Young Japanese Women Hunt Middle-Aged Men


Middle-aged men are enjoying great popularity amongst younger Japanese women, with some 40% of women preferring older men, and 20% of these only being interested in men at least 10 years older than them, with men in their forties being particularly popular.

Observers speculate that this may be due to the “manly aura” of such older men as compared to the effete younger generations, and of course that women know that the Japanese pay structure vastly favours older men.

When asked “Do you prefer your lover to be older or younger?” most women (40%) in their twenties responded “older,” not itself an unexpected result.

However, the extent of their preference for older men is perhaps surprising: 20% wanted men at least 10 years older than them, whilst 38.2% wanted older men up to 9 years their senior. 26.5% did not have any preference regarding age.

Predictably, most men in their forties after younger women weren’t picky, with 47.4% not caring about how much younger their partner is.

When asked about their actual experience with dating, 48.4% of young women had dated older men, whilst 60.4% of men in their forties reported experience dating younger women.

The survey did not ask for the reasons respondents displayed these preferences, but a marriage counsellor discretely mentions what may be the main reason:

“Women start becoming conscious of marriage after the age of 25, and they start to become realistic about romance too. When they think about having and rearing children, very few women actually want to keep working at the same pace for the rest of their life.”

Considering the pitiful birth rates Japan enjoys, possibly their interest in having children is being overstated; however, it is undeniable that Japanese men enjoy their peak earnings in their forties and fifties, and it is well established that a great many female marriage seekers have no interest in working

A female author delving into this preference offers another interesting interpretation, saying this may be a reaction against the unmanliness of younger men, with women preferring more masculine partners only finding satisfaction in much older men.

Sex is, she says, “a very important factor,” and compared to younger “herbivorous” men these older men are more likely to be “carnivorous” and to have a “manly aura.”

Perhaps more pointedly, just what is to become of all these unwanted young men in their twenties, with their low incomes and “lack of experience” or “lack of manliness”? A growing proportion of these seem to be becoming “middle-aged virgins“…

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    Comment by Anonymous
    23:31 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    Most Otaku are not handsome. So it is pretty obvious why younger women would choose older men that has never been apart of the otaku generation. They would like to have children that aren't influenced to men that have troubled, collectible habits.

    I mean that also goes the same to many other countries as well. They may not be Anime-Otaku, but they have their otaku-ism in their own way and it always boils down to where the women will choose a older man(yeah, I would say some have it together than most younger men who haven't made the resolve to commit to a family.)

    Just to let you know, I am a single guy myself and I am heavily into collecting anime, manga and games. As a young guy, I would love to date a woman about the same age as myself. But I don't think I'm the kind of guy that would commit to marriage anytime soon. Honestly, I rather not have children born of my own. I just don't think now is not a great time to have a family with the way the economy is now. And it wouldn't be fair to them if I had children now. But I do understand a woman's point of view.

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    Comment by Kinny Riddle
    02:03 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Put it in another way, does this actually mean that for any of those single 20-somethings, as long as he works hard (as in down-to-earth hard) and slowly bides his time, by the time he reaches 40-something, he'll eventually get a younger girl willing to fall into his arms without him even trying?

    (Provided that the said single men are decently good-looking and isn't like those stereotypically hideous and fat balding otakus out there, of course. )

    Comment by Anonymous
    02:06 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Woman wouldn't be like this, had we not given them equal rights. :D

    We gave them rights, and they became power/money hungry meanies.

    But you know what I think is even worse, Hook one, marry her, have kids. Then, when she's bored, she's going to divorce you, and take your kids, your car, your money, the house you paid for and burn the shit she couldn't take.

    Oh well, Steven Hawkins predicted that by 2050 it will be common for humans to be making love with robot partners. We'll see how this works out.

    Comment by Busy
    03:13 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Your post doesn't makes any sense since if it would be equal they wouldn't need to look for power and money since she would already have it.

