The reason I resist their attempts is because I know their nature too well. Most of my family are busybodies who love finding & amplifying anything remotely wrong with each other and are constantly making each other's lives miserable. Any girl they throw my way is just a pipeline of information into my personal life. I learned this the hard way as a kid with the way my aunts & uncles constantly found ways to twist anything my brother & I said to them or to any of my cousins in a way that kept my brother & I at odds with our mother.
Most of my "friends" are or were drug dealers and/or former inmates. The type of girls they draw aren't always the most trustworthy either. One childhood friend & one cousin are dead behind shacking up with these type of girls. In both cases, the girl opened the door for the guy who did the killing. I don't think I'll be looking to those guys for dates.
Now I understand where you're coming from a lot better.