What the Japanese Want in a Partner
- Categories: Japan, News
- Date: Jun 27, 2009 10:01 JST
- Tags: Dating, Marriage, Obesity, Rankings, Relationships, Statistics
A recent survey has uncovered just what it is Japanese men and women say they want from a partner in terms of both looks and mental characteristics, and what they look at on a date.
The results may make interesting, if unsurprising, reading…
The survey covered 2,032 men and women aged 12-79.
Their sampling methodology is not disclosed, but the survey was commissioned by a hair clinic, which may explain some of the results…
What physical characteristics are most desired in a spouse?
By men:
1. Not fat (47%)
2. Good looking/cute (40%)
3. Has a full head of hair (19%)
4. Not greasy (17%)
5. Slender (8%)
By women:
1. Not fat (46%)
2. Not greasy (39%)
3. Not balding (36%)
4. Good looking/cute (19%)
5. Tall (19%)
It seems fat, greasy and bald men are the least desired by women, which may leave certain demographics in a quandary…
What mental characteristics are most desired in a spouse?
By men:
1. Kindness (57%)
2. Fidelity (45%)
3. Similar values (36%)
4. Seriousness (26%)
5. Fond of children (23%)
By women:
1. Fidelity (67%)
2. Kindness (67%)
3. Reliability (55%)
4. Similar values (52%)
5. Can work (42%)
The relative importance of physical and mental characteristics is not dealt with, though it is not hard to guess what tendencies such results might display.
What physical features men and women pay most attention to on a date?
By men:
1. Clothes
2. Hairstyle
3. Eyes
4. Legs
5. Mouth
By women:
1. Clothes
2. Hairstyle
3. Eyes
4. Hands
5. Nose
We have to wonder at the survey’s decision to exclude “breasts” from the ranking…
Men who fear for their marriage prospects after seeing these lists can of course rest easy: Japanese women apparently value one quality above all others, even if the Bowdlerised results here are too polite to mention it…
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I can't beleive 2D was not an option! D:
What about intelligence? I can't stand people who can't think about anything that has a point for even one second, even if they're unbelievably hot. THIS is why 2D women have a better potential at being better than 3D women. Motoko Kusanagi, for example, is an easy runner for best female ever, except that not only is she 2D but also a robot.
Sorry George Castanza!
Character is on tops for me whither looking for a partner or just a friend. There just aren't enough people with character these days. Few people have that something that sets them appart from others. Most of the girls I've met are all just crazy cute-freaks and MTV cult members.
I failed and passed under certain categories
It's funny, because if you ask a white girl she'll ask for someone that'll look like saucegay or sephiroth, or some anime "dude". I can understand that "not fat" choice, haha.
But non-otaku white girls aren't into girly guys... o_o
Sephiroth... I'd hit it.
I love Mai Nakahara! hehe. :D
>>5. Can work (42%)
I'm a man and I would vote that highly.:/
Was that not even a choice for men?
...Oh Japan..
"...women aged 12-79"?
79?? :O
Well they start thinking about it early.
I don't know why it's so hard for people to beleive that young teens feel like going out with each other. Many may not choose to, but most are at least starting to get interested in the opposite sex.
It's not that we don't believe that teens want to date, it's more that we don't take teens seriously when it comes to dating because most teens only want to date someone hot. Adults on the other hand take other things into consideration when it comes to choosing a partner.
I like how "not fat" won over "slender". Nearly fat is better than slender. Slender is overrated, like fashion models and super models.
screw Seriousness, about just not F****n crazy! like no stabbing pepole at ramdom.
I'm more interested on a survey done on younger women. Or should I just say loli? ^_^
Btw, nose? O_O
I'm surprised "can work" isn't higher. I thought marrying a man without money in Japan was considered "unthinkable" by the majority of Japanese women? Inconsistent studies?
