Top 10 Traits That’d Turn You Off a Girl
- Categories: Japan, News
- Date: Sep 7, 2010 15:05 JST
- Tags: Comparison, Dating, Food, Rankings, Relationships
A ranking of the top flaws likely to turn a Japanese man off his girlfriend seems to reveal a rather traditional mentality on the part of men…
1. She can’t cook
2. She’s has a sharp tongue
3. She’s timid
4. She’s restrictive
5. She’s loose with her time
6. She’s negative
7. She’s forgetful
8. She’s bothersome
9. She’s got bad dress sense
10. She’s a miser
Japanese men apparently still think women belong in the kitchen – even if many apparently expect them to work for a living as well. Luckily Japanese women seemingly agree (as long as their man is paying them to be there).









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weird...personally i love timid girls...just number 9 and 8 is a problem...if so....
What about 'ugly'? :/ It's a problem to me.
For me :
1. She can’t cook / this isnt a problem , learn to cook is not a big deal my father always tell me , son a real man is the one who can survive by himself , if you know how to cook at least something that can make still alive , wash your clothes and know how to shoot a gun/riffle (wich one he also make me learn since 6-7 years old ) can survive not only in the normal jungle but also in the city jungle .
2. She’s has a sharp tongue ok i think this one is pretty annoying.
3.She’s timid / no problem
4. She’s restrictive / i dont know what is ( not english speaker)
5. She’s loose with her time / i have the same problem some times
6.She’s negative / this one is a turn off
7. She’s forgetful / i have the damn same problem
8. She’s bothersome / off
9. She’s got bad dress sense / if we go to a date or something i can be bothersome
10. She’s a miser / The most one that i hate
I wanna learn how to shoot a gun too!! is it difficult?
Some good ones in the list actually. lol
Timid- I like shy girls. Better than obnoxious annoying girls. That said, there has to be a sense of attraction too. I don't mean shy + they treat you like a stranger.
Can't cook- Cook yourself and show that you are useful in the relationship. Can't get any easier than that to be honest.
Bad fashion sense- If she allows, dress her up yourself.
Are you disagreeing with the 'Can't Cook' item on the basis that a guy should just use this opportunity to show he is useful in a relationship?
I don't agree with girls having to cook either; it isn't very hard for guys to make food good decent enough for themselves to eat, but this here is already a much better opportunity for the girl instead to prove that she is useful in this relationship. If a guy has a decent job, being the breadwinner is supposed to be useful enough. (Yeah I know women work too, but they don't usually do more difficult jobs which is they they are payed less on average)
Yeah. It seems most girls nowadays gets a job on top of a relationship nowadays. Or if they're too successful, you can have the dad be the daddy-mom.
'I know women work too, but...'
It's nice to know that a woman with a job is seen more as an afterthought than a fact. Don't forget you're in the 21st century, now. :)
Stay at home dad [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FmWp-rI6vSw]. Nothing to be ashamed of ;)
I'll accept any of those 'bad qualities', besides the sharp tongue if she's one of those people that likes to create a huge problem out of everything and rage like a madman.. I'll pass.
Same anon @ 17:32: Nevermind, it's probably a misunderstanding, and you're saying that those are ones you agree with, not disagree with. Got confused on the wording.
How come number 1 wasn't: She has a dick?
Surely thats a bigger problem than number 5; she's loose.
At least 7 of the listed are moe factors.
One thing I've noticed is that in Shoujo manga/anime the male heroes are almost always perfect in every manner: Martial arts, intelligence, tall, good looks, good at cooking, good at sports, experienced with women, romantic... How on Earth would you be able to like somebody with no faults at all? It'd be downright scary if somebody was actually capable of all that.
And the girls in manga/anime aimed at males often have very apparent flaws and it's these flaws that make those characters appealing to the viewer. What the hell is wrong with women?!
...yeah I read shoujo. Got a problem?
My personal Top 3:
1 She's ugly
2 She's bad in bed
3 She's too demanding
Anything else can be worked around.
There is no more to say.
So for being bad in bed, you can train her.
if it was a she, she wouldn't have a dick, because if it has a dick and looks like a woman it's still a man, no matter how much you want it to be a woman.
But if she is a real hermaphrodite, than you can look at her as a woman.
not really...hermaphrodites are genetically ALL MALES.
its true, males have the XY chromosome, females have the xx chromosome.
atleast one x is needed to have even the genetic possibility of a vagina, and conversely a y chromosome is needed to make it genetically possible to have a penis. thus males by default have the genes of possibilities of either penis or vagina. while true females CANNOT under any circumstance naturally grow a penis. Its not possible.