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    Comment by Tim
    13:21 30/05/2013 # ! Neutral (0)

    Let me translate this for everyone's basic comprehension:

    "Woman wouldn't be like this, had we not given them equal rights. :D

    We gave them rights, and they became power/money hungry meanies."

    We didn't teach women accountability, to the point divorce courts are tilted towards them.

    Case in point: single white female feminism in the West.

    "But you know what I think is even worse, Hook one, marry her, have kids. Then, when she's bored, she's going to divorce you, and take your kids, your car, your money, the house you paid for and burn the shit she couldn't take."

    Divorce courts and the fact that women can and DO instigate false allegations allow them to do this.

    "Oh well, Steven Hawkins predicted that by 2050 it will be common for humans to be making love with robot partners. We'll see how this works out."

    Why, thank you, single white female feminism. You just helped castrating off a man's virility, to the point you just screwed yourselves out of a sugar daddy.

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    Comment by ScarredBushido
    03:02 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    wat i load of bull this is why i hate statistics

    Comment by Anonymous
    06:49 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    it's all about the money, i come to realize japanese women are not really worth it

    Comment by cloudninja
    06:59 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    This is very interesting to me and there may be a pattern to take note of.

    Long ago in ancient times, getting to about 13 was considered an adult and from there you had to work and support your family, and you could be expected to be married very soon.

    As time has gone on and we humans learn more and more about our world it takes longer and longer for us to "mature".

    In America, getting JUST a High school degree got you a very good job to support a whole FAMILY on, benefits, and retirement, during the 50's (at least that's what MY grandparents always tell me :3). As things have changed and the world has become more complicated. Now, if don't walk out of a University with a BS/BA in SOMETHING your jobs and future prospects are grim, not to mention you will be poor.

    To me, this means that we as humans are taking longer to "become adults". We have a longer learning period where now, even being in you 20's doesn't necessarily mean you are ready to be an "adult". Sure you can work at a McD's or work a video store, but you'll never be able to live on your own, let alone marry someone and support them on that kind of job.

    Everyone in today's world has to be a quick learner and always keep up with the changing world. It's less about brutal survival and more patient education.

    This is why I think being "young", in this article, is a turn off, you're just not seen as an adult human that can protect and support a family, which is the main reason for dating and marrying in the first place.

    There is more strain on men (and women I'm sure, though probably less so) to be "successful" and the only way you can do that is by specializing in a skill and doing that skill for a living. But to learn that skill takes time, and that's the problem! You take more time to be a capable adult.

    It's a tougher world we live in everyone, good luck! X3

    Comment by Anonymous
    20:49 17/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Please do not forget that not only are we considered adults later in modern times, we also have a far longer life expectancy than before modern times... Women are especially prone to death by child birth when they do not have access to modern health care, especially if they have multiple ones.

    Comment by Anonymous
    00:55 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    I guess they might also feel that older men will be able to hold a conversation, and pay attention to what they talk about more. Not that younger guys won't, but in their fourties, guys'll probably be more relaxed and focused on really truly having a relationship.

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    Comment by hasegawamiki
    00:34 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Women need samurai-like men....... who have MONEY.

    Comment by Anonymous
    01:30 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Samurai learn Gil Toss for a reason in the final fantasy games.

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    Comment by tyciol
    15:14 12/12/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    This bodes well!

    Comment by Anonymous
    12:40 15/02/2012 # ! Neutral (0)

    This is actually very normal. While I am no expert in the field, I have studied a bit on human evolution and came across an explanation for such behavior. Since women were often subjugated by men in most ancient (and, unfortunately, some modern societies), it only made sense to choose older mates who were more financially sound and have proven themselves as productive members of societies than younger mates who could still go either way. As such, this behavior has continued to propagate in human female mating as such tactics are adaptive and help ensure the survival of both the woman and her offspring. This is why many women in America tend to marry younger men since they no longer are reliant on their man for financial support. This also explains another interesting development in the American dating scene as many older, accomplished business women are often found in relationships with younger men which mirrors many older business men.

