More Japanese Women Prefer Being Alone
- Categories: Japan, News
- Date: Mar 27, 2009 14:34 JST
- Tags: Dating, Japan, Relationships, Social Trends
A recent report brings to light a new trend among single Japanese women: they are increasingly forgoing companionship to enjoy a night out alone.
“I rented a hotel suite and spent the night there all by myself, drinking wine in a bubble bath and reading a magazine,” said a 30-year-old woman. “Very elegant, don’t you think?”
One woman remarked how much more enjoyable it was to go into a French restaurant by herself, being able to slowly savor the taste of the food without the need to make small talk.
Yet another woman remarked that she had become quite “good at being alone” as though it was an acquired skill recently mastered.
Businesses have noticed the trend. Over the past two or three years, a growing number of women have been coming in alone to restaurants, movie theaters and karaoke studios.
One staffer at a Shibuya karaoke box commented that solitary women now “make up 30% of our business.”
Ueno Chizuko, Tokyo University professor and an author of a book on the social phenomenon of solitary women, believes that there are two reasons responsible for the trend.
Ueno states that Japanese women are more confident of their social skills and are less afraid to venture into places without a companion. Further, the professor notes that a woman is expected to “adjust her behavior to the mood of her companion,” an expectation that can cause a significant stress.
One 25-year-old office worker summed up the issue in a nutshell. “I have a boyfriend, but to be honest, it’s more fun without him.”
Via Japan Today.
The trend of solitary women will alarm Japanese social commentators who have long decried Japan’s lack of population growth.
Additionally, the problematic expectation of Japanese women towards their partner’s income potential and the fact that Japanese women have become more self reliant for their own sexual gratification have become increasingly common deterrents to marriage.
Male commentators have been quick to point out that the expectations of many Japanese women seem increasingly unrealistic and out of touch with what is attainable to them; although some may prefer being single, surveys still reveal the majority harbor ambitions of marriage and children.
Thus it is seen as problematic to hear, as in a recent famous example, spinsters in their forties make statements like “I’m so desperate, I’d just settle for a man who makes over ¥10 million ($100,000), as long as he can communicate.”
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saber is relevant to my interests!
But, according to the article, you're not relevant to hers.
It's totally fine since she is British, she prefers being around battalions of men.
That's like so no true.
She actually prefers to be around Rin.
SaberXRin is where the money is at.
WE WILL SETTLE THIS WITH FISTICUFFS.
Agreed: Saber/Rin is superior to all
But....RIN IS MINE!
Oh well, ArcherxSaberxRin 3 some is fine with me.....
Despite it being Rin, I refuse to accept the King of Knights craves muffdiving. I am fairly certain she does not like softball, she does seem to shave, and she knows extensively where to put a p0n0s.
actually she doesnt rin teaches her, my money is in rin x saber
You lost me.
Space with only men is wonderful.
And this is why Japanese women would rather prefer being alone.
You win an internet.
Cancerous shit.
Mature women in Japan are so sexy, anyway. Let them age a little.
"Are ronery ma'am? So do i!".
At this rate... Japan will eventually become extinct. I say we declare Japanese as an endangered species!
Japan now has women who want younger men with high paying jobs, but younger men usually have lower paying jobs. Now they also want to be by themselves.
Japan has a problem with NEETs Hikikomoris and Otakus and the Otakus have even created a portion of a city just for their interests(akihabara), not to mention that they have created one of the few dominating cultures on the internet.
Improvement on sex dolls so much that the police will mistake them for corpses. We also have automatic ona tools from Cross days.
It seems that 95% of women masturbate, and even boys in their early teens go buy themselves self-gratification products.
The future looks grim...
all the better... the world is becoming overpopulated. the less desire to reproduce the better
Problem is, its getting overpopulated by religous fundamentalist nuts(catholics, muslims, ...) that go fourth and multiply as well as by poor uneducated people in already crowded countries missing land, knowhow and infrastructure to even barely sustain itself.
Reverse evolution at it's finest.
i say they do it vexille-style :3
score another for womens lib...
that and the internets... we're all becomeing socially unpluged from the world.. seems like people don't enjoy other peoples company in person anymore, or refuse to make the effort to find someone to go to places with.. Lazy, and dangerous.. who's going to give birth to future idols now?? I'm scared...
well, who does?
People are pests and annoying as hell.
I for ones welcome our cute persocon overlords.
all hail cyber love!! and 2D love...>_>
+1!