Thus Futas, hermaphrodites, and anyone with a penis is genetically male. Another way to recognize this is to look at embyros, all start off as male. then in the late 2nd term of pregnancy the males genetials start to form.
I think having a penis would effectively disqualify her from the "girl" section.
Unless they mean they don't really mind.
1. She can’t cook
I lol'd. 6, 8 and 10 would be the only ones that'd bother me. 2 is actually a good trait, imo, as long as she isn't overly abusive. I'm sure most of the people who voted for 2 wouldn't like Senjougahara.
Being timid is actually a huge bonus since you won't be constantly nagged and questioned when she thinks you're up to something...
I can stand these:
1. She can’t cook - I can't cook either...
2. She’s has a sharp tongue - Your cursing only makes my penis harder...
5. She’s loose with her time - No problem, since that means she'll be doing something else and not bothering me while I archive hentai...
6. She’s negative
7. She’s forgetful
8. She’s bothersome
9. She’s got bad dress sense
This made me think of Reimu Hakurei...
10. She’s a miser
Bonus...
3. She’s timid
This one is a major no-no...And will determine how long your relationships lasts before you cheat on her...
4. She’s restrictive
well with all the loli and futa fans im not supprised. a dick and small/no breast would be a plus for these guys...kinda like a lil chinese boy...OMFG, few times have i actually scared myself..that was one...poor chinese boys...
It means girls with dicks in not a problem to Japanese man
I could never choose a trap . Thats just gross . Give me a hideously ugly girl with nothing but bad traits over a trap any day lol .
Them japanese guys like their Hideyoshi. ^_^
An asshole is an asshole.
fuck these japanese lists, these losers have no clue what matters, its no wonder their society is on a decline.
before i even read this i was thinking, bad breath, disrespectful to people, dirty room with dirty underwear laying in her room, stuff like that.
but cooking?, sharp tongue? fuck these japanese dudes, they can go fuck their pillows for all i care, and they do too!!
a CUTE/HOT trap with better traits (and less financially dominating) than a woman is definitely better.
I rly want to hit a shemale at least once.
Completely agree
I'd take a hot trap with all of the good woman aspects over an actual woman with all the bad ones.
#5 means she doesn't have a strict daily schedule (but I could be wrong about that).
I suppose 1 and 2 are related then, i mean how can she cook food without a sharp tongue to cut and dice it.
lol @ #10."She's a miser"
Yet men there complain about women being gold diggers.
1. She can’t cook - cant cook as in read the label and do what it tells you? i know a few girls like that, really fucking annoying
2. She’s has a sharp tongue - if i have to listen to her bitch and make comments about me all the time, id hate her.
3. She’s timid - timid girls are fucking annoying. at the same time i don't want a dominatrix.
4. She’s restrictive - if she tells me i cant do something for no real reason her ass is out
5. She’s loose with her time - this means either late, or possibly to much free time. and if its free time, i dont care, so long as she got the daily basics done.
6. She’s negative - this can be a very down side, but i dont mind gloomy girls to much.
7. She’s forgetful - seriously this one would piss me the fuck off. she goes to a store, forgets what we need, comes back with crap we dont, and than has to go back with a note....
8. She’s bothersome - this is all encompassing everything thing huh? this is one that should be number 1
9. She’s got bad dress sense - i ware satin shorts and a t shirt, so long as she doesnt spend fuck loads on clothing i dont care.
10. She’s a miser - i had to look this word up, here is the wiki, A miser, cheapskate, curmudgeon, niggard, penny pincher, piker, scrooge, skinflint or tightwad
this applys to japanese women only.
now to the has a penis person, if i like her before i know and she shows it, i dont think i would care all to much.
and why isnt frigged bitch on the top 10 list?
I'm going to assume that the one about cooking applies to things not from a box.
Also, no dominatrix? Awww... Also, why are timid girls annoying? I've had people say that around me and it always made me so annoyed... But, everything in moderation.
Yes, I do agree with him. Why bother with dress or cooking skill? Especially the dress part. Jesus. There's tons of other negative specs that outwins it.
Mr Anonymous 18:21 07/09/2010 sounds like a nice guy =p
am i really he only one that isn't bothered by any of those ? I mean a girl can be cool, fun and sexy while still having all those "turn offs"
Almost all chicks in anime have ALL of those and they are still bitchin' hot xD
Why isn't "she has a dick" listed? O_O
NUMBER ONE:SHE HAS A FUCKING DICK.
