I didn't have permanent mental damage from it, but I did have my only ever panic attack (holy shit, almost passed out at work...) and spent a season or two depressed as hell.

    I don't know who is actually capable of 2D love... I've had tons of infatuations with 2D characters, and still do. It's not love though, and it's not fulfilling. It's a band-aid for the heart basically. It feels nice, but once you feel the need in your heart for an actual sentient companion, all that character merch becomes so much spiteful trash symbolizing time wasted.

    Sex... whatever. That I can take care of on my own just fine. What I want is a human who accepts me for myself that I can spend my life with, and 2D is just a pale, polished simulacrum of that. Besides, once you get far enough from high school age, most of that school romance stuff that dominates the moe market boils down to fantasy about those you can't relate to anymore anyway, unless you freeze your mind in a childhood state, which is just asking for more such trouble.

    I've been infatuated with 2D girls, maybe even limerent once or twice, but once I loved a real girl, I realized what I was feeling before was a shadow of the real thing. It's seriously reality-altering when it hits.

    Comment by Anonymous
    19:41 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    I imagine the one you fell in love with wasn't a gold-digging, self-absorbed feminazi?

    I'm interested in both 2D and 3D, depending on my mood, so I can't really relate to either extremity...

    Comment by Anonymous
    00:39 17/03/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Rofl...troll is on a differnet boat then,and besides...i dont have to pretend that 2d arent real..its easy if you can Astral Project ^^

    wait..nvm...i shouldnt say that..or else a thousand Anons will do that :O

    Comment by Anonymous
    05:37 27/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Big fan of Genshiken? You seem to reference it often in your comments.









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