Thanks to girl power, women now are graduating from college at a higher rate than men and making more money. In the future, we'll see women increasingly shun provider males for the guy that makes their heart race. (players, criminals, bullies etc...)
I think you missed the last study about this on Sankaku...
there's still one survey left body type Japan FTW
Um, is hair really that important? I never comb mine.
Hairstyle, eyes, facial structure, hands, collarbones >>> clothes.
But nice clothes are still nice =)
It's weird that clothes is on the men's list. Men always look better with their clothes on so I understand why it's on the women's list, but the men's?
"It seems fat, greasy and bald men are the least desired by women, which may leave certain demographics in a quandary…"
Lol! That means all of you!
By men:
2. fidelity (45%)
By women:
1. fidelity (67%)
So over half of japanese men don't care if their partner sleeps around. I guess that explains all that hentai where guys force their wife/girlfriend into gangbangs. I thought more women would want a faithful partner though, I guess that's just a cultural difference between japan and america.
Isn't this more like what everybody wants in a partner? I sure as hell don't want my partner to be bald fat and greasy.
Can somebody explain me what fidellity means?
Not a native english speaker.
The meaning of fidelity has changed over the years. Nowadays, it means for a married person to not sleep with another man or woman who is not their husband or wife.
Fidelity is a word that can also be used with dating.
thx dude now i undrestand.
maybe I won't fail at life after all.I might still have hope.
What the heck does not greasy suppose to mean? Oily skin?
I think it just means that they keep themselves clean.
Clearly those list are from people who hasnt been to a mature relationship or havent had a partner...
Commonly girls doesnt care if youre ugly, bald, greasy or whatever.. what is important is that you have a car and nice fancy clothes and lot and lots of money.
Did anyone else notice how those percentages added up to over 100? Unless 46% of women said they didn't want fat husbands, in which 54% don't really mind.
I think it's a multiple-answer survey, in which a respondent can choose more than one answer...
I interpreted the word 'most' in 'what _____ is most desired' to be choose one over the others, instead of multi answer. Still, the physical characteristic part not having a single thing over 50% means that more men don't care about what's listed than do.
I think its because the survey does not limit them to one characteristic as a choice. Its obvious that they were asked multiple answers for one question.
Impressive not even once "intelligence" comes up...
Exactly what I though
I agree
Yuki Nagato == Intelligent && Cute
sadly for you, Yuki Nagato == A Drawing
dammit, if men should use 'Axe' fragances, it'll make the ladies follow em. LOL!
or get out the gas mask...
What mental characteristics are most desired in a spouse?
By men:
1. Kindness (57%)
2. Fidelity (45%)
3. Similar values (36%)
4. Seriousness (26%)
5. Fond of children (23%)
6. A woman that has domain and treat me like a dog (100%)
A man must work :3
I have most of what the opposite gender want.
Still no Partner...
i agree leon, no worries. they all say i am gifted but wierd lol. i am 18 now. how old are you
This assumes the two are already going on a date, which is ultimately where people decide and try to figure out if the other person is right.
I agree totally. I'm always getting on my bf for being greasy faced, which I understand that he can't help but at least wash it more often D:
By everyone using the word "greasy", they really mean to use the word "sweaty", right? :P
You wish.
Washing your face too often / too harshly will make your face oilier. The human body is extremely good at adapting, that includes compensating for the skin getting even more dried out. Moisturizing frequently and just gently wiping excess oil off helps a great deal more than stripping as much of the oil of as often as possible.
At work, I take a paper towel, right, and wet half of it, right, and wipe it all over my face, first with the wet half, then with the dry half, right? Helps me feel less like shit and also helps the old pimples. Seriously. MAKE HIM DO IT, IT IS SO EASY AND HE WILL BE HAPPIER, WHO THE FUCK CARES ABOUT YOU, YOU JUDGMENTAL BITCH... sorry, i didn't mean that. i'm just very self-conscious about my greasy face and i hate people who fault people for their genetic makeup. On second thought, I return to my initial sentiment. But I'm sorry to do it.