NUMBER TWO:SHE DONT WANNA HAVE SEX.
these are the only defects a woman can have
Traps.
#12... she got armpit hairs.
Anonymous
20:51
i have never met a timid girl who was timid in moderation.
i want a girl to speak her mind, voice her opinion, not someone who who is quiet and says nothing at all and just goes with everything regardless of their wants. and i bring up dominatrix, because timid in bed wont tell you what they like or at least not much, but dominatrix will force what they like onto you. i believe in a happy medium between the two.
Anonymous
04:43
in japan its common for women to take all the money from a guy (wife at least) and give him an allowance, anywhere from 10$ a week to 100$
thats why i said that one applies to japanese women only.
#11... she flat as a board!
I think it might be more along the lines of being late, miss appointments, etc.
imho,
1. she is restrictive
2. she is negative
3. she has a sharp tongue
and "she is timid", isn't that actually a bonus!? That goes in sharp contrast to all of those other things.
I'm personally only bothered by 4/6/8/9. I wouldn't be able to stand a negative, restrictive bitch that is a constant nag and has no taste in clothes for me or for her.
Somebody who is open-minded, makes the world a better place and is pleasant to be around matters to me quite a bit.
For me, it's not the end of the world if she can't cook, or if she's cheap. Besides, being timid could be exactly what a man wants too.
heh, i'd only consider number 4, 6, 8 and 10 to be something negative (possibly number 3 and 7 as well in extreme cases)
1. She can’t cook - i have fairly decent cooking skills myself, so this one doesn't bother me much
2. She’s has a sharp tongue - if you can't handle tongue lashing every now and again you're a weak, weak man. i actually prefer it if she has a sharp enough tongue to say what she means, yet not so sharp that she randomly insults people on the street. it's better than having her bottle it up only to unleash it in a brutal massacre 15 years later X)
5. She’s loose with her time - if you mean usually arriving an hour later than agreed, that's fine by me. if you mean "wasting" the time by being "unproductive", that's fine by me too X)
9. She’s got bad dress sense - *tries to give a flying fuck* *fails*. if she's good looking even if she dresses badly, i don't see why she should think too much about how she dresses.
I'm pretty much fine with all EXCEPT
#10 She's a miser
I'm gonna be footing the bill everyday =_=
... I guess all of the Otaku were at home when this survey was being done. Isn't timid one of the big ones in moe?
2. She’s has a sharp tongue
Would be a shame if she accidently cuts your dick with her tongue, eh?
Do you mean, in a metaphorical sense, or...
;-)
i wouldnt mind if she has a sharp tongue
i like to tease people myself and if they dont react or dont say something it gets boring
so it is actually a good thing is she has a sharp tongue (it is far more funny to get an more emotinal response)
mmh i guess i somehow would prefer tsundere
I guess most of the people who read this are probably expecting the women's version of this, sort of a reply to the article in question.
I've got only one.
She's a gold digger.
Agreed with all 10, especially the negative & forgetful ones.
#8 I might have some issue with and possibly #4, depending on how bad she was.....
1. STDs
2. Fake breasts
3. Can be bought for $20
That's basically my list.
Why isn't "Duck faces" on the list?
Duck face cosplays, that's why!
As for flaws likely to turn a Japanese girl off her boyfriend:
1. He's poor
2. He's poor
3. He's poor
4. He's poor
5. He's poor
6. He's poor
7. He's poor
8. He's poor
9. He's poor
10. He's poor
My list for unacceptable guys:
1)He's ugly. This includes baldness, fatness, a nose that's too big or a bad complexion. I don't like excessive facial or body hair either.
2)He's lazy.
3)He's fat.
4)He's stupid or culturally ignorant.
5)He doesn't read or watch educational programmes occasionally.
6)No college degree.
7)He's a Conservative, or super religious or patriotic.
8)All he plays are shooters.
9)He's a know-it-all.
10)He's clingy and wants to be all up in my business constantly.
lold at this being rated down. Must be some butthurt ugly guys in here.
I'm now going to pretend I'm male and make a list of my own and hope that I can stick to ten things.
1. She's completely vapid
2. She spends too much money on designer purses, shoes, clothing, etc., and it's off her dad's credit card
3. She spends too much money on that crap and it still looks terrible (Problem with mainstream fashions... Most of them look like crap. Besides, say, goth and loli fashions, most of them look terrible... I stopped looking to the runway for design ideas years ago.)