    To further elaborate on why women see older men as preferable mates, from an evolutionary perspective of course, is that women seek out men who are either capable of making somatic investments or are in physical good health or, of course, somewhere in the middle of both. An older man is capable of putting in a larger somatic investment as they are likely in good standings with their work and tend to be less ambitious. In other words, older men are more likely to spend time with their families. Physically, most older men are usually still in good standings with their health and are capable of fathering healthy children.

    Comment by Anonymous
    07:38 01/07/2012 # ! Neutral (0)

    18 and having sex with a 30-year old?

    Freakin delicious.

    Comment by Anonymous
    10:12 03/04/2013 # ! Neutral (0)

    They asked loaded questions.

    Comment by Anonymous
    04:16 11/02/2012 # ! Neutral (0)

    I don't know about Japanese otaku, but I'm only 20 and I would commit to a marriage and provide my wife with (almost) everything she could ask for. But considering the rate of women cheating in Japan, there's more than one party at fault here.

    Comment by Anonymous
    04:13 11/02/2012 # ! Neutral (0)

    That 'manly aura' rapes elementary aged children. 'nuff said.

    Comment by Anonymous
    06:00 05/11/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Sorry but there is no way I'd settle for an old guy, money or no money. Receding hairline, growing waistline, wrinkled as hell, thinking they know it all? No thanks. Give me a hot, youthful guy who doesn't need vyagra.

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    Comment by Barbarian of Gor
    16:56 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    My favorite H Anime, one of the early ones that got me perverted: "Countdown" Alimony hunter had a very feminine transsexual seducing the trophy wife and young (18 years and 14 days old:-) son of some absent business man...

    And there's the Manga inspired parody online comic, "Sexy Losers"...

    Man in electronics store: "I need to install some hidden cameras, my wife is having an affair..." frank and serious.

    Clerk, "Geez, buddy, that's a let-down and your wife is such a looker. Who is it? Friend from college? Mailman?"...

    Man: "18 year old High School girl."

    Clerk: "Well, buddy, this is a bit over your budget, but this better brand of cameras is both controllable and auto-responsive and can zoom in and filter and gets good color even in the dimmest of light..."

    Man, pulling out wallet: "I love a store that understands it's customers..."


    On a similar note, have you noticed how while a man's son is almost never attracted to his biological mother, he's almost always attracted to the later women in his father's life? Absolutely true with me!

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    Comment by tyciol
    18:00 12/12/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    That series is awesome, I wish it'd come back, just like Exploitation Now.

    Comment by Anonymous
    09:23 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    20y difference.
    Women probably still want daddys as they don't grow up and still want to be children for life where the relationship works perfectly like father daughter relationship with more things XD.

    But hey part of real men are kinda like that,it's attractive when the man knows what he wants,does for you,you also must obey him unless it endangeres your life and both of you fill your expectations,but the women must also fill the mans expectations.

    Comment by Anonymous
    14:36 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Men want wives who are like their ideal mommies.
    Women want husbands who are like their ideal daddies.

    So true.

    Comment by Anonymous
    09:24 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    like you must show gratitude what he does for you.

    Comment by Anonymous
    01:27 17/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Japan's birthrates are going to be abysmal in the next decade. Sure, these young girls are happy dating older men now but when they reach that biological clock hits and the eggs start running dry their precious Oyaji-sama will be too old and too frail to handle any prolonged baby-making. And while all this is happening, the middle-aged virgins will continue fapping to 2D, just like they've been doing for so many years.

    Has anyone done a study on fujyoshi yet or do they pretty much have the same mindset as their carnivorous sisters?

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    Comment by Zashiki Warashi
    09:40 17/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    "20% wanted men at least 10 years older than them"

    Last time I checked I was 23, so where are all these 13yo's who wants me?!

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    19:37 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)


    Comment by Anonymous
    15:59 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    is it "manly aura" or "money aura"? pfft greedy women.

