What Japanese Men Hate on a Date

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A survey of what sort of behaviour Japanese men find most intolerable from their female companions whilst on a date presents some interesting, if not entirely unexpected, findings.

The results of the online survey, with men being asked to rate what behaviour from a woman they find most likely to ruin a date:

1. Expect to be treated as a matter of course.

2. Take a haughty attitude to waiters.

3. Do nothing but check for mail.

4. Get unhappy just because it is crowded.

5. Want to do something else.

6. Keep looking at other members of the opposite sex.

7. Complain about being tired or having sore feet.

8. Make a racket with ringtone after ringtone.

9. Take the attitude that a treat was a right.

10. Make no effort to make conversation.

These of course seem quite universal concerns, just as was the case with the surefire ways of provoking a Japanese woman’s ire



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    129 Comments
    Comment by deviryuu
    09:41 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    idk, I like moe ringtones >:

    Comment by Shanyy
    21:15 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    And don't pisses you off, if you're being ignored?

    Also, I think theese are not only true to the japanese men, but the men form any nation...

    Comment by Karnalgas
    02:18 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Second to that!!
    Its like she doesnt care about the date, becouse she is only checing her email....

    Comment by King of Hentai Gods
    03:08 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    +1

    Comment by Anonymous
    18:26 20/07/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    maybe try being more interesting.... or atleast be cute... there are reason they would ignore u

    Comment by Anonymous
    16:47 22/10/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Totally true

    Comment by deviryuu
    03:42 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Not really.

    If anything, i'd probably say 'Hey I know that song' or something else.

    Comment by Cherudim
    14:14 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    The date isn't going so good if any of that is happening anyways so it should be more like "ten signs on how to know if you're not going to get laid tonight"

    Comment by smooches
    04:33 23/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    It is official deviryuu cannot take the hint.

    Comment by Anonymous
    10:34 11/02/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    agree, just went on a date the other day, she kept getting txt from her friend. i can tolerate the curiosity of how its going but no in large amounts.

    Comment by Anonymous
    09:42 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    The only thing I do is complain that it's crowded...who the hell complain's that they have sore feet on a date?

    And expecting your dinner to be paid for is sexism in my opinion...I always pay half. :]

    Comment by Anonymous
    09:47 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Crap, complains*

    And usually it's men from my experience that have an attitude towards waiters...it's a huge turn-off for me and I'm sure for men too.

    Comment by Kiisu_
    17:30 21/06/2009 # ! Bad (-0.2)

    #10 for me... fk man just talk its that simple

    Comment by Geerie
    09:52 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    actually i enjoy spending money girls, i dont mind spending it its more of the attitude of my date which is my main concern. ive actually spend a few hundred on average showing girls with gifts while out shopping. i even bought a girl a $700 puppy once only on the first date

    Comment by Doriinatrix
    10:15 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Can I date you?

    Comment by Anonymous
    11:31 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Yes, may I date you as well?

    Comment by linkinstreet
    12:16 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    He's dating Ichiroko now

    Comment by Anonymous
    18:17 21/06/2009 # ! Bad (-0.2)

    what happens when you don't buy them something? you don't get any action?

    Comment by Anonymous
    11:34 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    you shouldnt be proud about that.

    Comment by null
    12:12 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    I think you have some personal issues with security.

    Comment by ciel-
    13:27 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    or absolutely no issues with finance, amirite?

    Comment by Anonymous
    14:11 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    bullshit

    Comment by Anonymous
    14:30 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Well, it is possible to buy a woman's love, so if that's his angle, more power to him, I guess.

    Comment by Athrun
    15:22 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    You can't buy a woman's love, you can only buy her company. If you manage to buy her fake love and she says: "I love you" every time you shower her with gifts or says: "I'll love you even more" just because she wants to get something out of you it'll only be because she is a gold digger.

    Comment by Anonymous
    17:19 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    very sad

    Comment by Robocop
    18:17 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    very true though...

