Top 10 Ways of Chatting People Up on a First Date
- Categories: Japan, News
- Date: Feb 10, 2010 14:12 JST
- Tags: Comparison, Dating, Internet, Marriage, Rankings, Relationships, Statistics
Japanese surveyed on how they thought it best to get a good conversation going with the opposite sex yield up some at first glance very sensible sounding advice.
1. Balance “aizuchi” (making encouraging utterances like “I see,” “mmm,” and “ah” to keep conversation moving and affirm that you are listening) with actual conversation.
2. Express an interest in their hobbies.
3. Be sure to adopt a sympathetic posture.
4. Search for shared experiences to talk about.
5. Try to engender an “at home” atmosphere.
6. Incorporate stuff about their home town into the conversation.
7. Praise their dress or possessions.
8. Follow through on any self-deprecatory comments.
9. Always ask questions at the end of a conversation.
10. Lightly ask for advice on something.
At the very bottom of approaches favoured was “play games together on your phones,” a perhaps understandably shunned pastime.
Strong agreement was present amongst those surveyed on the first few items, reducing significantly further down the list.
When the results were split by gender, the first items were also ranked all but identically, not entirely surprisingly suggesting there may well be some common perceptions of how to get a good conversation going between the sexes.
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Pretty much what i always on first dates.
>implying he's had a date
Oh you...
The fact that you've never had a date yourself doesn't mean that every other person posting on the same site as you is a virgin as well.
Just because you fuck on first date doesn't mean everyone on the same site as you doesn't have standards.
Wait, you can lose your virginity by going on dates? I thought that you lose your virginity by having sex. You can go on dates and still be a virgin.
But where the hell is "sniff partner's panties" ???
Those Japanese...
You can have sex without going on dates. If you have money.
You can have both by breaking the law.
You don't have to break the law by moving to cambodia.
「えーマジ 童貞!?」
「キモーイ」
「童貞が許されるのは 小学生までだよね!」
「キャハハハハハハ」
my exp comes form dating games so i know how to chat to a girl XD ^_^
Dating games... riight...
I do almost everything in the list... But I'm just too nice to seduce them into sex... Sigh...
Had a girl in my bed just 2 days ago. There was alcohol flowing too. But noooooo... I'm too nice... Instead I played the nice elder friend role and gave her advice and encouragement on how to focus on her assignments so that she doesn't flunk out of her degree...
i cant help but empathise with you mate
thought it said "Express an interest in their boobies" at first XD
@ vanchrian
Don't put the pussy on a pedestal... then again I do the same thing.
Pretty much the format i always talk to girl on first meet. But i always feel like i'm faking it and the girl i'm talking to just go along with it.
Thank you sir! I'll use them IRL!
When I skimmed through #2, at first glance I read it as "Express an interest in their boobies," which prompted a double-take. Guess you know what's on my mind when I'm viewing this site....
Nice one Shirakawa.
Did anyone understand #8?
lol @ the anon troll comments
Not everyone is a dateless anon you know....
I know I am...
And now I know, you are.
I know your mom likes sucking my cock.
I know your a huge faggot
ಠ_ಠ
Jealous?
Is it me or did they forget eye contact and smiling?
Yeah, now that you mention it, they forgot the bottle of lube
Correction, You forgot the bottle of lube.
If I ever talked to a girl I will:
1. Wheeze
2. Shit myself
3. ???
4. Protip
You mispelled Profit.
Get out.
Regarding the conversation list.
To be honest I see it as more of a common sense list. I am a bit anti-social myself but I at least know most of those things.
Although I don't think I would really ask about their hometown or incorporate anything about their hometown in any conversation.
I'm pretty sure they ment that this was a protip for when you find yourself in a conversation with a bear.
Reading fail. How could that be profit it doesnt make any sense.
Protip itself doesnt make any sense for that to begin with. Sure sure, it's a "tip" but in the way you write that, 1.__ 2.___ 3. ??? 4. Profit is how it's supposed to be, the last two are not open for interpretation unless you want to look like a retard.
No No...
He means
4. Drop some Protips
Naturally the lady will be impressed by your protips
that guy looks like Takasu Ryuuji.
Why is he with another girl? Does that mean Taiga's not interested in him any more?
FUCK YOU GUYS I'M GOING TO FIND HER >3
the guy is called Kurozawa.
hes from manga Masturbation Master Kurosawa.
True story.
i guess this is artefact's way of saving the nation?
from what?
declining birth rates,
he's not being a cockblocker, but a bottle of lube
Judging by your lack of literacy (what i always isnt good bro), you are probably too young for this to matter. Though with the weaboo who frequent this site, this article is pretty much nonsense and useless anyway. Most of these people don't get laid without alcohol in college (and even then she was prolly ugly or fat), and never have real relationships.
Always what? A whole bottle?
Also, good luck being a virgin with this method
All you need to do as act like your listining to the girl and repeat the last thing she says over and she'll you praise as a good listener.simple :)
Alternatively, get her to keep talking about herself. They LOVE talking about themselves.
I don't like talking about myself. Nothing much to talk about. I'd rather know about the other person than they know about me.
That's a perfect reason why you get the other person to talk about him/herself.
Now if both people don't like to talk about themselves, well, someone is going to have to figure out how to keep the conversation going. Have some backup go-to topics for times like those.
Usually in a first date both the man and woman tries to get to know the other person and would want the other person to talk about themselves and what happens is that both end up listening and not talking. It should be talk, ask, talk.
Looking for the inbetween is always my problem such as talking to much to listening to much...
Everybody loves that. < <;;
How painfully true...
I don't!
Best thing to do is to talk about your creepy fetishes. Chicks dig that.
Chicks dig giant robots.
Wouldn't that be a bad thing to talk about if you were an Otaku.
This works every time.
Talk to them about the eroge games you beat [off to] as well.
Of course chicks dig freak shows that they can talk about to their friends. Just don't expect to get laid after she finds out you're an otaku.
If you were an Otaku, why would you go out and talk with a girl?
^ Densha Otoko thats why.
chicks dig giant drills
Not true... In my experience, women tend to want to engage and have a conversation, and men love to talk about themselves. And if the women start to talk about themselves, the men starts to space out. But when the men start to talk about themselves, you usually see the women listen attentively, and can even quote verbatim.
Protip: Sex is more important then talking
That is not a protip; everyone knows men loves sex and talking about themselves.
all of my knowledge of social interactions come from sitcoms too
shove your cock into her mouth. she loves it better that way
I once just sat quietly as a rock while a girl was talking to me. Didn't say a thing at all, just nodded and made eye contact a couple time. She told me in a really genuine tone that I was a good listener and even said she liked that about me. o_O
She is wierd and will probably stalk you because you listened to her.
Man Law #43: All men have the right to remain silent when asked by a woman "do you like this". And the right to leave the room.