Ten Things Never to Say to a Japanese Girlfriend
- Categories: Japan, News
- Date: Jun 12, 2009 05:40 JST
- Tags: Dating, Fashion, Makeup, Obesity, Relationships, Statistics
Japanese ladies share the ten things they never want to hear from their partner.
The top ten:
1. “Haven’t you put on weight?” or being asked her weight – 17.4%
2. Having unwanted hair she thought would not be noticed pointed out – 13.2%
3. Being compared to a female friend for dating purposes – 12.2%
4. Being told she is “unwomanly” when she has no idea what this is – 12%
5. Being told she is humourless – 11.2%
6. Having her great new haircut be ill-received – 9.2%
7. Being told her painstaking cooking is no good – 8.2%
8. Being told her fashion sense is bad – 7.2%
9. Being compared to female celebrities – 7.2%
10. Being told her favourite perfume is too strong – 2.2%
The methodology and sample size of the survey are not disclosed.
These seem a fairly universal set of objections, though what is left unsaid is just how willing the average Japanese lady is to forgive such grievous faux pas…
“Unmanly behaviour” is also much loathed. What women do actually want to hear from a partner seems mainly related to his earning potential.









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Things not to say to a Japanese Girlfriend:
12: I'm American.
I must that note to this then if not I might get kill by my girlfriend in the future.
I'm a girl and I wouldn't want any of these things said to me, obviously, but I'd rather have a guy in touch with his feminine side and I would actually prefer it if he liked anime. It would give us more in common, even if on a rather superficial level. I wouldn't care if he played eroge, owned figurines and dakimakura, or watched hentai as long as he was a nice guy. Well, okay, I'd mind it if the hentai or eroge had dog-fucking in it or some crazy shit like that, but other than that it's fine.
Oh, and he'd have to let me snuggle with the dakimakura. Those things look awfully comfortable.
Actually, upon further reading I wouldn't really care if a guy said to me 4, 6, 8, 9, or 10. I don't even wear perfume, I don't like the smell of it.
i like the choices of picture. yomi is going extreme on her weight haha
So Japanese women can't handle the truth?
so... rape is like saying hello. haha!
Humorless? Eh heheh...
Cheeseburgers taste better hot, than cold.
If a woman doesn't have an open mind, to be criticized freely by the people around her, then can she safely say she isn't insecure?
Everyone is judgemental, and everyone is conceited, that is pretty much all that i can put into this.
Om Nom Nom Nom.
Less talking, more punching.
I'd probably commit #2, #4 and #7.
One thing is true... Woman seems do be missing sense of humor lately.
Wassup with that?!
i think thats for every woman .... i think
go get a gf and find out XD
If you apply most of these to the other gender (male) they most probably will feel insulted or depressed. It's not something just exclusive to women, you know.
I don't see anything there that would bother me except in certain contexts. For example, if it were done intentionally to annoy me, then I might take exception to the intent; picking fights is not conducive to a successful relationship. I do know for certain that I do not want people to refrain from earnestly telling me they don't enjoy something I've cooked, because I am doing that specifically for their benefit.
I most probably have to hang out with you then; no matter the gender a lot of people I've known were bothered to some level to a lot of these comments.
Yomi's jelly rolls are erotic.
Me telling a woman she's unwomanly would be a compliment.
But the one that really caught me by surprise is that celebrity bit. I would think anyone would be happy to be compared to a celebrity that is drooled over by the masses.
Japan, for their amounts of traps, has a surprising hatred of androgyny and worship of gender roles.
Hatred of androgyny? Last time i checked Japan is the #1 trap country. Even with celebs. UISSSHHHH
11. Being told she is “feminist” when she knows that means "whore".
I say a lot of these things to female acquaintances and they seem to like it (well of course they'll pretend not too).
#11 calling out girlfriend #1's name well with girlfriend #2
Weird they didn't even said that. Maybe japanese women are not jealous ?
well actually #2 was my roommate before she and i were together after #1 went back to japan. She said it was ok because she understands that we were together for 4 years and i miss her so she said don't worry about it. God!, I love japanese women!
That's why having Yui as girlfriend is ideal...
yep,the top question you'd never ask for a girl is about their weight also,if they had their period.That's really P.O'ed.
Why the hell *would* you say these seriously without expecting to be dumped?
If it's the truth it must be said. I could say any one of these things to my gf, and she wouldn't dump me over it. get a lil angry, yeah but dump nah. thing is MOst of these things i wouldnt have to say anyways.