4. She's a wacko fundamentalist Christian and thinks that anime, video games and D&D are the devil
5. She hates the fact that I have a large collection of hentai images on my computer
6. She has artificially tanned skin and blonde hair and also spends too much money on it (pale skin, black/red/blue/green/whatever hair and black clothing is better anyway)
7. She doesn't like the fact that I sew things because I didn't buy them pre-made off the rack
8. We have no interests in common
9. She hates necromancy
10. She says that all women should be housewives and wants everything to go back to how things were in "the good ol' days" all while being a money suck and not even being good at all around the house
BONUS! Because I'm just so nice.
11. She tells me that my drawings are terrible but doesn't tell me why
12. She tells me that I'm a pervert and that it's a bad thing
13. She wants her first time to be "magical" (Bring out the unicorns and leprechauns because this is going to be a party!) and wants it to be after marriage, but doesn't want to do any research into it to make things maybe go not crappy
14. She doesn't want to try anything other than vanilla sex
15. She's a rabid pro-life neocon
...Seriously, that's a lot of stuff that pisses me off about a lot of females today. Might have even more bonuses, but I'd only be able to think of them after this is posted. Of course.
Would have added something about The Handmaiden's Tale, but I don't feel like it. Or about how a bunch of girls are guy-crazy but say that they don't know anything and refuse to believe that gender really doesn't affect knowledge... Or about lying about how many guys she's slept with... But bleh.
Forgetful airheaded girls are moe=D
not in 3D!
No they are annoying.
Aww, I can't cook at all. Guess I'll have to marry Hosaka, hell yeah. Nothing sexier than a man who cooks.
All of them seems to be traits that I'll like to find in a girl.
What actually turns me off.
1. She's got breast larger than A cup
2. She dresses up like a whore (simplicity is key)
3. She wears makeup
4. She's obnoxious and social
5. She does not wear glasses.
6. Gets excited over every single little thing.
7. Have a great outlook on everything.
Much of this is obvious trolling.
I don't mind if she can't cook, 'coz I can. XD
10. She's a miser
O.o Huh. I guess considering the current situation with guys wanting working wives and whatnot (though don't these responses seem a little oxymoronic? They don't want a sharp-tongued girl, yet they don't want one who's timid, either?)...Though I'd think that a man would want a girl who doesn't spend much money...at the very least, she has enough sense to not spend her entire bank account, and can spend what money she has on the rent, and not on, say, pointless cosmetics that are too expensive and not worth it?
Unless she's such a spendthrift that she won't even spend money on necessities, then it can be a major problem...
Females control the money in the family. So a miser would not give allowance to the man for his hobbies.
I'm fairly certain that miser goes beyond simply being thrifty. If I'm not mistaken, being a miser implies that you don't spend any money on anything other than necessities. Now, sure, it's nice to find things that don't require money, but... sometimes it can go a little overboard.
Besides, what's the point of having money if you're never going to ever do anything with it? Sure, it's good to save, but... Again, moderation.
Now, if she is thrifty and can find good deals, then I'd hope that guys wouldn't have much of a problem with her...
Though, really, a lot of these seem like fairly trivial turn-offs that wouldn't matter much once you got to know the girl... Besides, wouldn't the flip-side of this be a lot more troubling? Spending too much money on designer clothes, handbags, shoes, etc. Bonus points if she's using her dad's credit card. Wouldn't that be a lot more of a worry in today's economy?
I think I'd like qualities #2 and #3. At least, those are the kind of girls I like in anime/games.
A ranking of the top flaws likely to turn a man off his girlfriend: 1) Tits or GTFO. The other 9 don't matter.
The only thing that bothers me here is:
9. She’s got bad dress sense
4 6 7 8 10 are problems, but 6 and 7 (in non-extreme quantities) are ok. 3 on the other hand is a BONUS
I'm surprised being excessively obese isn't part of it.... How many guys I know hate fat girls, almost criminally
The biggest turn off are people who actually care about those rankings.
And behold, the smartest comment.
Wanting your woman to be able to cook doesnt necessarily mean that you think women belong in the kitchen.
I want a girl that could cook. That doesn't mean I want them to be house wife.
they answered after shown the picture above
Everything's fine except 1, 4, 9 kinda, and 10.
These just seem like negative traits overall rather than for women. (woman problems are more glaring)
Somehow i disagree with the timid as dis-merit...Just my 25 cents
I'd switch #3 with #10, and put #2 at 4 or 5. Seems accurate that way, but being timid is a bonus, as long as she can clearly speak her mind (hence why sharp tongue is not #2).