    Comment by Sazamu
    18:46 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    He's just a victim of immature I think. =)

    Comment by Athrun
    15:37 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    During my last research project I went and asked 50 males and 50 females 20 questions about what attracted them the most of the opposite sex. One of the questions that I asked my female participants was:

    Are you more attracted to a male if he possesses the following qualities: looks, money, intelligence, personality, character, status, and prestige?

    The result:

    30% are more attracted to a male with those qualities
    70% are not attracted to a male with those qualities

    Comment by Anonymous
    16:25 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Was the next question "how many of you are lying?"

    Comment by Athrun
    17:04 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    LOL, actually the following question was:

    Are you more attracted to a guy if he is confident and ambitious?

    The result:

    95% said they are more attracted
    5% said they don’t care

    Keep in mind that my research was based on attraction.

    Comment by Suishieroll
    21:42 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Lmfao, Intro to Anthro/Socio/Psych right? I had to do a similar project.

    Comment by Athrun
    03:26 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Actually it was neither of those it was a research/writing class. I also asked the male participants the same question:

    Do you believe to get a girl you need to have either: looks, money, intelligence, personality, character, status, and prestige?

    The result:

    75% believe what is said
    25% don’t believe what is said

    The conclusion is that most males believe this because we have the need to provide for a female. It's like an instinct even if the female partner doesn't say it we will do it even if there is no need for it.

    Comment by FBW
    04:47 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Are your research results available for download? I'm interested in reading your report.

    Comment by Athrun
    16:55 23/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Thanks for the interest but I apologize as my results are not available for download.

    Comment by Athrun
    17:02 23/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Thanks for the interest but I'm sorry as my results are not available for public distribution.

    Comment by Anonymous
    00:14 06/07/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Sorry, but your question ...
    "Are you more attracted to a male if he possesses the following qualities: looks, money, intelligence, personality, character, status, and prestige?" is too hard for females.
    First you must ask: are you stupid? and then ask your "last" question.
    Because if woman dont like: intelligence, personality and character... she is a whore, if woman dont like: looks, money, status, and prestige she is romantic... but "if" she dont like all this things she is stupid or 2D character...

    Comment by Anonymous
    16:24 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    You just opened up a can of worms, my friend.

    Also, I too would like to date you.

    Comment by bolt
    20:54 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    ...... how handsome are you???....... or just but ugly.. ???

    Comment by Anonymous
    01:00 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    I like spending money girls too!

    Comment by ReddHeretic
    13:46 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Why!? Jesus Christ.

    I hardly ever spend more than twenty U.S. dollars on first dates or even THE FIRST SEVERAL dates. Despite that, my first dates usually end at her place. ;-)

    You seem to enjoy doing this though, for some reason. So okay, I guess?

    Comment by Anonymous
    20:01 02/09/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    20 bucks? How'd... What... And end at her place?! Darn. you Sir, are a genius. I can't even manage that on the third date. Too slow? Heh.

    Comment by xatm092
    21:18 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Just like with number 9, as long as you don't EXPECT me to pay for the whole meal, I will gladly call it your treat. As soon as I'm assumed to be paying by default, I get annoyed.

    Comment by Anonymous
    22:31 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Women seeking foot fetishists would definitely complain about sore feet. If the guy offers to massage her feet right there and then, she's hit jackpot.

    Comment by Anonymous
    17:47 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    +1

    Comment by Anonymous
    12:51 03/05/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    dude i read this comment some time ago n tried it on a friend... man it worked wonders!!
    i had to like search tis site to find this comment!!!
    THX mate !!