+1
+2
I need a job to save up and buy myself some cyber lover in 10 years. Best put me one that looks like Taiga aside.
No Pandemonia.
You will aid me to create the Persocoms.
spinsters in their forties make statements like“I’m so desperate, I’d just settle for a man who makes over ¥10 million ($100,000), as long as he can communicate.”
LOL, why would a man make over $100,000 want to marry her?
Seriously, how much Japanese woman want anyway? $100,000 not enough ?
The effect of women having increasingly unrealistic expectations about their future husbands seems to also be affecting Korea and the wealthier parts of China. Perhaps they are all reading too many shōjo manga?
$100,000 a year and she's only settling for? That's a joke right? Or is Japan so rich that making 100 gran a year is pathetic?
Good for them. Let's show those men out there who we really are. >:D
Indeed, as long as you prefer being alone in the kitchen too.
Yes, and the living room too.
And the bed too.
LOL!
just like us men... sitting behind a computer screen eating bon bons in our underware (or naked.. the thought just ....eww...) merging with the chair... he he.. we're screwed!!
Good to see we are not all that different after all, now if only we could establish a brave new world type setting where there are designated days to breed, and then we can just ignore each other for the rest of the month.
Why going to the trouble of mating? You can spend semen and the rest is not your problem. Artificial wombs will be the next step.
anonymous is right. have 1 week of breeding and then never have to see them till the next month.
lol in a country thats filled with NEETS and otakus
i can understand where they are getting at...
well elevens will be a dying breed soon...god what was that anime where japs are a rarity and sought to be a collectible item....i think it was desert punk LOL
Don't you think the unrealistic expectations from the women are what partly responsible for turning men into otaku that prefer 2D over 3D? lol
Who would want female partner that would suck all the money from your wallet, and STILL complain you don't make enough money for THEM to spend? XD
isn't that every wife? succubus!!
rabble! rabble rabble rabble!
In case you didn't read, women are becoming much more independent and proficient in getting their own income.
Wait! This only applies to Japanese women over the age of 16 right?! RIGHT?!
your loli's are safe!!
hahahahahahha bolt thats funny. lolis are safe for now they are.
:3
I guess there's no problem with women wanting more time to themselves. As long as they record it and are kind enough to share it with the rest of us.
considering "quality" od Japanese males - not suprising at all
“I rented a hotel suite and spent the night there all by myself, drinking wine in a bubble bath and reading a magazine,” said a 30-year-old woman. “Very elegant, don’t you think?”
no not so much very stupid if ya ask me.
Neets and otaku make more sense than that (course i fit the description for a japanese otaku quite well seeing as all the money i make goes to anime games and computer stuff and am living in my parents "basement") but still this is just fubar man. Hmm maybe japan will have to make a woman hunting festival. I'd join, A little government enforced fun.
And yeah their expectations do see more than a little insane ad my friends think i'm deluded by anime just because i believe in love and knowledg of science that pretty much sounds like it just came from an anime. At least looks and money don't matter to me (as much) also this begs the query coyuld this be why they approve of teachers activities to try and make a generation of screed up chicks or if hentai is to be belived sex crazed cum dumpster lolis.
And how is it stupid? They're enjoying themselves, and doing so without the need to look pathetic drooling over a 2D fictional character. They're more well-adjusted than you guys.
She wants the guy she marries to make $100,000 a year and she says she's desperate? For what, money? If that's the case, get a job. She has a ways to go to be desperate for a man.
Just straight up being alone? Like not even wanting to hang out with other women? I think this does more to encourage anti-social behaviour than it does for women's lib. Take it any further and they won't be any different than the anti-social otakus they scorn so much.
Expectations from women in Japan (or in Asia in general) are a bit different than in western societies; yes even now, so it's no wonder they rather spend time by themselves.
Talking from a society were women can't even fart in peace, I also rather spend time by myself than playing a stereotype for some pretentious sexist bastard.
LOL! True that! I'm still trying to get over the inferiority complex that society put over me.
I've personally never had any complexes about me being female; gender has always been second to personality and ability to me.
Lucky! >.~ Gender has hindered me so much in life.
