Top 10 Qualities of the Ideal Husband or Wife
- Categories: Japan, News
- Date: May 14, 2010 08:03 JST
- Tags: Comparison, Dating, Marriage, Rankings, Relationships, Statistics
A survey of Japanese men and women reveals just what qualities it is they seek from a prospective husband or wife; the results may very well not be surprising…
1. Stable work
2. Kindness
3. Desires children
4. Health
5. Compatibility with your parents
6. Good at housework
7. Saves money
8. Is serious
9. Independent from his parents and family
10. Possesses fortitude
The survey’s wording is too polite to say “he has lots of money” (although other surveys are not so circumspect), so it is reasonable to equate this to the “stable job” requirement.
1. Kindness
2. Good at housework
3. Desires children
4. Understanding about your work
5. Understanding about your hobbies
6. Healthy
7. Compatibility with your parents
8. Calm
9. Possesses fortitude
10. Doesn’t interfere all the time
Leaving aside the desire for a reasonable personality shared by both sexes, quite a gulf between the expectations of the sexes is evident, with women rather concerned with what their partner will do for them in material terms, and men apparently more concerned with what they can avoid having done to them by their partner.
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Ideal qualities in a wife:
1. Knows when to STFU.
2. Can phuck whenever the men wants it.
3. Can make a damn good sammich.
4. Cleans up after herself and you.
sadly, no women ever in existence can possess ideal quality #1.
All I want is a girl with substance. A pretty face would be nice too. A strong, independent type, I guess. Yeah...
No 1: has to be 2D :)
Only to pathetic otakus like you.
No.2: tsundere :)
So...a man being good at housework is more important than saving money, having fortitude, and being independent of his parents? Yea, it's pretty obvious that after the stable job choice, and kindness, they just didn't care how they marked the others...
where is the love ?
6. 2 dimensional.
I want a girl with a good stable work so I can stay at home doing houseworks while reading sankaku and watching anime :O
I should've been born a girl lol
Men want a buddy.
Women want a slave.
What else is new?
1,4,5,8 and 10 Fucking win!, is it that hard to ask for? how about just 4,5 and 10? can you ladies do just that much for us men?
"Desires children" is third for both male and female, yet Japan is having issues with its birth rate? Huh.
Well, nothing changed over there.
Women mostly don't WANT to work in a hard hard japanese company's full-time job and rather be housewifes. Pretty sad, but that's the way it seems to be.
Stable work makes sense. I've seen relationships break due to unemployment. And ever tried to give your kids an education without being able to afford it?
Man... how boring. Both men and women seem to only be thinking about a gray and comfortably uneventful family routine until the end of their days. Where's sense of humour? shared interests? Romance, adventure and fun?
Those come in your relationships before marriage :D
Bullshit. No wonder so many people don't want to marry these days.
I get a feeling most of the men interviewed are pussies at best, and most of the women....well they are traditional to say the least.
I won't say much since America has the same problem. But yea at the rate they are going, the Japanese are definitely going to have outsource their sex escapades, because the only thing they seem to hate more than anything else is each other.
10: Because no one wants to be called while they're working (unless it's an emergency, which is why you pay attention to the evil Overlord/Empress' list: never shoot down the messenger).
7: Because on a personal reason, I suck with money. So I wouldn't mind someone who is good with it.
4 and 5: Who wouldn't want someone in that department? If you want of all people your wife/hubby busting your balls because of the job you like and the things you do to keep stable.
1: That's a given. We all want someone to love us.
Everything else: ...Friggin' stereotype wishing.
Women :
1. Stable work
-So I can keep using you as a wallet
2. Kindness
-You won't hit me when I use up all your savings for a pair of shoes
3. Desires children
-I'll keep getting your money long after you divorce me
4. Health
-You won't die so i can keep getting your money
5. Compatibility with your parents
- eh i got nothing xP
6. Good at housework
- again got nothing
7. Saves money
-So I can buy even more expensive things
8. Is serious
-Won't bail before I lock him in a marriage with kids
9. Independent from his parents and family
-Has nobody to fall back on when the going gets tough so when I divorce him I can get more money!
