More Japanese Women Prefer Being Alone
- Categories: Japan, News
- Date: Mar 27, 2009 14:34 JST
- Tags: Dating, Japan, Relationships, Social Trends
A recent report brings to light a new trend among single Japanese women: they are increasingly forgoing companionship to enjoy a night out alone.
“I rented a hotel suite and spent the night there all by myself, drinking wine in a bubble bath and reading a magazine,” said a 30-year-old woman. “Very elegant, don’t you think?”
One woman remarked how much more enjoyable it was to go into a French restaurant by herself, being able to slowly savor the taste of the food without the need to make small talk.
Yet another woman remarked that she had become quite “good at being alone” as though it was an acquired skill recently mastered.
Businesses have noticed the trend. Over the past two or three years, a growing number of women have been coming in alone to restaurants, movie theaters and karaoke studios.
One staffer at a Shibuya karaoke box commented that solitary women now “make up 30% of our business.”
Ueno Chizuko, Tokyo University professor and an author of a book on the social phenomenon of solitary women, believes that there are two reasons responsible for the trend.
Ueno states that Japanese women are more confident of their social skills and are less afraid to venture into places without a companion. Further, the professor notes that a woman is expected to “adjust her behavior to the mood of her companion,” an expectation that can cause a significant stress.
One 25-year-old office worker summed up the issue in a nutshell. “I have a boyfriend, but to be honest, it’s more fun without him.”
Via Japan Today.
The trend of solitary women will alarm Japanese social commentators who have long decried Japan’s lack of population growth.
Additionally, the problematic expectation of Japanese women towards their partner’s income potential and the fact that Japanese women have become more self reliant for their own sexual gratification have become increasingly common deterrents to marriage.
Male commentators have been quick to point out that the expectations of many Japanese women seem increasingly unrealistic and out of touch with what is attainable to them; although some may prefer being single, surveys still reveal the majority harbor ambitions of marriage and children.
Thus it is seen as problematic to hear, as in a recent famous example, spinsters in their forties make statements like “I’m so desperate, I’d just settle for a man who makes over ¥10 million ($100,000), as long as he can communicate.”
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Is it possible that this course of action was spurred by centuries of female oppression? Although there are certainly other factors, I think its a significant portion of the reason.
Wonderful. I had no idea that so many stupid women were influenced by shitty shoujo manga.
Time to start translating and handing out copies of Steve Harvey's Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man...
women should stay on the kitchen.
BHA!!! Who seeks solitude will get only solitude.
I will laugh a lot when they will feel so ronery.
The problem with this is that solo women- especially Japanese women- are NOT customers you want. They eat whatever they ordered and then sit and do fuck-all for an hour or more, like read a book or type emails or do their taxes. In comparison to men who get in, eat, and leave, making room for the next customer.
tldr;; solo women are parasites to shop owners.
Isn't this a good reason to encourage more of those singles to rent hotel rooms? They get a nice atmosphere and can eat whatever fancy meals the room service brings them.
but isn't it dangerous for a woman to live alone all the time?I mean there plenty of rape stories around here with similar scenario(spider-man anyone?)
Japan is just about the safest place to be a woman in the world.
like how the police will get you just by greeting some girl or eat in fast food restaurant with your own daughter?
dunno about the real things there, watched n read way too many h n doujins that actually brainwashed me to think that japan's dangerous for women.
So, this will be like Vexille where all the Japanese people are just robots? I vote that when the Japanese disappear, we loot and plunder their 1/6th scale PVC figures.
Sounds like they are starting to do things that the "liberated" Western women do. Good for them.
yeah they are acting like the liberated women in the western world do..thats why they cant find a husband lol..no guy wants a wife who sucks at being a woman
Don't japanese women scare japanese men? I mean they have went so far as to make porn games that interactive......
Seriously,who come up with this stuff,does this
website make it up?
(It will be true if the site deletes this comment)
*cough*Love Plus*cough*
OK... I can understand going to the Restaurant or the Cinema by yourself, but Karaoke?
I don't know, the prospect of singing by yourself just seems unbearably Lonely somehow, and that's coming from a Male perspective.
Considering the fact that women feel a greater need for socialization than men, and this Picture allofasudden just seems incredibly Sabishii :(
I think Otaku men are better at being alone though...
Judging from the replies of the people in this site, I'd say women preferring to be alone are making a wise decision.
"Ueno states that Japanese women are more confident of their social skills and are less afraid to venture into places without a companion."
Japan must be a very safe place for women then. That's probably why Agnes Chan's still alive...
That could be very argued with,though lets not silently scream at each other and somehow
create a war over it,that would be a bad idea.
P.S. Sorry If I may of sounded mean,not my intention.
good idea. :D
then men needs more 2D xD
"Male commentators have been quick to point out that the expectations of many Japanese women seem increasingly unrealistic and out of touch with what is attainable to them; although some may prefer being single, surveys still reveal the majority harbor ambitions of marriage and children."