You know these are all traits we would love for a 2D girl, right?
Hey i'm not so bad! :D
1. She can’t cook - I try my best, but i'm always afraid other people wouldn't like what i like..
2. She’s has a sharp tongue - I say what needs to be said, if that's what it means, but i NEVER insult people
3. She’s timid - This, in my case, is so extreme it IS a bad thing.
4. She’s restrictive - Bah..
5. She’s loose with her time - I'm forgetful, i do have an agenda to compensate though ^^
6. She’s negative - Haha neverrr, that trait in other people really gets on my nerves..
7. She’s forgetful - See #5
8. She’s bothersome - Um.. Well i try not to be, and anyway i expect people to tell me if i am :/
9. She’s got bad dress sense - I like clothes too much for that :3
10. She’s a miser - I'm quite the opposite actually, i have to work on that hehe..
the fact that they should remain in the kitchen is no contradictory with the fact they should earn a living too, they can cook and sell pies or run a restaurant...
all is forgiven if she sucks a mean dick...
she can't have a sharp tongue or be timid?? Make up your mind. You can't have it both ways.
1. Thou shalt not eat out or have take-out.
2. Thou shalt not be critical.
3. Thou shalt not be silent.
4. Thou shalt not party-poop.
5. Thou shalt not dawdle.
6. Thou shalt not player-hate.
7. Thou shalt be mindful of all things at all times.
8. Thou shalt not cause inconvenience.
9. Thou shalt know what to wear and how to wear it.
10. Thou shalt not hoard money.
Lo and behold! The (Proposed)Law of the Covenant Between Man and Prospective Wife In Japan. Stiff-necked women who will not keep these Commandments shall be Anethema and cast into employment in the adult entertainment industry at subsistance wages.
lol what's wrong for being timid? i think it's good she's shy since you can understand her better rather than those who bitch alot.
"She’s loose with her time"
what do you mean by this? is that she's not using her time wisely or what?
ohh one last thing. she's a trap. no matter how good looking "she" is, a trap is a trap
btw nice header pic. i want a maid sama too :)
1. She can’t cook: I don't mind that we can learn how to cook together. Sandwiches, subs, and cereal FTW baby!!
2. She’s has a sharp tongue: as long as she can give constructive criticism bcuz im not much an arguer. So if shes yelling at me over the phone or what not, Im not going to answer.
3. She’s timid: thats hot!!! just not tsundere, no beating around the bush either.
4. She’s restrictive: as in stalkish or controlling??? both are not cool
5. She’s loose with her time: We can work on the time issue
9. She’s got bad dress sense: Could care less about what she wears. her fashion is hers.
Miser, bothersome, negative, forgetful abilities I don't like in a girl. Now if she has a penis, we gotta work that out I wanna be doing all the sexual penetration lmbo ^-^
1. She can’t cook
As long as she's good in bed, everything else can be worked on.
2. She’s has a sharp tongue
I like a woman with an opinion.
3. She’s timid
I don't actually want a cow.
This conflicts with 4 and 8
4. She’s restrictive
Clearly 4 is in conflict with 3
5. She’s loose with her time
I like a woman that can plan her time well.
6. She’s negative
No one likes negativity in anyone.
7. She’s forgetful
Hey I have a lousy memory too.
8. She’s bothersome
Sure is in conflict with 3
9. She’s got bad dress sense
Actually it's normally guys that can't dress themselves.
10. She’s a miser
I like a woman that can save money well. Frugal is a good skill.
This list over all, if drawn up by a guy for Japanese guys, clearly indicates most Japanese guys have no fucking clue what they want.
Well it says 'ranking' so my guess is there was some kind of poll, and this is the top 10 results of it. Doesn't necessarily mean that someone who said, say, no.3 was the worst thing also believed that, say, no.2 was the worst.
I'm mostly confused by 'timid' being on there, I thought japanese guys were all over that timid shit.
...Maybe it's only those creepy otaku who like timid girls? Who knows.
Honestly, though, it's really a lot better to take girls as they are... You're bound to find something that you don't like about them, but the positives outweigh the negatives and you may find yourself a more accepting and open-minded individual. That's what we can all hope for, at least.
So the average Japanese man would hate Reimu, got it.
And pretty much any popular female anime character, when you look at it.
Weak guys can't appreciate a tsundere girl. ^_^
I really like when they can give me contra.