Men :
1. Kindness
-Don't want some bitch nagging on me for everything
2. Good at housework
-Got nothing
3. Desires children
-I want sex while continuing my family name
4. Understanding about your work
-Want to vent anger about the stupid shit I have to deal with at work and someone feeling my pain
5. Understanding about your hobbies
-Want to enjoy certain things without being judged
6. Healthy
-Shit i just got a girl I dont want her dying on me
7. Compatibility with your parents
-Got nothing
8. Calm
-A crazy girl isn't good for the long run. I'd rather not have to worry about dying in my sleep or having a random dildo shoved up my ass somewhere in the day.
9. Possesses fortitude
-got nothing
10. Doesn’t interfere all the time
-Some alone time does wonders, you have time to figure out new things to do with your girl.
Ok I've got it all figured out....I'm never fucking going to japan EVER!
1 - Anime character
2 - Anime character
3 - Anime character
4 - Anime character
5 - Anime character
6 - Anime character
7 - Anime character
8 - Flat chestu
9 - Beautiful pantsu
10 - Won't run away given her first chance.
whats with the "is serious" for women
serious women is no fun at all
It shows humans are animals. Its all about breeding.
White europeans need to have more kids though, we are a dying race, people are to selfish to have kids these days. The women are feminazis concentrating on their career rather than their human priorities and the men are acting like women, its disgusting.
We are all about breeding, but we are also about instilling values in our children for the future of humanity. Nowadays women hardly concentrate on their children and the children grow up involved in gangs and what not.
Marxist political correctness is anti human.
Your missing a key factor, while i don't disagree with what you said, money does play a factor in this. Most average families nowadays are struggling, so its deterring new couples from wanting kids they cannot support. Maybe if the gov't did more to assist people wanting kids, or tried better tactics to fix this economic slump we are all still in then maybe we might actually have a population increase.
I'll have to nit-pick and say, feminazis aren't as concerned with their career as they are with destroying men. Unless they both happen to coincide with one another.
My list:
1. Has no gag reflex.
2. Can still successfully work the stove and cook a decent meal, even with my cock in her ass.
3. has some big titties and a robust and curvacious body.
Thee end.
So, women don't need you to understand them, only fake it.
"Desires children" is #3? Really? Considering Japan's abysmally low birth rate, I find this hard to believe.
"Desires Children" is the polite way to say "i want sex".
In other words, women want money, men want understanding and moral support.
The second highest quality of an ideal wife is her ability to do household? Is he looking for a maid? Yeah, he should just marry one, saves money.
If she's gonna stay home anyways, she might as well do something.
Hmmmm,.... I got 1 thru 10,... but I have my suspicions.
The only other females who seem to be available are woefully out of shape & a goodly portion of them are tired of working. Regardless of the job being a career or dead end service job.
I've had a profile in both JapanCupid & Singlesnet for years,...
But no takers, too bad -their loss not mine.
If they're not really sure about what they want with the rest of their lives. Then its their own issues that are getting in the way.
As they say;
"Dems da breaks kiddo"
o.o*!!
wuts the problem with wanting a partner that isn't out of shape?
Hey - I've been fat, not just chubby but really FAT. It was a long road to recovery, but I'm fully aware that I'm not a kid anymore.
I have my sensibilites, and being responsibly slender is one of them.
These days a lotta women don't have a lotta scruples let alone ethics.
No biggie, as they are I'd rather have a 2D girlfriend than an immature bimbo who is past her prime in more ways than 5.
There is nothing intrinsically weird about either list.
Girls want a husband to support them and clearly guys want a housewife to support.
Sounds totally 1950s North America. It's what I grew up wanting at least.
I wouldn't call the list even an iota of Japanocentric in appearance.
Now when you consider some of the other lists we have seen recently, well, I can only say, good luck, you will need it. Because neither gender seems much interested in doing anything to make this list happen.