    Comment by Anonymous
    19:12 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    yeah like you've never been greedy in your entire life. Get over yourself.

    Comment by Anonymous
    21:26 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    lol we are all greedy but i think he meant leeching off of higher income men. well i say whatever, let them do as they please.

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    Comment by OTIKA
    21:28 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Better spending a life of loneliness (but self-managed financial security) than being constantly betrayed in these crazy times.

    Comment by Anonymous
    15:55 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Not all about the money this time??

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    Comment by OTIKA
    21:39 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    It'll be the 'main thing', if at all.

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    Comment by hALOTOO
    15:47 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    What a man,what a man,what a man,what a mighty old men
    Yes they are

    Comment by Anonymous
    00:28 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Big Boss, Old Snake and Super Asia agrees...

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    Comment by Aero
    15:51 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    I'd say is mostly about the money, and that these women would end up having affairs with younger men behind these folks' backs.

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    Comment by Niwa
    15:56 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Putting it that way makes me wonder if such thing as pure-hearted girl in japan

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    Comment by hsinner324
    16:03 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Pure girls don't exist outside of the 2D world. I've seen my (female) childhood friends turn from innocent nice girls to party-hardy money-grubbing clubbing whores.

    Feels bad man.

    Comment by Anonymous
    20:31 17/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    My boyfriend plays Love-plus in front of me. I have no problems with that. Some of the girls have such cute personalities! And I badly want to find more stuff voiced by one of the voice actresses... :-3 But then again he and I even swap porn soo... It's a bit difficult to feel threatened by porn when someone obviously loves you and finds you very attractive.

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    Comment by Marine-RX179
    16:51 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Which was why the Love-Plus game is such a hit in Japan. People laugh at the otaku for playing such game because they are never gonna have a girlfriend, but the truth is lots of players of the game play it behind their gf/wife's back, because they simply can't (or at least close to impossible) find 'pure relationship' that's not polluted by materialism in the world today. Money ALWAYS enter the equation for romance/relationship.

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    Comment by Niwa
    16:05 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Well to what I mean is just opposite of type of girls were seeing in the articles

    but little livelyhood would be good to.

    Comment by Anonymous
    21:33 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    A little livelyhood? So you're ok with a little party-hardy slighty money-grubbing clubbing somewhat whore.

    ... Good luck finding out there's no real difference when these qualities are involved.

    Comment by Anonymous
    18:37 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Yes, but you don't stand a chance.

    There are always pure-hearted types about, but they're getting rarer and rarer and they have a high moral/ethical/religious expectation of their partner. Every woman is looking for something, and has a high expectation, some are looking for sexual experience, others for interest, others for money, and others for moral worth; the problem is that in Japan those looking for money make up the majority, and the next set of those looking for sexual experience are unable to find it because those money-grabbers aren't having sex with younger men for them to gain experience.

    All in all Japan is in a state, but it is still going to have a few pure-hearted women, but just as with any country, don't expect them to be easy catches just because they're pure-hearted, since they will expect an exceptionally pure heart from you as well.

    Comment by Anonymous
    05:32 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    yeah this is sooo true,but If I can't find a pure-hearted girl,I think I would rather die alone or along side my 2D loli rather then settle for a heartless succubus.

    Comment by Anonymous
    19:27 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Capitalism 101: There is nothing more important than money.

    Comment by Anonymous
    01:19 16/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Capitalism 100: There is nothing more important than the ability to make, hold onto, and increase the amount of your money.

    Comment by Anonymous
    16:48 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    "Manly aura"? Oh please. They're just digging for gold.

    Comment by Anonymous
    21:36 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Nah, it's manly aura. The girls just can't tell whether it's true Goku SS manly aura, or too much gold-in-pocket aura.

    Comment by Anonymous
    17:00 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    2d women > Korean women > Chinese women > Other women > hot and girly looking guys > some Female animals > Jap women

    Comment by Anonymous
    23:06 15/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    You forgot lolis

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