My hands are beastly SEXY. Women LOVE me for my hands. Is what I would like to say =(.
Use glycerin/hemp seed oil based hand creams, take care of your nails, and get good at giving massages? Chicks love it when you can make them feel really good and relaxed with their clothes still on. Makes them keen on seeing what you can do to them without their clothes on.
You masturbate too much
He meant sexy, not furry.
hard to know this anon has never been on a date..
\o/
I didnt say it today so... Go to hell.
Welcome to cyber space ^^;
wanna date me? *wink*
Not fat is always a good thing.
unless the world ends and the sun disappears.
And what, stupid Capitalistic Japanese, HAIRSTYLE is definitely more important than clothing :V It's like saying if a good looking person without clothing is worse than a well dressed person with hair. LOOK, we all know that's not true.
I probably spend more on my hair (avg. $100/month) than on clothing (probably closer to $50/month)...
you maam.. are high maintenece... go find yourself a sugar daddy...
+1.....
I'm anon who fits the discription but fail at going outside and finding a friend.
lol
lol, same here *does not disclose gender*
I feel like I'm grooming myself for a person that doesn't exist and never will. Maybe I'll eventually crack and marry the perfect person... the cracking because that person would be imaginary :D
Wanna be friends.
The ONLY plus to having greasy skin, is that you won't wrinkle as much later on in life~ <3
That could come in handy, say if you want to pick up schoolgirls when you're 50.
LMAO! Guy with a van offering candy...
I was working as a cashier when I was still in High School. I would always get positive comments about my hair. Usually from women in the late 20's to 40's. Anyway, this one day, I was ringing up an older ladies order. She must have been in her 60's. When she said the most peculiar of comments. " I would love to run my feet through your hair."
Its ok if coming from a hot babe, but coming from a 60 year old.. thats creepy.. she might also want to eat your soul.
To this day it still goes down as the weirdest comment I have ever received.
You should have let her kiss you, she might have gotten younger, even if at the cost of your soul.
she may want your soul to transmute hers to a new body... careful now.
It's Orochimaru.
this ain't no bible black man
you are a god
I don't know whether to laugh or cry.
well if you have money then none of that list means anything, also if you are a 外人 you need even less money (though they will probably leave you once they get the green card, seen it happen a few times).
Japanese don't want to live in the US, get your facts straight.
Few do.
You will score Japanese girls just for being a gaijin, not because they want to live in wherever country you came from.
i think anyone would move if they could get a better quailty of life, no point if it is gonna be the same or worse or little better. got to be substantially better then they would
only if you're a white gaijin
if you're an asian gaijin then you're immediately somewhere around "dogs and other animals"
LOL, so true and now I feel sad. T_T
money money money money money money money
i don't even have to the results.
ik will dir fikkäää
Sounds more like a universal list of wants, rather than one restricted to Japan.
Yes. Another day in the Earth. Now can we, the human kind, move as an species?
These surveys will look the same in 90% of the planet.
How does a list from the other 10% look like?
Same anon as before, yes. And yes, National Geographic Channel ftw.
Favorite physical features in a woman:
* Height of the neck (70%)
* Number of scars (60%)
* Whole-body tattoos (50%)
* Tribal piercings (50%)
* Toned muscular body (40%)
* Sharp teeth (25%)
Nagi is my bride!
nozomi sasaki is mine so can have anyone else guys
Hands off bud...
Hey artefact, when I see 「誠実」 (seijitsu) I think it has a stronger meaning towards sincerity rather than faithfulness or fidelity.
I agree. 誠実 seems to have more of a connotation with sincerity or even 'good morals.'
It would make more sense for it to mean sincerity. Fidelity should be a requirement for any relationship unless one side says that they don't care if their partner is faithful or not. While partners should be honest with each other, there are a lot that aren't and keep a lot of secrets from each other.
They want a good relationship.