The tale of a long-suffering imouto who would rather see her anime otaku brother dead than continuing his NEET existence has moved many online – and given that NEETs, hikikomori and otaku are widely regarded as the lowest forms of life in Japan, many are moved only to condemn her brother’s parasitic existence.
The original supplicant (thought to be his imouto):
I have an elder brother who turns 19 in September.
He was bullied a bit in high school, and took 2 years off. Then he was diagnosed with a social phobia at hospital.
After that he had to change school, and after a day stopped going, and has been off school ever since. I don’t know how to deal with him.
I don’t care if he doesn’t work full time, but I’d like him to work at least a few hours.
He gets and allowance from our mother every month, I honestly wish he’d stop! (I don’t get one)
Our mother can’t really buy the things she wants, and she pays the phone bills too, quite a bit with all our calls.
He also wanted our mother to buy him anime BDs, and I told him to make do with novels as they are really expensive, but she’s sure to get him them all the same.
He takes $350 worth of medicine every month, and on top of that he makes her pay for his mobile and give him an allowance. Isn’t there something wrong with this picture?
Our household is a single parent family, and there is also my older sister living with us, who is working. I only just graduated middle school, but thanks to my brother I wasn’t able to go to high school, I’m having to work part time and study with a friend in the hopes of attending university.
It’s hard being at home.
I’m really glad when he does occasionally go out, but mainly I just wish he would not come back.
I wish I could leave, or else that my brother would die. What should I do? I’m going to go crazy if I stay put.
The online verdict comes down squarely in the “better dead than NEET” camp:
“You guys again!”
“Think of your siblings!”
“Hurry up and kill yourselves!”
“Even I’m not this bad…”
“There really are some people it’s better to kill off.”
“NEETs are just society’s garbage.”
“There are so many of these mothers who pamper their scummy sons, aren’t there!”
“What would all you NEETs and anime otaku do?”
“Put some rope out for him.”
“Give him some charcoal briquettes.”
“Go and work in a soap.”
“Killing him would be an act of filial piety.”
“What kind of mother lets this get in the way of her daughter going to school?”
“Honestly, there should be some scholarships or something she can take. She’s just blaming her brother for her own failures.”
“Go to school! Even if only part time! Or was that a lie…”
“Even if he was bullied, the fact he couldn’t recover probably demonstrates what trash he is.”
“I used to think nobody could be this bad, but some time spent on Nico opened my eyes. It was quite the culture shock…”
“Blame his father. To have left them, he was probably some wife-beater or alcoholic, and so he raised this adult child and he and his mother became codependent. It may look like he’s to blame, but it’s probably his father not paying child support which caused this.”
“My family’s just like this one. My sister pesters our mother for cash and starts cutting up clothes if she doesn’t get it, saying she’ll become depressed. It’s our mother’s fault – she squandered her child support and maltreated her.”
“It’s better just to dump a family as poisoned as this.”
“It costs that much to medicate him? How many drugs is he taking?”
“It seems suspiciously high…”
“It isn’t – the only way psychiatrists have of making money is selling drugs, so they put out and prescribe vast amounts of them.”
“Still, they should be getting some assistance with that amount?”
“The mother is total scum. Quit spoiling him!”
“Is this definitely his imouto?”
“Only a female would spend so much time moaning on the Internet.”
“The girl who wrote this sounds as crazy as he is.”
“Just have it out with him.”
“Poor people should not be keeping NEETs. Give him $1000 and then hound him out. Only rich people should be allowed to keep NEETs.”
“If their household is so poor, why luxuries like mobile phones and BDs? She should be worrying about herself rather than her brother or mother, and aim for independence.”
“He’s 19, there’s still a chance he could reform.”
“He’s 19, the real hell is yet to come.”
“Just cut off his Internet access…”