On a side note, "smart", "educated" didn't made it in top 10... sounds like they just search for a reliable in-house multi services provider...
Wait... i just realised that everyone wants (to marry)... A MAID ! (or butler)
great news, SC posters : we're normal !
here is my 1-10, for male or female as i dont care which.
1 must have an attractive face
2 must be under 140lbs if male and very feminine, if female, gut must be bigger than boobs, or under 160lbs, which ever comes first
3 must not be a celebrity worshiping fucktard
4 must not be in to grown up things for grownups only (you know these kind of douche bags who only watch "grown up" tv and cant watch an episode of sponge bob and laugh)
5 must have a job that they can support there living expenses (lets face it, i will be lucky to get a 20$ an hour job, i dont care how much i like the person i refuse to support them on 20$ or less alone.)
6 must be capable of self teaching. you ever been with someone who comes to you for tech questions, and its the same fucking question over and over again? you understand where im coming from with this than
7 must not desire to go anywhere, i mean like hawaii or paris or any of that extreme expensive shit
8 must have a layed back personality, where little shit dosent get to them
you know i think i hit all the major with those 8
"2 must be under 140lbs if male and very feminine"
You're looking for a twink? Why not be a real wo/man and go for a bear?
with 2 i ment must not be bigger, computers running like crap and im typing faster than it can keep up
and because, you have seen them, the guys that look more female than most women. if one of them was willing to be with me, i dont think i would have any problem with it.
or a realy good tranny.
i mean in all likeliness i will never meat some one that i like. but if that someone happens to be a guy, should i realy not go with them just because they have a penis?
I think an ATM holds most of the qualities desired by those women.
10. Doesn't Interfere all the time
Interfere with what? His Ero-Game time or his staring up figurines skirts hour?
Then that would lead to
5. Understanding about Hobbies
Does that mean stalking kindergarden girls with cameras all day?
I think stalking kindergarden girls with cameras all day would go into the "understands job" category ...
Sooo. In other words, being a decent human being on both sides.
Who knew...?
#5 and 10 for the men side... 5 had me at a chuckle and 10 had me a full laugh :D
just combine the two for an all nighter of whatever it is you want her to understand and not have her interfere with :)
1. No gag reflex
2. Tubes tied
3. Pro abortion
4. cusses at seagulls
5. under 14
It's too bad Japanese people apparently don't like funny people 8(
Because funny people are like attention whores, if they're not making everyone around them laugh they resort to whatever measures they can to make them, including cracking offensive jokes about other people, which becomes annoying sooner rather than later.
Number one rule of Japanese society behaviour: Do NOT cause 'meiwaku' [trouble, inconvenience] to others.
I've got 1,3,4,7,9,10, arn't I a catch
Depends on your face because women always fantasize that their true love must be attractive.
Men rock.
Fuck you, I'm drunk.
Needs smexier OP pictures.
I suggest you stay put when you're drunk. Don't make an idiot of yourself or the whole male gender.
You mean, as opposed to 75% of the shit-stupid comments here?
11. Ideal husband or wife shall not be ideal [perfect].
Actual Mens Number 1 ~ Isn't 3D.
Nothing is perfect.
Maybe that's why god doesn't like showing around so often.
Definitely not surprising. People sure like their kindness. Though the women like their men working even more so apparently.
Hm. Well I guess I can't be surprised with that result...
Am I the only one who thought of horses and manure when I read the word stable work?
I think you'd make a good a good Wife Mikorio...after all you're already an Otaku and you've got girly parts!
Definitely thought of horses. A question though, are these surveys conducted just in Tokyo or in other places? There's reason to believe that city girls are more material anyway. I'm just kind of tired of hearing the "women only want money" thing all the time. Yeah, some just want stability while others are just that materialistic. It's a mixed bag.
did anyone else lol at 'Calm', that one stuck out like a sore thumb.
Anons can't have Edit so double post is the only option.
Though, to repost for a little change like this... =_=;
double post is fail.
double post is fail.