    Comment by tokupoku
    06:48 23/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    I find most of these unreasonable:
    1. Expect to be treated as a matter of course.
    Well you asked them out, when they ask you out you can expect to be treated.
    2. Take a haughty attitude to waiters.
    Reasonable.
    3. Do nothing but check for mail.
    Somewhat reasonable, but maybe they are worried about it, make it a point in conversation. If you feel she is ignoring you ask her questions, if she answers right it means she is paying attention to you.
    4. Get unhappy just because it is crowded.
    Unreasonable, just get the fuck out of there.
    5. Want to do something else.
    Unreasonable, just go do something else.
    6. Keep looking at other members of the opposite sex.
    Unreasonable unless she doesn't let you do the same.
    7. Complain about being tired or having sore feet.
    Unreasonable she is tired, just carry her in your back to the nearest love hotel.
    8. Make a racket with ringtone after ringtone.
    Unreasonable, just play with her on the damn phone until you reach the love hotel.
    9. Take the attitude that a treat was a right.
    Same as #1.
    10. Make no effort to make conversation.
    Give me a break, do you really want a chatty girlfriend? I can understand if you want someone to talk to, you want to be talked at? A girl is not forced to make conversation unless you count moaning as conversation.

    Comment by AmericanGrunt
    19:24 02/09/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Personally, most of those are valid complaints.

    Comment by RHALX
    09:47 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Girls always complain about sore feet when invited for a walk. What a pain.

    Comment by Geerie
    09:53 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    that means youre boring and she doesnt want to be with for ten minutes

    Comment by RHALX
    10:17 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Obviously, since they date me, and not the contrary, I don't think it's the case.

    Comment by fatimmortal
    12:19 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Give her some painkillers.

    Comment by Anonymous
    09:55 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    though if theyre wearing like 6 inch heels or stilletos, ill accomadate that =).

    Comment by Anonymous
    12:22 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    "i like long walks on a sandy beach, but i also don't like sore feet"

    Comment by N.R.
    09:49 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    "Take the attitude that a treat was a right."
    LOL What's the meaning of this sentence?

    Comment by Mercenary09
    09:51 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Probably means being treated to dinner or something. Well, it makes sense anyway. Sort of taking it from 1, though.

    Comment by Joe
    09:53 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    They think they have a right to get a treat.

    Comment by K
    11:54 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    oh, I have a treat alright.

    Comment by null
    12:13 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Treat a right I'll get.

    Comment by Geerie
    09:54 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    that she has to have extra stuff done for her and that its your job as a man to buy her things

    Comment by Anonymous
    10:03 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    free dessert, maybe?

    Comment by Anonymous
    14:48 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    the dessert in my pants, yea

    Comment by Anonymous
    10:04 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    say, you pay for her dinner, and then she complains about how the food was shitty and that you should have treated her at some other place.

    Comment by Psyvariar
    21:55 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Think "right" should be "rite."
    "Take the attitude that a treat is a rite." Would mean that they always expect to be treated.

    Comment by Anonymous
    00:01 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Or, it could be "right", which means that they feel entitled to be treated.

    Comment by Anonymous
    09:53 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Actually, I couldn't agree more with the list, i hate mosst if not all of the above mentioned

    Comment by Anonymous
    09:55 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    This list is SOOOOOOO right, hate all that stuff

    Comment by Anonymous
    09:56 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    picture is so win...moe sex

    Comment by Anonymous
    09:58 21/06/2009 # ! Bad (-0.2)

    2-D girls never complain about sore feet.

    Comment by Anonymous
    11:45 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    2-D girls complain about whatever their creators make them complain about.

    Comment by tokupoku
    06:56 23/06/2009 # ! Bad (-0.2)

    Your point being?

    Comment by Uraisamu
    10:00 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    #10 has always been a pet peeve for me

    I at least like to have a little conversation before I break out the Rufi.

    Comment by VZ
    10:08 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    For me it's don't talk about your friend's lives or hobbies, talk about what YOU like.

    Comment by polk
    10:15 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    Heh actually the only time I have dated a Japanese girl was something like this...

    Comment by phossil
    10:19 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Checking email constantly is very annoying...

    Comment by yaku
    11:34 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    It's very disrespectful more than anything else. If you go on a date is because you're trying to get the other person to know you more (and consequently to like you), not to ignore them in favour of some text messages.