Your still in high school and made it into MIT. What has gender inequality done to you?
an inferiority complex is usually something you force upon yourself, rather than something that society puts over you. or, more accurately, something you don't force yourself enough not to have.
in this day and age, there are numerous reasons why a male would have inferiority complexes towards females, and this doesn't look like it will improve any time soon. in the end, it becomes a showstopper for both sexes.
my personal solution to this is actually a simple, but maybe very much unrealistic one: men and women should both finally give up their traditional role models and make an effort to approach the "other" world. it's a complicated process, that must start from early life on, and much of the responsibility lies in mothers, fathers, siblings, teachers, politicians, religious leaders, actually, pretty much any one with an influence.
if gender borders can be broken down, there is no reason to develop any inferiority complex because of it. or experience disadvantages.
btw, i read the profile on your blog. seems like your inferiority complex was no reason to keep you from becoming a major go-getter at such a loli (sic!) age. what are you studying at mit?
You're welcome to come to the US and fart in public and see how people react to you. While I"m not disagreeing with you I just simply think you are jaded with the "grass is greener" attitude.
lol
women prefer Raito type of guy so we are sooooooo screw
Psycho massmurders with an autocratic nature and a god complex?
no no no, they want a mix of him and lelouch, someone who can take a chip and eat it with enough flowery hand motions to make them orgasm in delight
Personally, I like going out with my friends more. Money isn't sexy to me either; that's never been a huge factor for me in relationships.
But I find it hard to argue with Saber.
That's cool if you wanna do stuff by yourself. Less problems to deal with anyway (And more money to yourself!). :P
thats not a good news
I'm foreseeing Bishie Dakimakuras getting sold out in the future..
Why not?
They already sell battery-powered toys for the ladies.
Well what do you know, it appears Japanese men do to!
Hey hey population decline!
doom for sure, japan , otaku's sanctuary
Well when they all die out WE SHALL TAKE OVER. and truly make an otaku paradise ut of the ruins f old japan we shall make area 11 a land for otaku by otaku founded on the principles of 2d and loli love having sex with pillows and watching anime and playing games...... wait we'd just be the neo quakers damn. BUT SO BE it we'd get plenty of conscripts from arund the world.
YHHH. lets do that.
Yet another woman remarked that she had become quite “good at being alone” as though it was an acquired skill recently mastered.
HAH let's see you say that when theres a cockroach in the house
A cockroach? That's the best you can come up with to scare us girls? That's what hammers and boots are for, silly anon~
Cockroach are tasty.
how about a mutated radioactive cockroach as large as your kitchen that glows in the dark? :P
or... a snake nest under your bed? aw damn no, that won't work. everyone knows men are afraid of snakes.
>everyone knows men are afraid of snakes.
Perhaps I am feeling the effects of a late night, but is this some kind of phallic indicator, or do you seriously think most guys are scared of snakes?
when i read this article now i know why japanese guy now invented so many thing like tenga and dutch wife...
now they are in new stage...
creating android dutch wife...
Girls who enjoy or want quiet company?
Any way I look at it, I can only stand to gain here.
Pretty soon they'll be seeking out the company of fellow females over males. Then-... *brb... off to somewhere*
People suck and "coupling"(relationships) is over rated.
There are more solitary men contented with there 2D waifu's and Saber and Rin there are just hawt!
"...and that's the reason for the creation of the first real, functional Chobits.", the professor ended his explanation.
"You know now, why a _real_ relationship between a flesh-borne male and female is rarer today than an albino in Africa. Most parents prefer to _buy_ or _construct_ their children's companions, rather than let them look for themselves.
"Ok, class dismissed. Don't forget to be at the net class, tomorrow, by the same GMT time."
I can foresee this scenario in 5 or 10 years...
sounds very nice to me ^^
especialy the chobits part ^_O
it was a really good lesson sensei R.
Soo all hese comments have me thinking Armitage anyone. The answer is Thirds.
yeah, if a woman is alone, she is called a buisness woman.
if a man is alone, he is called an otaku...
we've seen some otaku father goin on a trip with his dutch daughter, or going to the pool with nanoha fate hayate vita etc, or inside the train. so not all otaku are alone :D
so if the man is alone, he's just single,
but isn't it dangerous for a woman to live alone all the time?I mean there plenty of rape stories around here with similar scenario(spider-man anyone?)
Japan is just about the safest place to be a woman in the world.
like how the police will get you just by greeting some girl or eat in fast food restaurant with your own daughter?
dunno about the real things there, watched n read way too many h n doujins that actually brainwashed me to think that japan's dangerous for women.
The problem with this is that solo women- especially Japanese women- are NOT customers you want. They eat whatever they ordered and then sit and do fuck-all for an hour or more, like read a book or type emails or do their taxes. In comparison to men who get in, eat, and leave, making room for the next customer.
tldr;; solo women are parasites to shop owners.
