A survey of what sort of behaviour Japanese men find most intolerable from their female companions whilst on a date presents some interesting, if not entirely unexpected, findings.
The results of the online survey, with men being asked to rate what behaviour from a woman they find most likely to ruin a date:
1. Expect to be treated as a matter of course.
2. Take a haughty attitude to waiters.
3. Do nothing but check for mail.
4. Get unhappy just because it is crowded.
5. Want to do something else.
6. Keep looking at other members of the opposite sex.
7. Complain about being tired or having sore feet.
8. Make a racket with ringtone after ringtone.
9. Take the attitude that a treat was a right.
10. Make no effort to make conversation.
These of course seem quite universal concerns, just as was the case with the surefire ways of provoking a Japanese woman’s ire…
I would agree with everything but “Want to do something else.” And “Complain about being tired or having sore feet.” Because last week I went out with my BF and I told him I’m bored and tired especially because I just got off of work and he just drag me all over SF just to go shopping for sun glasses and window shopping. I told him I’m bored and he got piss off and said he wants to go home and drag my arm and said I don’t tell him anything. I told him that what he wanted to do I went along with it but when I’m interested in something he just drag me always. And when I said “I’m bored” he just throws a bitch fit. Of course I would be bored we been looking at nothing but men clothes and men sun glasses and the whole time I wanted to sit down and didn’t get a chance. I even told him I was hungry and he told me lets wait half and hour so he could shop some more. I told him everything and he still complains that I don’t say anything so I just walk off and he just follow me. He kept asking where we are going and I didn’t respond and just kept walking but he try to drag me again and I just kept going until I hit a Japanese tea cake shop that was recently open. I always wanted to go there but never got a chance and I told my BF about it. So he bought me something there and we made up. Afterward he kept trying to buy me expensive clothes just to make up some more and I just say no because it’s a waste of money especially since I don’t need it or want it. I’m not a materialistic girl I just want to be respected, and if your partner is bored or complain about being tired you should try to understand why. I understand why my BF act the way he did because he is just like the many Asian men who grew up in male dominance society and just want the woman to do what they want. Women get sore feet because the men drag them everywhere and a lot of woman wear high heels.
Honoko, that’s your own fault. Instead of complaining that you’re bored or tired, TELL him what you want. Men are not mind-readers anymore than girls are or would like men to be.
If you say you’re bored and he acknowledges, ok you’re bored, so what? What? WHAT! He may be keen enough to ask what you want to do, or where you want to go, but in my experience girls often don’t have a bloody answer anyways, even if keen so far as to have suggestions. You shouldn’t expect him to have an answer for entertaining you.
Preach it brother Anon!
We men are stupid creatures. We can’t infer millions of iota of information from a single glance. We aren’t Edward from Twilight. And he still sucks at it with over a hundred years to practice! There’s your hint: if a guy needs over 36500 days of solid training to learn something, he isn’t going to learn it.
/Tell us/. Tell us what you /want/. Directly. Any man will bend over freaking backwards for a woman they can understand, who speaks “English”, not only “girl”. (Or Japanese, insert “real” language of choice). Not many girls speak Lojban or Hymmnos, completely unambiguous and “easy to identify reason” languages.
4. Get unhappy just because it is crowded.
WHERE THE f♥♥k IS THE PROBLEM WITH THIS.
Women can get either defensive, or highly self-concious around large groups of people. Despite being a woman myself and knowing that, I don’t necessarily care if a place is crowded or not. Would it even matter if the grocery store was crowded or empty? You still shop at the same speed, same for the check-out line. Generally, if it’s busy that day, more lines are opened.
1. Expect to be treated as a matter of course.
of course a guy would get mad at this. you’re going on a date with me as much as i’m going on a date with you.
2. Take a haughty attitude to waiters.
well that’s just rude.
3. Do nothing but check for mail.
rude again. why don’t you go on a date with your cell phone instead?
4. Get unhappy just because it is crowded.
i’m fine with chilling in a park if you want to.
5. Want to do something else.
ok, think of something else.
6. Keep looking at other members of the opposite sex.
hey, if you don’t mind me checking out other chicks and maybe getting a number or two, then we’re cool. otherwise, we own each other for the duration of our date.
7. Complain about being tired or having sore feet.
ok, no big deal, let’s sit down.
8. Make a racket with ringtone after ringtone.
silent plz. and by “plz” i mean “now”.
9. Take the attitude that a treat was a right.
hahahahaha.
on a side note, once i told a japanese girl off about doing this with her bf and actually convinced her that she was being a bad person XD
10. Make no effort to make conversation.
mmmkay i’m gonna go call up someone else who actually wants to go on this date.
Signs like this mean its time to bail out LOL!
tell her you’re going to the bathroom and run lol
9. Take the attitude that a treat was a right.
This applies to chinese girls pretty well.
Chinese mens are machos, but girls are generally worse.
I know few exceptions to that fact.