    Comment by Yangth
    11:42 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    It's all true!!! It's supposed to be a date! Do your best to be a good partner, and we'll do the same dammit >_<

    Comment by roukou
    11:44 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    That list is missing a few things.

    Comment by fatimmortal
    12:21 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Agreed.

    Like spending too much time walking around.

    Got dragged around until 6am, just because she was too scared to go home after a late night horror movie.

    Comment by Typewriter
    17:05 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Er, even if there's no horror movie, if it's late at night, then escort her home you should. It's called common courtesy.

    Comment by Vegio
    18:23 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    drag you until 6 am != escorted home

    forcing you to walk around in the night when you may have something else to do the next day is a pain in the ass.

    Comment by Typewriter
    00:09 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    The "to go home" bit suggests it's about home-escorting, though.

    Comment by fatimmortal
    01:20 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    I didn't escort her home, I just accompanied her through the night until the morning buses were available. Of course, we just walked around the outside of a mall, talking and such.

    I didn't want to escort her home, due to the fact that my house was in the opposite direction of hers.

    AND, she's not my girlfriend. Just a good friend of mine who invited me to watch a movie with her. Of course, she forgot that the movie was a horror movie and wanted to watch a 2am show.

    Comment by Waterfall Towers
    11:58 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    2. and 3. are real turnoffs for me. I hate anyone being classist in public, or not paying attention. Fortunately, on my (few and scant) dates so far, 2. has never happened; and 3. has happened on occasion, but she always apologizes and sets to silent mode.

    Comment by Anonymous
    12:23 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    God, I HATE when girls check their phones for texts during dates. So disrespectful and insulting.

    Comment by Metalbunny
    12:26 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Anyone would hate these things..
    Even when the perpetrator is a man although unlikely..

    Comment by maga
    12:29 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    I wonder how many of these "men" have gone on an actual IRL date...

    Comment by Anonymous
    13:04 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Most of them, fucktard.

    Comment by Anonymous
    14:32 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    I'm curious as to why you quoted the word men.

    Comment by ragaraga
    12:34 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    lol if she is texting all the time that means shes not into you

    Comment by Anonymous
    18:27 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    wrong. some girls just don't know any better because they havn't been taught proper dinner table manners. this goes for men too i guess.

    Comment by Anonymous
    12:45 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    3. Do nothing but check for mail.

    Er, well, both my girl and i do it from time to time (we don't check mails actually, we browse facebook, forums, or somesuch), especially while we wait for orders. Both of us are guilty, so we don't make it a big racket out of each other really.

    Comment by MidnightTide
    13:16 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    most of those complaints appear to be from the females lack of interest in the date.

    Comment by plmko
    13:28 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    No. 10 especially, this doesn't need to apply to dating. I hate those girls that do this.

    Comment by Anonymous
    23:48 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    i second that.

    Comment by Atma
    13:32 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    1.) Unless we;re going out for my birthday, I expect everyone to treat each other well and enjoy. Even then on my birthday everyone should be happy and not worshiping me

    2.) I am always nice to wait staff because they have to do that all day. Forcing themselves to be nice to rude customers must suck. I always tip well, too.

    3.) Ew. This and cell phones are the bane of any social experience. Burn on sight.

    4.) This I can understand as crowds make me insanely uncomfortable, but if I'm with someone I like well enough, I can stomach it

    5.) This really also depends on the situation. If I'm really uncomfortable or tired/not feeling well then yeah I'll suggest leaving, but not make it a requirement unless I'm puking on my shoes. Alternative: Take turns picking out where you go.

    6.) This is somewhat reasonable to me.

    7.) Part of going out for a while is minor inconveniences. Unless you just stepped on a rusty nail, go sit down for a couple minutes and get back up.

    8.) See 3 because arrrrrrrgh. You came to be with me, not your friends. They can wait until I drive you home and we've said goodnight to talk.