Isn't this a good reason to encourage more of those singles to rent hotel rooms? They get a nice atmosphere and can eat whatever fancy meals the room service brings them.
BHA!!! Who seeks solitude will get only solitude.
I will laugh a lot when they will feel so ronery.
Sounds like they are starting to do things that the "liberated" Western women do. Good for them.
So, this will be like Vexille where all the Japanese people are just robots? I vote that when the Japanese disappear, we loot and plunder their 1/6th scale PVC figures.
Time to start translating and handing out copies of Steve Harvey's Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man...
Wonderful. I had no idea that so many stupid women were influenced by shitty shoujo manga.
Is it possible that this course of action was spurred by centuries of female oppression? Although there are certainly other factors, I think its a significant portion of the reason.
women should stay on the kitchen.
T'was about time for you bitches, to learn how it feel to spend money from your own pocket!!!
But again, the bitches prefer to spend their moneys only on them selves, no way they're gonna spend one dime in some guy's happiness. Well, screw them!! We all know a guy can survive without 3D females, damn right he can! hahaha!! But I wonder if females can survive without men and not feel miserably lonely??..
How we do it? We're all a bunch of horny bastards, period. That's the secret of our happiness. We can fap to a fuckin 2D poster for a hundred years, and be happy, so you can imagine the amount of FAPPINESS inside any men. So if the bitches don't want some of that, go get drowned in a bathtub while drinking wine.
Meanwhile I'll be fappin till death and scoring ANY chick available, for men when it's about FAPPINESS/FUCKINESS money doesn't matter, learn something bitches.
One 25-year-old office worker summed up the issue in a nutshell. “I have a boyfriend, but to be honest, it’s more fun without him.”
^true that. my friends spite me for doing recreational activities alone. t'was why i ditched them. although, it gets ronery sometimes.
i guess i'm also guilty of having high expectations. i always fall for light/lelouch type bishies and end up being wound into endless mindgames.(still am X_X)
some of the male otakus(mostly college seniors) i do know are too creepy. although i've tried to get to know them better, all i've gotten are several attempts at rape.(i only accidentally lost some of his loli animu archive dvds)*cries*
Hmm,
#1 Friends you at one point ditch cause you don't
like them for certain reasons...Check!
#2 Could get a decent (or not) Boyfriend/Bishie Hybrid....Check!
#3 Have Nerds atract,oh sorry I mean..'O.T.A.K.U.S.'attracted
to you,bonus points(not really)for creepieness....Check!
#4 You being nearly raped(shouldn't report that?)
a couple,yikes! I mean....Check!
You sound like a very unlucky girl (that or very girly man)in a anime,you really do,
it's scary at just how much.
Sorry for the typo I meant,'Shouldn't you Report
that?'
then men needs more 2D xD
"Male commentators have been quick to point out that the expectations of many Japanese women seem increasingly unrealistic and out of touch with what is attainable to them; although some may prefer being single, surveys still reveal the majority harbor ambitions of marriage and children."
Same thing goes with some males who is looking for the perfect girl like the ones they see in the media namely anime and games XD
Ronery Japan is ronery
“I have a boyfriend, but to be honest, it’s more fun without him.”
OTL
I think she wanted to say: “I have a boyfriend, but to be honest, it’s more fun if i had a girlfriend”
Women. Enjoy your zucchinis because that'll be all that you'll get!
I bet these are the same women that insult otaku for spending too much time alone.
Ok lets raid japan and show them the way of love
good idea. :D
"Ueno states that Japanese women are more confident of their social skills and are less afraid to venture into places without a companion."
Japan must be a very safe place for women then. That's probably why Agnes Chan's still alive...
That could be very argued with,though lets not silently scream at each other and somehow
create a war over it,that would be a bad idea.
P.S. Sorry If I may of sounded mean,not my intention.
Seriously,who come up with this stuff,does this
website make it up?
(It will be true if the site deletes this comment)
Don't japanese women scare japanese men? I mean they have went so far as to make porn games that interactive......
*cough*Love Plus*cough*
OK... I can understand going to the Restaurant or the Cinema by yourself, but Karaoke?
I don't know, the prospect of singing by yourself just seems unbearably Lonely somehow, and that's coming from a Male perspective.
Considering the fact that women feel a greater need for socialization than men, and this Picture allofasudden just seems incredibly Sabishii :(
Judging from the replies of the people in this site, I'd say women preferring to be alone are making a wise decision.