Definitely thought of horses. Also, are these surveys conducted just in Tokyo or in other places? There's reason to believe that city girls are more material anyway. I'm just kind of tired of hearing the "women only want money" thing all the time. Yeah, some just want stability while others are just that materialistic. It's a mixed bag.
Wants children? I see they want to keep the population up, even though its failing
because most of them can afford only ONE CHILD
In Japan, it's even not uncommon for dad, mom and grandparents from both sides to stick together for paying the education of their offspring.
Money >>>>>>>> Feelings
because love alone can't buy you that mansion with helicopter landing field you always wanted so much.
Number zero: DFC
im not gd at house work, can i be a gd hubby if i pay for maid?
if you're female, yes, if you're a guy, no.
now wait a minute... did you say hubby? get lost you lazy bum!
So women are takers and men want their wives to leave them alone.
figures.
Am I the only one that thought stable work involved horses?
At least you didn't misinterpret "desires children".
HAHAHAHAHA.
Ha HA! Cannibalism.
Does "desire children" means "share the same interest?
Share interest for orgies? ^_^
http://www.sankakucomplex.com/2009/12/06/60-of-japanese-agree-children-are-unnecessary/
They want unnecessary children?
They want to claim child support like that one guy who adopted 500+ kids... ^_^
"Desires children" .... wow... what a polite & neutral way of saying they want sex
Even more than the economic issue... for me it's interesting how women want their husbands to be independent from their families, while men want their wives to be compatible with said families.
I'm going with the women's view on this. You marry the guy, not his mother.
Wait.
According to this survey, it's the women who give "compatibility with your parents" a higher priority, taking the 5th place on the women's poll and 7th on the men's. So I'm guessing you would agree with the men a bit more.
On another note, if you follow the original links, the "independent from his(/her) parents and family" takes the 14th place for men, so apparently they aren't as concerned about women being dependent of their parents than the women surveyed.
What bothers me is how the men have no indication of wanting their wife to be their own person. No wonder women only care about their husband's material wealth because it looks like that's the only thing husbands in Japan are expected to provide...not emotional support, care, attention, or commitment..
most women are like that. I'm not anthropologist, but i'm sure it has to do with the woman being at the center of her own family cell as child-bearer : she need stability, ressources, and unconditionnal attention.
As male, i totally understand that, though some really push that too far : A friend just broke with her girlfriend because she was like "you won't see your friends anymore when we'll marry and have kids"
That makes sense... I was thinking more about the overbearing mother-in-law who imposes herself on the wife, to make sure that she's good enough for her son. This almost always results in the mother-in-law only approving women who are carbon copies of herself. But I suppose both points are related.
Wives consciously want to distinguish themselves as much as possible from their husbands' mothers, and they want their men to be confident enough to form their own opinion on the person they're going to marry and on what kind of life they want to have. At the same time, the emotional dependence that males may feel for their female mates can be VERY attractive to the females, something that is conveniently processed on the unconscious part of the psyche so that its association with parenthood isn't brought to light.
In other words, this issue is thorny as hell.
And so are overbearing mothers-in-law.
So Japanese marriage = Prostitution.
Female sell there bodies to the male for there money.
Its not just Japanese woman.
Men seek a partner for their live.
Women seek a purse for their live.
Men lie to get laid- "I love you babe."
Women lie to get rich- "It's your baby!"
Sadly we are more shortsighted and thus lose out in the long run to women.
Men seeks a wife so they can have children and "desires" them.
I seem to have most down
Poor men wanting the women to understand them... in everything they do.. these are included in the list cuz these don't happen irl
Men and women are like two seperate species. The brains obviously work too different to really understand each other.
Sad truth is sad.
what? women want men to understand their "work" and "hobbies"?
i fully understand how to make a sandwich..so i qualify
For men = this is the list of the men surveyed.
Marry me.
#0: Ideal woman has to be hot and good in bed
Make that "hot and obedient in bed".
Kurehito Misaki/Kuroya Shinobu not smexy enough for you?
I find a little funny that desiring children is so important, with Japan's denatality.