    9.) I like treating people a lot, but I don't like it when people expect to be put on a pedestal and bronzed and admired endlessly. I don't exist to be your loyal lapdog.

    10.) This would also bother me. The least you could do is talk to me. I don't care about what, just be interested and try.

    Comment by AMAYA
    14:10 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    nice responses. also, i wonder if you're the Atma i used to know? i remember she was a fan of Kallen.

    Comment by Athrun
    15:54 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    One of my friends set me up on a blind date last weekend and it's interesting because I did #3, #4, #5, and #6 on that list to the girl I was on a date with.

    Comment by Vegio
    18:06 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    I could have done it slightly different. taking yours as a reference

    1. I agree, but you're too gentle. I'd go for "Fuck yourself idiot".

    2. 100% agree with you. I also worked in some restaurants, and you never know if the personal is new to the work, it's human to make mistakes sometimes, and most of all the major part of the people do whatever they can to make it difficult for the workers. Not to mention the fact that they leave the table as dirty as you couldn't even imagine. I absolutely hate people who are not respectful. On the other hand, when it is reasonable to complain, i'm the first to start. And i'm a professional whiner, so get the hell out if you see me <3

    3. right, burn. in hell.

    4. Agree, but i wouldn't mind go to a different place if both of us are not that easy in the crowd.

    5. couldn't agree more, i guess.

    6. ^ this

    7. sitting down here and there, having a drink, i don't mind it at all.

    8. I could just add some bad words here and there...

    9. See 1.

    10. There's something else to add in here, like "if you talk, don't just do it about you, your life, or your problem". mostly if you call me after months, years in which we lost sight of each other, telling me you realized how much i was important to you, and after a couple of time you tell me we're just friends. Oh, screw you.

    Comment by Vegio
    18:21 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Atma, you're too damn gentle. How come i'd add bad words all over the place ?

    like in 1, 2, 3, 8, 9 and 10.

    4, 5, 6, and 7, are not problems at all. excellent solution to take turns picking out where you go..
    also, if i may, i like to sit down here and there, enjoy a chatting and having a drink. it's not like a date is a tour de force, you have to enjoy it.

    Comment by kyayokh
    14:06 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    i wonder where i seen the picture

    Comment by NUBFIGHT4
    14:08 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    i am normal wif 4,8,7,2 but 3 omg i am so dots ._. de whole date check MAILS only

    Comment by Anonymous
    14:34 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Surprisingly normal, considering the articles Artefact has posted about Japanese women shows their batshit insane when it comes to relationships. I guess the genders balance each other out in this situation.

    Comment by Anonymous
    14:54 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Do we really need to know this?

    Comment by Fonzer
    16:04 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    I pretty much loled at 7 there,

    Comment by Shinx
    17:11 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Do nothing but check for mail.

    Make no effort to make conversation.

    Haizz

    Comment by Re:Verse
    17:12 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    1. I always treat. Its the gentlemen thing to do.

    2. Its never okay to be rude towards a waiter. They're just doing their job.

    3. If all she does is check her text/mail. I would start texting her. She'd probably think its cute.

    4. If its crowded in a place that usually isn't crowded then sure I'd be upset as well.

    5. If you want to do something else then say it. Its 2009 be upfront about what you want to do. The whole point of dating is to see how compatible we are. Test the limits.

    6. Regardless of who you are I'd give you my undivided attention. If you wish to return it that is completely up to you.

    7. Sore feet? I've got the magic fingers.

    8. You can always tell what kind of person they are based on their ringtones. I personally run a little Yusef Lateef as my default.

    9. As I stated before I always treat. But if you feel uncomfortable with that I'll make an exception for you.

    10. This can be very frustrating. Based on the atmosphere a date can turn sour. If I'm the only one trying to make conversation I'll probably end up talking about the weather or much worse.

    Comment by iPood
    19:49 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (+0.2)

    Since when do otaku have money for dates instead of figurines.

    Comment by NO MEANS YES
    20:57 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Hi, Rick Astley!