I say much worse things on a regular basis, in colorful ways, with impunity.
Well, almost. There WAS that young lady who tried to hand me a 3GB virus. I didn't even know such things existed. Either way, I preferred not to confirm it on my computer. :-P
You can say whatever you damn please if you're good in bed. Kissing ass for booty is a sad existence.
Errr... Most of these I wouldn't even dare say...
More things:
* Yes, that does make your ass look big.
* Wow, there's a lot of gray hairs!
* Your breasts are really starting to sag.
* Yes, this is exactly what it looks like.
* No, you do not have the body to pull that look off.
* Here, put this paper bag over your head.
Funny thing is, some girls dig that. HINT: you'll generally know when they tease and/or be blunt truthfully right back at you and it's all good fun and laughs for both.
As usual, Riderfan, everywhere I see you you're an expert at pissing people off.
I disagree with half of this list.
No.1
I'm asking about the weight quite often. She tries to put some healthy weight on.
No.2
It is better if I notice this first than anybody else.
No.3
It depends how close you are.
No.7
There is always a space for improvement.
is your cooking 100% successful? Maybe never tried to make something new?
No.10
I thought that Japanese are oversensitive to smell? no?
btw No.9 Being compared to female celebrities
Do yo know that 99% of the pictures published in the magazines are modified? they wear heavy makeup and pictures are most commonly modified in photoshop but other software can be used as well. it is called retouching. less weight, bigger bust, better shape? with digital photography it is all possible.
mhmm, mhmm. *nods vigorously*
well..i kinda failed at no 7
i told her her sandwich were great and couldn't helped vomiting in front of her..
Anyone thats told some of those things,whether male or female,they won't like it.
100% agreed with first poster, this applies to all women regaurdless of ethnicity. Most of this should be common sense and you would have to be a real dick to honestly bring any of this up if you plan on staying in a good relationship, woman love to be flattered and this shit is the total opposite.
Oh please. I bitch about my best female friend's perfume and she bitches about mine. I tease her about not being chubby enough to have actual tits and being too tall. And she's still ridiculously pissed off that I'm the one friendzoning her and makes passes at me on a regular basis, which I turn down despite her being hot and cool. Too materialistic, too glam, too much of a tomboy :( Pity...
same here
Hmph. Sometimes the truth hurts, women aren't too hesitant to tell us when something's wrong with us. That's for sure.
I can let #1 - #9 slide, but I'll probably always fail at #10.
as for #4 most women anywhere anymore have no idea what unwomanly means..or what it means to be womanly for that matter.
if they did they wouldnt have any problems getting a boyfriend or married
"What women do actually want to hear from a partner seems mainly related to his earning potential."
So if I have money I can screw the rules and love me still lol XD
i have never smelt perfume i have liked i still don't know why people wear perfume it just makes me sick and it will hide pheromones that makes person look better than they are
Looking through these, it's blatantly obvious why women would be bothered - they do sound like harsh criticism that really digs into the roots of who she is - e.g. her personality, and how you (the person she evidently cares about the most) perceive her as.
On a different level, I'm not sure how I'd react if I were told these things. For me 1) would be a compliment (as I'm pretty skinny). I prefer honesty rather than someone being too concerned with being polite. I find that if I'm in a relationship, I think communication is absolutely imperative. If you're getting trembling legs are the thought of casually asking your partner a question like those listed, it speaks about the flimsy foundation of your relationship. Of course ... it's one thing to get momentarily annoyed at these comments (as I can imagine most women would), but to be seriously offended is a sign of a problem in my opinion.
There's a difference, however, from being honest and being indifferent to her emotions. If her cooking really is bad, it's simple human decency not to spit out out her food and mercilessly berate her especially if she tried very hard. It might be easier to suggest some kind of added flavour, or ask if she'd like to cook with you sometime, that kind of thing. Honesty comes in different forms, and sometimes I guess both have to meet halfway in terms of concern for their emotions and what should be said.
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If some said any of that to a girl, then they should be slapped.
Comparing her to a male celebrity would be worse imo.
But seriously, that could be a compliment as well.. of course telling her she looks like Swedish royality would get you no point. But saying something like "You're even cuter than " would be a compliment? :x
+1.
Only if she's insecure enough to consider that person a threat. But that might spectacularly backfire and she may feel her fears confirmed. Insecure people are annoying to deal with.
I'm sorry, but this is stupid. If you and the girl connect well enough, you can pretty much say whatever you want, as long as you be polite about it. This is just something you shouldn't say to someone you just met, otherwise you just help turning women around you into bitches.