Same thing goes with some males who is looking for the perfect girl like the ones they see in the media namely anime and games XD
Ronery Japan is ronery
One 25-year-old office worker summed up the issue in a nutshell. “I have a boyfriend, but to be honest, it’s more fun without him.”
^true that. my friends spite me for doing recreational activities alone. t'was why i ditched them. although, it gets ronery sometimes.
i guess i'm also guilty of having high expectations. i always fall for light/lelouch type bishies and end up being wound into endless mindgames.(still am X_X)
some of the male otakus(mostly college seniors) i do know are too creepy. although i've tried to get to know them better, all i've gotten are several attempts at rape.(i only accidentally lost some of his loli animu archive dvds)*cries*
Sorry for the typo I meant,'Shouldn't you Report
that?'
Hmm,
#1 Friends you at one point ditch cause you don't
like them for certain reasons...Check!
#2 Could get a decent (or not) Boyfriend/Bishie Hybrid....Check!
#3 Have Nerds atract,oh sorry I mean..'O.T.A.K.U.S.'attracted
to you,bonus points(not really)for creepieness....Check!
#4 You being nearly raped(shouldn't report that?)
a couple,yikes! I mean....Check!
You sound like a very unlucky girl (that or very girly man)in a anime,you really do,
it's scary at just how much.
T'was about time for you bitches, to learn how it feel to spend money from your own pocket!!!
But again, the bitches prefer to spend their moneys only on them selves, no way they're gonna spend one dime in some guy's happiness. Well, screw them!! We all know a guy can survive without 3D females, damn right he can! hahaha!! But I wonder if females can survive without men and not feel miserably lonely??..
How we do it? We're all a bunch of horny bastards, period. That's the secret of our happiness. We can fap to a fuckin 2D poster for a hundred years, and be happy, so you can imagine the amount of FAPPINESS inside any men. So if the bitches don't want some of that, go get drowned in a bathtub while drinking wine.
Meanwhile I'll be fappin till death and scoring ANY chick available, for men when it's about FAPPINESS/FUCKINESS money doesn't matter, learn something bitches.
“I have a boyfriend, but to be honest, it’s more fun without him.”
OTL
I think she wanted to say: “I have a boyfriend, but to be honest, it’s more fun if i had a girlfriend”
Ok lets raid japan and show them the way of love
I bet these are the same women that insult otaku for spending too much time alone.
Women. Enjoy your zucchinis because that'll be all that you'll get!
yeah, if a woman is alone, she is called a buisness woman.
if a man is alone, he is called an otaku...
we've seen some otaku father goin on a trip with his dutch daughter, or going to the pool with nanoha fate hayate vita etc, or inside the train. so not all otaku are alone :D
so if the man is alone, he's just single,
Soo all hese comments have me thinking Armitage anyone. The answer is Thirds.
Personally, I like going out with my friends more. Money isn't sexy to me either; that's never been a huge factor for me in relationships.
But I find it hard to argue with Saber.
women prefer Raito type of guy so we are sooooooo screw
Psycho massmurders with an autocratic nature and a god complex?
no no no, they want a mix of him and lelouch, someone who can take a chip and eat it with enough flowery hand motions to make them orgasm in delight
Expectations from women in Japan (or in Asia in general) are a bit different than in western societies; yes even now, so it's no wonder they rather spend time by themselves.
Talking from a society were women can't even fart in peace, I also rather spend time by myself than playing a stereotype for some pretentious sexist bastard.
LOL! True that! I'm still trying to get over the inferiority complex that society put over me.
an inferiority complex is usually something you force upon yourself, rather than something that society puts over you. or, more accurately, something you don't force yourself enough not to have.
in this day and age, there are numerous reasons why a male would have inferiority complexes towards females, and this doesn't look like it will improve any time soon. in the end, it becomes a showstopper for both sexes.
my personal solution to this is actually a simple, but maybe very much unrealistic one: men and women should both finally give up their traditional role models and make an effort to approach the "other" world. it's a complicated process, that must start from early life on, and much of the responsibility lies in mothers, fathers, siblings, teachers, politicians, religious leaders, actually, pretty much any one with an influence.
if gender borders can be broken down, there is no reason to develop any inferiority complex because of it. or experience disadvantages.
btw, i read the profile on your blog. seems like your inferiority complex was no reason to keep you from becoming a major go-getter at such a loli (sic!) age. what are you studying at mit?
I've personally never had any complexes about me being female; gender has always been second to personality and ability to me.
Your still in high school and made it into MIT. What has gender inequality done to you?
Lucky! >.~ Gender has hindered me so much in life.
You're welcome to come to the US and fart in public and see how people react to you. While I"m not disagreeing with you I just simply think you are jaded with the "grass is greener" attitude.
lol
That's cool if you wanna do stuff by yourself. Less problems to deal with anyway (And more money to yourself!). :P
I'm foreseeing Bishie Dakimakuras getting sold out in the future..
Why not?
They already sell battery-powered toys for the ladies.
thats not a good news