    Comment by my mom
    17:13 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    no 6 should be put at first

    Comment by Anonymous
    19:18 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    4, 5, and 7 seem fairly harmless provided they aren't excessive.
    2, 8 don't get a callback.
    3, 6, 10 don't get a callback and they're definitely paying for every penny of their own expenses.

    Comment by iPood
    19:48 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    If a girl is constantly screwing around with her cellphone it's the wrong kind of girl you're dating.

    Comment by bolt
    21:00 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    most are reasonable.. and on the treating... if i ask them out, I pay, if they ask me out.. they pay. 2nd 3rd date.. usually pay for yourself, or sometimes i treat if i have the money, and there worth it. goes with anything on the date.. if we go see a movie.. i pay, dinner, put put golf, etc. :)

    Comment by Anonymous
    23:13 21/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    most of those are just plain rude ><
    But the sore feet, is a bit insensitive of the guy; if your partner tries to dress up a bit and wears heels that she isn't used to her feet will hurt -.- that's nothing to get pissed over.
    That's a chance for a little skinship imo.

    Comment by Anonymous
    01:51 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Lol, I know a girl who fits perfectly in this list.

    Comment by Lazydabear
    02:19 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    1.Thats like every male its about respect.
    2.I don't want to suffer embarrassment in a restrant I do understand that the waiters are just doing there job.
    3.I don't have a issue with that unless its for buisness not soical.
    4.Enochlophobia I met a woman like that before take her to a place less crowed.
    5.Oh boy...that one is tough one to do.
    6.I guess it doesn't show interest with me.
    7.It happen while walking ether in high heels thats what taking brakes are for.
    8.If you play "My little pony" theme song on your ring tone I am going to be laughing my ass off.
    9.Oh if you start demanding or disrespecting me the date is over.
    10. Its kind of hard to bring up a good subject of conversation to talk about sometimes I wonder what Japanese men would talk about to a Female?

    Comment by Mitsuo Kubo
    03:28 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    I don't see a problem with complaining about sore feet if you're walking a lot, but they may just be because my girlfriend's feet tend to hurt to the point she can't even stand on them sometimes..

    But the rest, I hate those, too. It's really disrespectful when someone does that shit on a date.

    Comment by Genny
    09:18 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Seems like Japanese men are almost like ordinary women when it comes to dates.

    Tsk, be happy that they had one. It seems harder nowadays just because of people expecting too much on the first moments.

    Comment by Eamon
    14:45 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Seems very true towards international standards. Especially the I want to do something else part...

    Comment by L.L
    17:32 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Mel Kano~~!! Kyaha~~!!

    Comment by Hugmeir
    20:16 22/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    4. Get unhappy just because it is crowded.

    THIS. It's the most inane of complains, and it nags the shit out of me. "THERE'S MORE THAN TWO PEOPLE IN HERE IT'S TOO CROWDED NOW I'LL BE IN A MAD MOOD FOR AN HOUR"
    And she doesn't even say it in some tsundere voice.

    Comment by Ido
    01:43 23/06/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    1. Expect to be treated as a matter of course.
    lol no. I heard the funniest date story on that matter. The guy went out for dinner with a woman for their first date and all, and mind you they were at a not so cheap restaurant. The dude never said he would and he did a prank on her by going to the toilet for an extended period of time when the bill was coming whilst having said to the waiter that he'd pay his part only. I think he never got back with that woman lol.

    Comment by Anonymous
    01:27 19/08/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    lol
    Each of my dates consisted 200% of this. :)
    And I was dumped 7 times.
    lol
    And I never even thought something was wrong and could be in any other way. xDDD

    Comment by Anonymous
    20:08 15/09/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    9. Take the attitude that a treat was a right.

    This applies to chinese girls pretty well.
    Chinese mens are machos, but girls are generally worse.
    I know few exceptions to that fact.

    Comment by Black_Troll
    12:48 28/09/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    Signs like this mean its time to bail out LOL!