Agreed, this is more like a list of "what not to do" for dating purposes. Doesn't suit every woman though.
M.
Even better.
Are we having fish for dinner or is that you?
ha ha ha... good one for the case you wanna change girlfriend.
M.
I'm going to say each of those things in order and the Japanese girl would still be all over me.
You're rich, right? ;)
He has to be, he's a prince. :P
You're pretty humourless...HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
What, you don't get it? It was a joke!
British spelling ftw!
According to the surveys posted here, what you really really can't tell her is:
1. That she profits more than you
2. Tell her that you would like to see your old female friends, even after dating her (remember kids, it's cheating on their heads)
3. Tell her that you like anime, mangas, and the like (if you're smart enough, you'll search her profile in Facebook, Orkut or other and know about the visual-Kei ou fashion bands she likes)
4. Tell her that you prefer that she continues working, EVEN after you're married
5. Tell her that you're in love (it'll be so much for her - after all, they're in it for profit!!)
If you have more ideas, please pot it ^_^
Huh... Of all the female friends I know, none of these apply to them (except for half of 2 for one very insecure friend: She doesn't like her boyfriend being alone with female friends, but has no problem with him hanging out with mixed groups). Doesn't apply to me either. Most of the women I know IRL abhor the idea of becoming a stay-at-home wife, except for during any parental leave (the gov gives parents the right to stay home for a bunch of months when their kid's just gotten born. The mom often takes the first half of the leave and the dad the second)..
Me likes teh Yomi on OP piccie....nice bodeh
Her loli version is Hidaka from Kyou No Go No Ni..
Poor Yomi, she just needs a guy to say to her that she's beautifull all along, and that that bitch Tomo is just envious of her.
I'll do it.
To the Fiction-i-tizer!
well, that's the same with every girlfriend or girlfriend to be... it's sort of common sense to be honest...
Boils down to: Want to get laid? Don't offend her
theres a book called "everything you can say to a woman that won't offend her." and all the pages are blank.
I've heard of a similar book. It's titled 'What Men Know About Women'.
that's all women
aren't those things...obvious?
Yes. Yes they are.
Why isn't "You are to old, I like loli" on the list?
Probably because that would come out before you get a girlfriend.
If the perfume is too strong then it is too strong. Some people are allergic to that shit.
yeah that is true lol, I can't stand strong perfume, I'll start to sneeze like crazy... maybe they were trying to keep my away from them o_0
Ya, like me, any perfume burns my eyes, burns my nose, and makes me sneeze like crazy.
Last one isn't that very important:P Most points are just common sense though.
I think is the same with every woman....
here if you say something like that, its crap all day :(
agreed....
I think different....
japanese girl is so "stranger" in style/way ... I wanted has dated an japanese girl...but I don't...but she "japan girls" is too different to brazilian girls in some points... I don't know american girl...
can someone tell how is american girl????
sorry for my english ...
But of course.
Let's see I've done 1, 4, 5, 6 and 8.
yup, it's common sense.
"10. Being told her favourite perfume is too strong - 2.2%" is the cause of my ex left me... "oTL
Yeah, that whole list should be fairly standard for...everywhere.
Yeah. But just because every women are stupid. Raging at so tiny things...
so are otakus, raging at some music anime ending early. that's like premature ejaculation, isn't it?
My first thought too.....
+1 =]
We should say to a woman "hey, have you lost some weight, but it was all muscle and your body fat levels remain the same, if not more?"
Yeah, as a woman, this is just stuff you are better off not saying to any woman unless you are trying to piss her off.
But you can be forgiven of these crimes. My fiance has pulled at least half of these on me throughout our relationship and I haven't kicked him to the curb yet.
These aren't crimes. Women needs to accept criticism. They always criticize men for similar things, i.e. fashion, hygiene etc.
Feh, i say it's how it's said rather than if. It applies to being said to both men and women. If you're rude and unhelpful you can go fuck yourself, If you happily enable and help a better lifestyle then it's all good. Or maybe the two partners are just incompatible and need to split up (if they try to change each other instead of enhancing what's already there).
Half of this is common sense, the other half seems like something that should be said before something embarrasing happens.
ITT: Things not to say to your girlfriend
What girlfriend?
then you have no cause for worry.. unless that dremel tool you use for modifying those Gunpla models suddenly goes on overdrive and takes your hand off ...
s/girlfriend/hand/
Yeah, ouch. Sometimes its longer than a day. I never learn.
Right...not just Japanese women, but any women.