    Comment by Anonymous
    21:33 20/11/2009 # ! Neutral (0)

    1. Expect to be treated as a matter of course.
    of course a guy would get mad at this. you're going on a date with me as much as i'm going on a date with you.

    2. Take a haughty attitude to waiters.
    well that's just rude.

    3. Do nothing but check for mail.
    rude again. why don't you go on a date with your cell phone instead?

    4. Get unhappy just because it is crowded.
    i'm fine with chilling in a park if you want to.

    5. Want to do something else.
    ok, think of something else.

    6. Keep looking at other members of the opposite sex.
    hey, if you don't mind me checking out other chicks and maybe getting a number or two, then we're cool. otherwise, we own each other for the duration of our date.

    7. Complain about being tired or having sore feet.
    ok, no big deal, let's sit down.

    8. Make a racket with ringtone after ringtone.
    silent plz. and by "plz" i mean "now".

    9. Take the attitude that a treat was a right.
    hahahahaha.
    on a side note, once i told a japanese girl off about doing this with her bf and actually convinced her that she was being a bad person XD

    10. Make no effort to make conversation.
    mmmkay i'm gonna go call up someone else who actually wants to go on this date.

    Comment by Anonymous
    12:58 10/01/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    4. Get unhappy just because it is crowded.

    WHERE THE FUCK IS THE PROBLEM WITH THIS.

    Comment by Honoko
    12:32 23/01/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    I would agree with everything but “Want to do something else.” And “Complain about being tired or having sore feet.” Because last week I went out with my BF and I told him I’m bored and tired especially because I just got off of work and he just drag me all over SF just to go shopping for sun glasses and window shopping. I told him I’m bored and he got piss off and said he wants to go home and drag my arm and said I don’t tell him anything. I told him that what he wanted to do I went along with it but when I’m interested in something he just drag me always. And when I said “I’m bored” he just throws a bitch fit. Of course I would be bored we been looking at nothing but men clothes and men sun glasses and the whole time I wanted to sit down and didn’t get a chance. I even told him I was hungry and he told me lets wait half and hour so he could shop some more. I told him everything and he still complains that I don’t say anything so I just walk off and he just follow me. He kept asking where we are going and I didn’t respond and just kept walking but he try to drag me again and I just kept going until I hit a Japanese tea cake shop that was recently open. I always wanted to go there but never got a chance and I told my BF about it. So he bought me something there and we made up. Afterward he kept trying to buy me expensive clothes just to make up some more and I just say no because it’s a waste of money especially since I don’t need it or want it. I’m not a materialistic girl I just want to be respected, and if your partner is bored or complain about being tired you should try to understand why. I understand why my BF act the way he did because he is just like the many Asian men who grew up in male dominance society and just want the woman to do what they want. Women get sore feet because the men drag them everywhere and a lot of woman wear high heels.

    Comment by Anonymous
    20:56 26/03/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Honoko, that's your own fault. Instead of complaining that you're bored or tired, TELL him what you want. Men are not mind-readers anymore than girls are or would like men to be.

    If you say you're bored and he acknowledges, ok you're bored, so what? What? WHAT! He may be keen enough to ask what you want to do, or where you want to go, but in my experience girls often don't have a bloody answer anyways, even if keen so far as to have suggestions. You shouldn't expect him to have an answer for entertaining you.

    Comment by Anonymous
    07:56 13/04/2010 # ! Neutral (0)

    Preach it brother Anon!

    We men are stupid creatures. We can't infer millions of iota of information from a single glance. We aren't Edward from Twilight. And he still sucks at it with over a hundred years to practice! There's your hint: if a guy needs over 36500 days of solid training to learn something, he isn't going to learn it.

    /Tell us/. Tell us what you /want/. Directly. Any man will bend over freaking backwards for a woman they can understand, who speaks "English", not only "girl". (Or Japanese, insert "real" language of choice). Not many girls speak Lojban or Hymmnos, completely unambiguous and "easy to identify reason" languages.

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